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I went into my local Barnes & Nobles yesterday and I was going through the "Men's Interest" section and I came across the usual...FHM, Details, Maxim, GQ, Men's Health,...etc. And most of them featured articles on how to get women, what women are looking for, how to change yourself to find the girl of your dreams....etc. Also what you get with these magazines and a crapload of useless factoids like how much beer does the average scot drink for the year and what not but I digress...
How much of our lives do we have to "micro-manage" so that we can get the reactions we want from our environment or more so the people we come into contact with? I feel like we spend so much time living a life that isn't actually our own but what pop culture deems is piff.
Why is it so important for some of us to OVER-curtail ourselves to what others expect of us? And when I say this I don't mean all curtailing to the self is bad...obviously we have to look and act a certain way at our workplace and in class but why for instance does it need to be men changing who they are on the inside to appease/front to someone who would never give them the time of the day if they were just being themselves: acting the way they normally do, dressing the way that makes them feel comfortable...
Alot of the time I feel that on one side you only have one life to live so if your gonna stunt you might as well stunt hard...but on the other it's like you don't really like any of this nonsense and you'd rather do something you find/feel is worthwhile...the latter of which i've been going towards for the past 5 years...maybe it's a sign of maturity. BUT theirs always the allure of the "shiny/expensive" club always calling your name in this era.
And this also goes for women as well vice versa.
I realize how much of an impact that magazines, t.v., music, billboards, posters and what have you really determine for us what we need to be changing for ourselves instead of us feeling what we WANT to do/change about ourselves.
Instead of trying to fix all of what some might consider "flaws" which never really get fixed just suppressed...why not just micro-manage what we need to when we need to instead of a 24/7 thing? Why don't we just flow and live in the moment right now instead of worrying about copping this or that, something which we really never wanted nor needed but would give you the pleasure of having the homies/girls doing double takes on the whip you just bought, or the kicks you know where fugly as hell but they were quantum-strike so something told you you had to get them...
This like all my threads might only be referring to a small population for all I know...but I think this is something of importance to talk about
Alot of heads speak of these things as just being part of the "game" but what part of the game is it when you can't be 100% yourself?
Maybe it's an evolutionary adaptation where we need to seek out certain changes to keep up with the pack and elicit the types of responses we look for in others...
How much of our lives do we have to "micro-manage" so that we can get the reactions we want from our environment or more so the people we come into contact with? I feel like we spend so much time living a life that isn't actually our own but what pop culture deems is piff.
Why is it so important for some of us to OVER-curtail ourselves to what others expect of us? And when I say this I don't mean all curtailing to the self is bad...obviously we have to look and act a certain way at our workplace and in class but why for instance does it need to be men changing who they are on the inside to appease/front to someone who would never give them the time of the day if they were just being themselves: acting the way they normally do, dressing the way that makes them feel comfortable...
Alot of the time I feel that on one side you only have one life to live so if your gonna stunt you might as well stunt hard...but on the other it's like you don't really like any of this nonsense and you'd rather do something you find/feel is worthwhile...the latter of which i've been going towards for the past 5 years...maybe it's a sign of maturity. BUT theirs always the allure of the "shiny/expensive" club always calling your name in this era.
And this also goes for women as well vice versa.
I realize how much of an impact that magazines, t.v., music, billboards, posters and what have you really determine for us what we need to be changing for ourselves instead of us feeling what we WANT to do/change about ourselves.
Instead of trying to fix all of what some might consider "flaws" which never really get fixed just suppressed...why not just micro-manage what we need to when we need to instead of a 24/7 thing? Why don't we just flow and live in the moment right now instead of worrying about copping this or that, something which we really never wanted nor needed but would give you the pleasure of having the homies/girls doing double takes on the whip you just bought, or the kicks you know where fugly as hell but they were quantum-strike so something told you you had to get them...
This like all my threads might only be referring to a small population for all I know...but I think this is something of importance to talk about
Alot of heads speak of these things as just being part of the "game" but what part of the game is it when you can't be 100% yourself?
Maybe it's an evolutionary adaptation where we need to seek out certain changes to keep up with the pack and elicit the types of responses we look for in others...