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Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Did you grow up with a father?
Yes i did, my parents weren't married but he was apart of my life. My things is this seeing i had a father, i overstand how hard esp in that time, when there was no fathers' rights outside of marrying the mother(at least from a legal standpoint). So ive seen and heard both sides. To the ppl who only heard one-side your view depiction of a deadbeat father is misguided, and miscued.
Especially This.Originally Posted by iBlink
My dad wasn't around and I turned out fine. But I'm definitely gonna be there in my son's, or daughter's (God forbid), life.
So True. I have a son. I love my son. His moms makes my life hell. I understand why some men choose to leave and keep away. I refuse to do this, Cant see it happening. But i do have a better understanding now as to why most fathers decide to abandon their responsibilities. It can be too much at times. Def time to man up, if you do not have a child, dont have one, until you KNOW your ready for it. Ps. ive smashed hundreds of women, litterally. Maybe just about 200 but still thats hundreds lol.. Thats stopped big time. Them games are childs play, its time to man upOriginally Posted by LDJ
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Originally Posted by Koudie From BroOklyn
So True. I have a son. I love my son. His moms makes my life hell. I understand why some men choose to leave and keep away. I refuse to do this, Cant see it happening. But i do have a better understanding now as to why most fathers decide to abandon their responsibilities. It can be too much at times. Def time to man up, if you do not have a child, dont have one, until you KNOW your ready for it. Ps. ive smashed hundreds of women, litterally. Maybe just about 200 but still thats hundreds lol.. Thats stopped big time. Them games are childs play, its time to man upOriginally Posted by LDJ
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Originally Posted by YungSatellite
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
YungSatellite wrote:
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Yes i did, my parents weren't married but he was apart of my life. My things is this seeing i had a father, i overstand how hard esp in that time, when there was no fathers' rights outside of marrying the mother(at least from a legal standpoint). So ive seen and heard both sides. To the ppl who only heard one-side your view depiction of a deadbeat father is misguided, and miscued.
THAN YOU CAN NEVER OVERSTAND MY POSITION....
I don't care how much you try to rationalize or make logic of it
You had a consistent male figure there to teach you, guide you
My moms did a helluva job with 3 boys, 1 who has Autism
but there were thing she COULDN'T teach me cuz she wasn't a man
At the end of day you wanna say more than likely people moms moms were basically JO's ? right
My pop straight denied me in my face when I no more than 10
Never attempted to reach out me since
$@$@$ signed my birth certificate
Told me I wasn't his son And he didn't love me
You can never understand that kind of effect that has on a childs mind
MY POPS WAS A DEADBEAT
If a man was really about seeing their offspring they would ANYTHING in their power to see them point blank period
any man that truly loves his child wouldn't give on up see them...
While it is true alot dudes fathers may have been locked up..that doesn't ring true for every situation
Neither is " your moms was a JO "
Every situation and reason is diffrent
/rant
First i feel you thats why i said some situations not all. For all you know, since you wasnt there, your mom coulda been the biggest jumpoff in the town. See your viewing things as society, and how the world law is today, and using that to examine something that happened in the past.
So lets take this situation, and try to be unbias. You are a male, you meet a woman, you guys date, you discover she sleeping around with every joe blow on the block, she gets pregnant and says you the daddy. Remember now you cant go use dna etc. Thats prevelant in todays society not then.
Then on top of that she is a itch to you, but yet says ok i know imma hoar, i treat you like dirt, and no way to prove you are the daddy, but for the kids sake(which maybe not is yours) marry me take care of me.
Lets say you say no, and try to get your rights thru court, oops wait a minute, that can be done in this time, fathers rights wasnt around then so you couldnt get visitation, joint custody then.
So i ask you this you got a woman that claims your the father, noway to prove it, no way to legally be apart of the kids life, outside of marrying the woman, who is a known jumpoff and treats you like $!!. You say you would go ahead and do it. but untill you are in those actual shoes, its all talk.
Anyone can say what they will/wont do. but when *** gets to grass, lets see what you will/wont you do then.
Again im not saying this is your particular situation. But if you really think, jumpoffs, promiscuity, baby momma drama etc.. Just started when maury came on air, you have a very inaccurate dipiction of life back then. Life wasnt how the brady bunch etc was. The same type of stuff thats going on today, happened back then.
Its just that now, from a legal standpoint, and the right amount of money etc, you can actually do something. Remember 72% of black males arent in they kids life. More then 20 of you said you wouldnt be a deadbeat dad. So by this logic, most of you guys about, 15 outta the 20 who said they are gonna be in they kids life, is lying and full of b.s.
I dont expect most of you to understand this, even though it is all proven with facts and statistics, cause once you been told something for so long(especially from someone near and dear as your moms), and only seen things one way, the chances of you being objective is slim to none. Its like if all your life you believed in god, even if there was unrefutable evidence god didnt exist, most ppl if they believed in him all they life, still would ignore the facts, and praise/believe in god.
THAN YOU CAN NEVER OVERSTAND MY POSITION....Originally Posted by soltheman
Originally Posted by YungSatellite
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Yes i did, my parents weren't married but he was apart of my life. My things is this seeing i had a father, i overstand how hard esp in that time, when there was no fathers' rights outside of marrying the mother(at least from a legal standpoint). So ive seen and heard both sides. To the ppl who only heard one-side your view depiction of a deadbeat father is misguided, and miscued.
Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Originally Posted by PraVokal
My pops was murdered when I was young.I can remember only little about him but they where all good memories.Im 21 now and I turned out great imo.I'd never do that.
THAN YOU CAN NEVER OVERSTAND MY POSITION....Originally Posted by YungSatellite
Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Yes i did, my parents weren't married but he was apart of my life. My things is this seeing i had a father, i overstand how hard esp in that time, when there was no fathers' rights outside of marrying the mother(at least from a legal standpoint). So ive seen and heard both sides. To the ppl who only heard one-side your view depiction of a deadbeat father is misguided, and miscued.
Originally Posted by LDJ
THAN YOU CAN NEVER OVERSTAND MY POSITION....Originally Posted by YungSatellite
Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Yes i did, my parents weren't married but he was apart of my life. My things is this seeing i had a father, i overstand how hard esp in that time, when there was no fathers' rights outside of marrying the mother(at least from a legal standpoint). So ive seen and heard both sides. To the ppl who only heard one-side your view depiction of a deadbeat father is misguided, and miscued.
I don't care how much you try to rationalize or make logic of it
You had a consistent male figure there to teach you, guide you
My moms did a helluva job with 3 boys, 1 who has Autism
but there were thing she COULDN'T teach me cuz she wasn't a man
At the end of day you wanna say more than likely people moms moms were basically JO's ? right
My pop straight denied me in my face when I no more than 10
Never attempted to reach out me since
$@$@$ signed my birth certificate
Told me I wasn't his son And he didn't love me
You can never understand that kind of effect that has on a childs mind
MY POPS WAS A DEADBEAT
If a man was really about seeing their offspring they would ANYTHING in their power to see them point blank period
any man that truly loves his child wouldn't give on up see them...
While it is true alot dudes fathers may have been locked up..that doesn't ring true for every situation
Neither is " your moms was a JO "
Every situation and reason is diffrent
/rant
DogOriginally Posted by YungSatellite
Originally Posted by LDJ
THAN YOU CAN NEVER OVERSTAND MY POSITION....Originally Posted by YungSatellite
Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
Did you grow up with a father?Originally Posted by LDJ
YungSatellite wrote:
LDJ wrote:
To everyone who didnt grow up with there father, i ask yall this what role do you think your mothers played in that decision. I mean esp in black community. 72% of men are not in their kids lives. Being realistic, i refuse to believe that 7 outta ten black men are trifling,heartless and refused to man up and be a dad. By yall reasoning most of you guys who saying yall gonna be apart of your kids life is lying.
Times and the judicial system, as well as fathers rights was waaaaaaaaaaaaay different then compared to now. Also family values/ having kids out of wedlock as well. I would delve deeper into this but i dont want to potentially offend ppl and there mothers. Remember 4 ways to a situation, her story,his story,the truth, and the person on the outside interpretation of the whole situation. Alot of you since growing up with just a mother only say the situation from one angle, thus your view and opinion is naturally one-sided and bias.
Yes i did, my parents weren't married but he was apart of my life. My things is this seeing i had a father, i overstand how hard esp in that time, when there was no fathers' rights outside of marrying the mother(at least from a legal standpoint). So ive seen and heard both sides. To the ppl who only heard one-side your view depiction of a deadbeat father is misguided, and miscued.
I don't care how much you try to rationalize or make logic of it
You had a consistent male figure there to teach you, guide you
My moms did a helluva job with 3 boys, 1 who has Autism
but there were thing she COULDN'T teach me cuz she wasn't a man
At the end of day you wanna say more than likely people moms moms were basically JO's ? right
My pop straight denied me in my face when I no more than 10
Never attempted to reach out me since
$@$@$ signed my birth certificate
Told me I wasn't his son And he didn't love me
You can never understand that kind of effect that has on a childs mind
MY POPS WAS A DEADBEAT
If a man was really about seeing their offspring they would ANYTHING in their power to see them point blank period
any man that truly loves his child wouldn't give on up see them...
While it is true alot dudes fathers may have been locked up..that doesn't ring true for every situation
Neither is " your moms was a JO "
Every situation and reason is diffrent
/rant
First i feel you thats why i said some situations not all. For all you know, since you wasnt there, your mom coulda been the biggest jumpoff in the town. See your viewing things as society, and how the world law is today, and using that to examine something that happened in the past.
So lets take this situation, and try to be unbias. You are a male, you meet a woman, you guys date, you discover she sleeping around with every joe blow on the block, she gets pregnant and says you the daddy. Remember now you cant go use dna etc. Thats prevelant in todays society not then.
Then on top of that she is a itch to you, but yet says ok i know imma hoar, i treat you like dirt, and no way to prove you are the daddy, but for the kids sake(which maybe not is yours) marry me take care of me.
Lets say you say no, and try to get your rights thru court, oops wait a minute, that can be done in this time, fathers rights wasnt around then so you couldnt get visitation, joint custody then.
So i ask you this you got a woman that claims your the father, noway to prove it, no way to legally be apart of the kids life, outside of marrying the woman, who is a known jumpoff and treats you like $!!. You say you would go ahead and do it. but untill you are in those actual shoes, its all talk.
Anyone can say what they will/wont do. but when *** gets to grass, lets see what you will/wont you do then.
Again im not saying this is your particular situation. But if you really think, jumpoffs, promiscuity, baby momma drama etc.. Just started when maury came on air, you have a very inaccurate dipiction of life back then. Life wasnt how the brady bunch etc was. The same type of stuff thats going on today, happened back then.
Its just that now, from a legal standpoint, and the right amount of money etc, you can actually do something. Remember 72% of black males arent in they kids life. More then 20 of you said you wouldnt be a deadbeat dad. So by this logic, most of you guys about, 15 outta the 20 who said they are gonna be in they kids life, is lying and full of b.s.
I dont expect most of you to understand this, even though it is all proven with facts and statistics, cause once you been told something for so long(especially from someone near and dear as your moms), and only seen things one way, the chances of you being objective is slim to none. Its like if all your life you believed in god, even if there was unrefutable evidence god didnt exist, most ppl if they believed in him all they life, still would ignore the facts, and praise/believe in god.