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Alright ya'll, would appreciate some advice:
-Me and this girl that have been "dating" for about 5 months were at the beach this past weekend. She brings her dog with her.
-There are some other dogs at the beach. And her dog starts playing with another dog who was by itself (we didn't see the owner at all for the whole day) The dogs were having an amazing time, everything was great.
-This was huge for her because her dog isn't the most social around other dogs. So she was happy to see her dog interacting with another all day.
- Later in the day, the owner, comes to grab his dog. This is why I'm making this thread......Homegirl gives him her number and suggests that they have a dog meet up for their dogs to play sometime. This happens in front of me.
-This was an immediate red flag for me and I told her we need to talk about this. Planning on addressing it in length tomorrow.
-Ultimately, I've decided I'm going to cut her off and end it. I don't tolerate that and out of self respect, I'm done with you if you give your number out to a stranger. K Camped. Period.
-As I'm about to end this, my other female friend who I consulted said that I'm overreacting and mixing up her love for her dog with violating trust and respect..
NT- how would you handle this situation? Am I overreacting or am I right?
Some other notes:
-We been smashing for 5 months but I haven't asked her to be my GF yet. However, she has introduced me to her friends and coworkers as her "boyfriend" to which I stayed silent.
I think as of right now, we are both attracted and invested in each other, but she definitely is pushing for commitment more than I am.
-She has been pretty flexible with me. I had girls visit from out of town, who booked their flights way before I met her, who ended staying with me. She was furious about it, but I rationalized with her and she was able to live with it. Yes I slipped up and cheated but this was EARLY (1 month in the relationship, still getting to know each other.) Point is, she is able to be flexible.
-She is a bit more of a "free spirit" than the type I usually date. Not promiscuous, but more so lives her life the way she wants to live it. No indication that she would cheat or has ever cheated, but who knows. She also has a storied past, dealt without a lot of pain and drama (not her fault,) but also had periods where she had drug problems.
-Me and this girl that have been "dating" for about 5 months were at the beach this past weekend. She brings her dog with her.
-There are some other dogs at the beach. And her dog starts playing with another dog who was by itself (we didn't see the owner at all for the whole day) The dogs were having an amazing time, everything was great.
-This was huge for her because her dog isn't the most social around other dogs. So she was happy to see her dog interacting with another all day.
- Later in the day, the owner, comes to grab his dog. This is why I'm making this thread......Homegirl gives him her number and suggests that they have a dog meet up for their dogs to play sometime. This happens in front of me.
-This was an immediate red flag for me and I told her we need to talk about this. Planning on addressing it in length tomorrow.
-Ultimately, I've decided I'm going to cut her off and end it. I don't tolerate that and out of self respect, I'm done with you if you give your number out to a stranger. K Camped. Period.
-As I'm about to end this, my other female friend who I consulted said that I'm overreacting and mixing up her love for her dog with violating trust and respect..
NT- how would you handle this situation? Am I overreacting or am I right?
Some other notes:
-We been smashing for 5 months but I haven't asked her to be my GF yet. However, she has introduced me to her friends and coworkers as her "boyfriend" to which I stayed silent.
I think as of right now, we are both attracted and invested in each other, but she definitely is pushing for commitment more than I am.
-She has been pretty flexible with me. I had girls visit from out of town, who booked their flights way before I met her, who ended staying with me. She was furious about it, but I rationalized with her and she was able to live with it. Yes I slipped up and cheated but this was EARLY (1 month in the relationship, still getting to know each other.) Point is, she is able to be flexible.
-She is a bit more of a "free spirit" than the type I usually date. Not promiscuous, but more so lives her life the way she wants to live it. No indication that she would cheat or has ever cheated, but who knows. She also has a storied past, dealt without a lot of pain and drama (not her fault,) but also had periods where she had drug problems.
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