Am I wrong for still being annoyed about this?

Sound like my plug before the dispensary opened :lol: but naw you have every right to be annoyed.
 
Yeah that's how it be sometimes.

I thought this was with every friend group. Dudes will be talking about almost there getting ready to exit off and they haven't even left their house.

Probably playing video games or rubbing one out or something.

Live and learn Flatbush.
 
I've called out my friends for this over the years. You have a cell phone. Use it and communicate like a functioning adult. If you want to cancel plans, fine. Let me know, but don't just no-show, or keep putting it off. I don't even need a reason. Saves me a couple hours. Sounds like they showed up because they didn't actually want to be there, but felt obligated at a certain point to follow through. That's even worse.
 
I’m more upset they brought a toddler
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I'd be just as pissed as you though. I hate when folks are late man. Zero tolerance but what you went through was just wild. If I knew they were generally late folks, I would have needed more confirmation before I left MY house. So you are partially to blame as well. (No disrespect)
 
I've seen this thing happen twice: once for my then-best friend's birthday dinner and one for a gathering when I was still living with my parents.

For my then-best friend's birthday, most of us were already there except for 3 of our friends who didn't bother communicating back and showed up 1.5 hours later. We all ordered but they didn't serve the food until everybody arrived, so you can only imagine how frustrated my best friend was along with me and a few other folks. Food wasn't that good either, so that made it worse.

For the second scenario, we all agreed on 7pm to hang out at my place as my friends really wanted my mom's food that she's made for them in the past. Similar situation - barely any communication until one set of friends finally show up at 8pm and the other 2 showed up at 830pm. I definitely did not hide my emotions, so it was an awkward beginning.

I find it frustrating when there's no communication. I don't mind people being late, but out of common courtesy, can one just actually reach out and give a heads-up???

I low-key got heated as I typed out my stories. :lol:
 
I've seen this thing happen twice: once for my then-best friend's birthday dinner and one for a gathering when I was still living with my parents.

For my then-best friend's birthday, most of us were already there except for 3 of our friends who didn't bother communicating back and showed up 1.5 hours later. We all ordered but they didn't serve the food until everybody arrived, so you can only imagine how frustrated my best friend was along with me and a few other folks. Food wasn't that good either, so that made it worse.

For the second scenario, we all agreed on 7pm to hang out at my place as my friends really wanted my mom's food that she's made for them in the past. Similar situation - barely any communication until one set of friends finally show up at 8pm and the other 2 showed up at 830pm. I definitely did not hide my emotions, so it was an awkward beginning.

I find it frustrating when there's no communication. I don't mind people being late, but out of common courtesy, can one just actually reach out and give a heads-up???

I low-key got heated as I typed out my stories. :lol:

Honestly in situations like this any number of small choices at any point in time might have prevented an issue altogether.

A quick "yo xyz is going down I'm not gonna be on time" takes no time at all to send. I don't mind lateness in itself either because I'm not perfect and don't have a perfect attendance record for social situations

Sometimes it doesn't occur to people to keep other people apprised of a situation or delay even when you might expect them to.
 
Nah that's unacceptable. People have to respect your time.
 
You're friend is not your friend. Cease communication, I am being dead serious.
 
Sup y'all, just wanted to get some opinions about this. This happened on Saturday.

I'm house sitting for my folks. My folks live about a half hour from where me and my friends live.

There's this restaurant in that area that we really like, I decide it's time for lunch.

I call my friend (Friend 1) at 1130ish AM, like yo I'm in xyz area wanna slide to this spot for lunch?

He says hell yeah I can head out soon, mind if I pick up Friend 2(who lives in the same area as us)? I say cool bring whoever.

I don't expect them to be here immediately obviously but I assume relatively soon. Again it's only a half hour drive.

An hour ten minutes later, 1240 PM, I text Friend 1 "lmk when you're close". He says he's just now heading out and grabbing Friend 2.

So in that hour since my initial call they haven't left yet, but it's all good since he's heading out now. They should be here in half an hour or so. Cool.

35 more minutes pass, it's now 1:15 PM. I text Friend 1 and ask if I should go get the table since the restaurant is close to my folks place. No response.

I head to the spot and grab a table anyway since it can crowd up during the weekend. I'm just assuming they'll be around soon.

Now it's about 1:30, I'm at the restaurant and at the table. I call Friend 1, no response. Mind you this is nearly an hour after I was told they were heading out and it's only a half hour drive.

15 minutes later, 1:45PM, an hour after the "heading out" text, I'm getting annoyed but not furious or anything. I try to call Friend 2.

He picks up and tells me he's in the car with Friend 1, they just got done VOTING.

Voting son? Really? So y'all took an entire detour without informing me. Friend 2 tells me they're 10 minutes away for some reason. Ok whatever.

15 minutes later, 2PM, I get a text from Friend 2. On the way, ETA is a half hour, meaning 2:30, so they weren't actually ten minutes away 15 minutes ago.

At this point I've been sitting at the table like a jackass since 1:30. Now I'm actually tight.

Remember when I said I texted Friend 1 at 1:15 if I should get the table? He responds at 2:28 PM like yeah get the table we're 15 minutes out.

Negro I've been AT the table for an hour. And suddenly that 2:30 ETA was pushed out once again to 2:45.

When they get there at 2:45 I'm completely furious but I try to keep it cool because Friend 1 brought their toddler. They are obviously aware that I'm mad and they're like sorry we were late. I do my best to be civil and friendly but I cleary have an attitude.

At the end I guess Friend 1 was trying to make good because he suddenly picked up the entire check, which is cool but doesn't necessarily invalidate how I felt about the whole situation. Human emotions aren't transactional.

So I haven't really hit up or spoken to either of them since because I still feel weird about it. Friend 1 tried to call me yesterday but I ignored it.

Wondering if I'm an ******* for still feeling the way I do especially after the lunch was paid for. But it just felt wild disrespectful overall.

A basic "yo we're taking a detour to vote" text would have gone a LONG way at any point and would have taken like 8 seconds to send.

I had to call to get that information and didn't know they had even voted until after the fact.

TLDR: friends are a half hour away, I invite them to lunch, they take forever (literally 3 hours from the initial call and 2 hours from the "heading out" text) to actually come to the restaurant, and took a whole *** detour to do early voting without so much as a heads up. Still annoyed and haven't spoken to either since.
You have good character. Dont change it for charisma
 
Reminds me of one of my best friends. I used to call him and tell him I was outside when I was just leaving my house to adjust for how long he’d take to get ready.

It eventually got so bad one of our other friends sat him down and gave him a stern talking-to about how he needs to start respecting other people’s time. It actually worked :lol:
 
OP clearly not a patriot!

Votes before avacado toast B! Shout out to friend 1 and 2 for being good Americans 🇺🇸
 
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