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I have never been a guy that shares about his troubles or personal life but right now i need advice and support more than ever. I am 20 years old and home from school on winter break. Late last night a message was left on my answering machine, My mother played the message first thing in the morning and my younger brother (freshman in high school) who was within earshot heard a man who remained anonymous explaining that my father has been having an affair with a women. My brother had a wrestling meet in the morning and my mother had work until about 3 in the afternoon. I had yet to hear the message...
When my mom came home i knew something was up, and thats when i heard about the message left. My mom called the number and the man confirmed the same story on the voice mail but would not release his name. Now my father and i have never had a great relationship but we managed. He has been an alcoholic my entire life and was mentally and physically abusive at times. So i was comforting my mom all day until my father woke up around 7 pm (He works midnight shift). My mom requested that i go upstairs and let her confront him alone. I stayed upstairs but within earshot. after i came down i was so close to beating the living $#!) out of that man. He basically said she was just a person he could drink with (she is apparently and alcoholic also).
my father has been hiding this from my mom for 2 years, hiding it by claiming he was with friends or doing business after work. He said he was going to change and i explained how much damage he has done to the family.
At this point i am trying to support my mother as much as possible but am very worried because i will be leaving for school in about 2 weeks. I doubt my parents will stay together after this. I guess im posting this because i dont really know who to vent to and was curious if anyone else has had an experience like this and what are the steps from here
When my mom came home i knew something was up, and thats when i heard about the message left. My mom called the number and the man confirmed the same story on the voice mail but would not release his name. Now my father and i have never had a great relationship but we managed. He has been an alcoholic my entire life and was mentally and physically abusive at times. So i was comforting my mom all day until my father woke up around 7 pm (He works midnight shift). My mom requested that i go upstairs and let her confront him alone. I stayed upstairs but within earshot. after i came down i was so close to beating the living $#!) out of that man. He basically said she was just a person he could drink with (she is apparently and alcoholic also).
my father has been hiding this from my mom for 2 years, hiding it by claiming he was with friends or doing business after work. He said he was going to change and i explained how much damage he has done to the family.
At this point i am trying to support my mother as much as possible but am very worried because i will be leaving for school in about 2 weeks. I doubt my parents will stay together after this. I guess im posting this because i dont really know who to vent to and was curious if anyone else has had an experience like this and what are the steps from here