superblytrife
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I have friends....just not anywhere close to where I live. The only time I kick it with anyone else besides my wife, kids and other family is when I visit back home. Sucks.
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Originally Posted by Hyper
I have 2 people that live w/ me.
Outside of them, everybody else can go %+%@ themselves.
That friend word is thrown around way too loosely.
Originally Posted by d e beatup
Originally Posted by Hyper
I have 2 people that live w/ me.
Outside of them, everybody else can go %+%@ themselves.
That friend word is thrown around way too loosely.
Can't stress this enough. Being cool with somebody doesn't make them my "friend". The reason I don't have friends is because I set the bar high for myself and expect the same thing in return. Like if my boy calls me at 3am cause he's on the side of the road w/ his car broken down, I'm there. If my friend needs to borrow $200 to pay a bill, if I got it, I got you. If you need to crash at my crib for a few weeks and you got no job. no money, just clean up after yourself and you're good.
One of the worst feelings in the world is thinking that someone who is supposed to be your friend actually lets you down or hangs you out to dry. At my last employer we had a shady district manager who just went about his business in a really slimy, underhanded way. He'd get rid of managers left & right and would know he was canning them a month in advance but still act like he was so pleased to be around us. Two of my fellow managers who i thought were like close, close friends knew he was up to funny business with me and didn't say a peep. I didn't even need them to tell me everything that was going on, just lmk that "Hey bro, watch your back" or something. I'd rather be solo dolo than to falsely think I can trust somebody when times get tough.
I almost feel that finding good friends is like finding a mate/spouse; it just has to happen & you can't force it. Gotta wait for "the one" (or w/ good friends "the ones I suppose) or else you set yourself up for failure. I got enought "patnas" or "homies" I can kick it w/ a work, etc. but I value friendship too heavily to get okie doked again.
Originally Posted by d e beatup
Originally Posted by Hyper
I have 2 people that live w/ me.
Outside of them, everybody else can go %+%@ themselves.
That friend word is thrown around way too loosely.
Can't stress this enough. Being cool with somebody doesn't make them my "friend". The reason I don't have friends is because I set the bar high for myself and expect the same thing in return. Like if my boy calls me at 3am cause he's on the side of the road w/ his car broken down, I'm there. If my friend needs to borrow $200 to pay a bill, if I got it, I got you. If you need to crash at my crib for a few weeks and you got no job. no money, just clean up after yourself and you're good.
One of the worst feelings in the world is thinking that someone who is supposed to be your friend actually lets you down or hangs you out to dry. At my last employer we had a shady district manager who just went about his business in a really slimy, underhanded way. He'd get rid of managers left & right and would know he was canning them a month in advance but still act like he was so pleased to be around us. Two of my fellow managers who i thought were like close, close friends knew he was up to funny business with me and didn't say a peep. I didn't even need them to tell me everything that was going on, just lmk that "Hey bro, watch your back" or something. I'd rather be solo dolo than to falsely think I can trust somebody when times get tough.
I almost feel that finding good friends is like finding a mate/spouse; it just has to happen & you can't force it. Gotta wait for "the one" (or w/ good friends "the ones I suppose) or else you set yourself up for failure. I got enought "patnas" or "homies" I can kick it w/ a work, etc. but I value friendship too heavily to get okie doked again.
Originally Posted by Hyper
I have 2 people that live w/ me.
Outside of them, everybody else can go %+%@ themselves.
That friend word is thrown around way too loosely.
I had a lot friends different types of people in different circles. We grew apart and just stopped talking. Once you get older you will realize a lot people are scumbags, leeches, selfish individuals that don't have your best interest at heart. I don' just let anyone into my life anymore because of those reasons. Plus I can get to know someone at party or at work and I'll hang out with them if they want but will just look at them as acquaintances. I don't need more friends because the few I have from childhood know me very well. Plus I am a very guarded person and don't open up to people about my personal life. I have my friends and my siblings that I am very close to and that's enough for me. Where ever I am in life I know these people will be there for me just like I will be for them and I can't say that about everyone else I meet.Originally Posted by Levar Burton
I wish I had the ability to stay true to this logic, but I'm a very loyal person. Once I allow you in my life it's hard to shut out someone emotionally.Originally Posted by xilegacy
I have 3 friends 2 of them I knew since childhood and the other since high school. Everyone else is just people I meet.
Originally Posted by RaWeX05
You got a friend in me.
Originally Posted by xilegacy
I had a lot friends different types of people in different circles. We grew apart and just stopped talking. Once you get older you will realize a lot people are scumbags, leeches, selfish individuals that don't have your best interest at heart. I don' just let anyone into my life anymore because of those reasons. Plus I can get to know someone at party or at work and I'll hang out with them if they want but will just look at them as acquaintances. I don't need more friends because the few I have from childhood know me very well. Plus I am a very guarded person and don't open up to people about my personal life. I have my friends and my siblings that I am very close to and that's enough for me. Where ever I am in life I know these people will be there for me just like I will be for them and I can't say that about everyone else I meet.Originally Posted by Levar Burton
I wish I had the ability to stay true to this logic, but I'm a very loyal person. Once I allow you in my life it's hard to shut out someone emotionally.Originally Posted by xilegacy
I have 3 friends 2 of them I knew since childhood and the other since high school. Everyone else is just people I meet.
Originally Posted by JaySNEAKS
I cut off everyone I used to associate with, wont even call them "friends"..
It was more like a crowd of negative, munipulative, sheisty, attention seeking, deceitful, liars.. the dudes & females. I realized this about 2 months back & none of them have heard from me since. Best decision I've ever made yo.. I've changed my lifestyle picked up new hobbies and am now focused and going after all my goals, doing everything the way it should be done and have truly grown + matured out of my old ways.. sometimes you've gotta just make you're next move you're best move.
Only surround yourself in positive uplifting people, who'd wanna see you prosper in whatever you do and acheive you're goals in life.. I used to be around nothing but snakes so I'm grateful for the reality check.
Don't dwell on !!%* bro, its unhealthy.. Thank god you're actually doing something w/ yourself because trying to keep so called "friends" can also hold you back.
Originally Posted by DeadsetAce
This thread is depressing. Not cause some people may not have friends, thats not that crazy to me. But its depressing because some go through life with the view that they cant trust anyone outside of famiy (which is 100% bs btw).
Originally Posted by Frank 7he T4nk
This thread is depressing...
Makes me really grateful to have a few great friends in my life.