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Like I said, I am single. I am not planning on getting into a serious relationship for a while. But, if I do get a man, I am not sure. Maybe at that point I will just be so overdone with showing cleavage and legs when going out at night or to parties and other events. Him and I we would have to talk about it. Some men mind and other men don't. Knowing I will end up marrying an Arab Muslim (he has to be liberal for my liking), deep down those traditional values come out and he'd most likely have a fit with me showing cleavage and lots of legs. I will deal with it when it happens.Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
It is acceptable in terms of it is of the culture of night life. Correct. I agree it is even considered expected.Originally Posted by Hazeleyed Honey
But, other events where you are going out enjoying the nightlife, parties, or other parties, how is showing legs and cleavage not acceptable? I consider it to be acceptable and even expected in most cases like this. I think that showing a modest amount of cleavage will usually not be considered slutty. At these occasions, looking glamourous, showing cleavage, as well as showing off legs, is often part of that look. The key to showing cleavage and staying in fashion without looking slutty is in the way you present and carry yourself. If there is in danger of a possible wardrobe malfunction, you are showing too much cleavage. I might show what is considered a lot of legs and cleavage at some of these occasions but I was nowhere near ever having a wardrobe malfunction and you can wear something like that and still be classy.
But that isn't my gripe.
YES, you can use the, "It depends on how you carry yourself" card but that isn't my focus. My focus is the root of it all. The appearance, the clothes, the attire. Not HOW someone wears it or how their body language is gauged while wearing it. This topic is simply about the clothing. The physical. But just because it is acceptable doesn't make it any less slutty. Hooters spilling everywhere. I don't care how you CARRY yourself, your hooters are still spilling, bouncing, glistening all over the place. That isn't something I should be forced to be cool with that my woman does for the sake of not appearing to be insecure and controlling.
You never answered my question as to what the "issue" of a man being protective (as you call it insecure/possessive) of his woman wearing those types of clothes.
Honey, if you had/have a man that wasn't a fan of you dressing like that for the reasons I mentioned (perception, bad representation, etc) how would you THINK you would handle it? Would you take his words into consideration or would you just say, "Imma do me." Keep in mind, this is a man you are in a relationship with.
I say it is the man being insecure and possessive because he is trying to control what his significant other wears. It relates back to his own insecurity because he thinks that a man getting at her for showing boobs or legs is a threat and that another man might be able to take her away from him. It is being possessive in the sense he thinks he owns her in every way and can control her even when it comes to petty things like what she wears. He does not want other men to even think about her sexually, regardless of the fact that if she was wearing too much clothes or not and the woman is attractive, men will desire her sexually anyways.