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I finally copped the engagement ring yesterday.
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godspeed my friend.
just kidding, congrats! When you gonna pop the ?
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Welcome to the gang fam - I proposed in October lol
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Thank you brother and congrats!
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Since today is a TBT of sorts, here is the ring I gave my now wife back when we get engaged in December of 2012.
1.1 carat diamond VS1 clarity H. Plus the small diamonds on the band. Picked it out myself without her and she loved the style and delicateness.
Finally got around to getting married in April of '18 and again on our true anniversary in December of the same year. 1st one was just us and our pastor at the church outside in the gazebo. The December ceremony was for us and our parents only in the little chapel inside the church.
We didn't need an elaborate setup since we had been together for 10 years on that day in December (from our 1st date). We had a wonderful dinner at this place that is the house of a French trained American chef. He and his wife have this amazing setup in their old farmhouse. About 20 seats throughout 3 rooms and the food is to die for! The chicken asparagus soup was incredible and I don't like asparagus (he emulsifies the veggies as he knows some have an apprehension to their texture). It was a fantastic dinner.
1.1 carat diamond VS1 clarity H. Plus the small diamonds on the band. Picked it out myself without her and she loved the style and delicateness.
Finally got around to getting married in April of '18 and again on our true anniversary in December of the same year. 1st one was just us and our pastor at the church outside in the gazebo. The December ceremony was for us and our parents only in the little chapel inside the church.
We didn't need an elaborate setup since we had been together for 10 years on that day in December (from our 1st date). We had a wonderful dinner at this place that is the house of a French trained American chef. He and his wife have this amazing setup in their old farmhouse. About 20 seats throughout 3 rooms and the food is to die for! The chicken asparagus soup was incredible and I don't like asparagus (he emulsifies the veggies as he knows some have an apprehension to their texture). It was a fantastic dinner.
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My wife and I just got married in April and I haven't proposed or gotten her ring. We live in DC and we came across a hell of a good deal on a home in DC that was too good to pass up. I'm vet and we were using the VA loan but as my GF or fiancee, the VA would require a downpayment from her to be on the loan. WE found out on a Tuesday and we got married the following Monday at the last court house (virginia) on the last day they were doing courthouse weddings before shuttering for COVID.
We didn't have ceremony and have decided we can have a small ceremony in our new home next Spring. At that time she will get her ring.
My plan was to propose last month but COVID had other plans. I even tried to buy her ring sooner but James Allen wasn't shipping at the time.
We didn't have ceremony and have decided we can have a small ceremony in our new home next Spring. At that time she will get her ring.
My plan was to propose last month but COVID had other plans. I even tried to buy her ring sooner but James Allen wasn't shipping at the time.
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i dunno if i said it somewhere else in here but we started our planning for a bigger venue with a caterer, music/slideshow, photographer etc. my in-laws and my parents started to inject too much input (the wedding kept getting bigger and more complicated) and one night my wife and i started to argue a little and i got frustrated. the reason was because this was OUR wedding and i was letting the influence of our families to negatively impact my relationship with my future wife and that’s stupid. i told my wife **** our families and everyone else and let’s do this thing OUR way. from that point everything was so much better. we got married on the beach in maui with just immediate family (8 others besides my wife and i - and our son). amazing dinner at the resort after that for all of us. spent the next few days eating and sightseeing. everyone paid their own plane fare. in-laws paid for the resort. my parents paid for the dinner. my wife and i paid for the rest. our fam also gave us money and some relatives also sent us money. we made great memories and didn’t even dent our savings.
married almost 6 years now and we own our condo, own our cars, pay out the *** for tuition with my second kid gonna enter some expensive daycare whenever covid dies down. financially in pretty good shape. we are super happy with the way we did things.
married almost 6 years now and we own our condo, own our cars, pay out the *** for tuition with my second kid gonna enter some expensive daycare whenever covid dies down. financially in pretty good shape. we are super happy with the way we did things.
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That was one part I liked about paying for everything - Neither of our parents had any input. I see some of my friends that planned weddings where their parents paid for everything and it just looked miserable. I don’t need them opining on everything we do, we are damn adults. Not gonna lie though it woulda been nice to have someone else cover the tab, but this is life.
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yeah our fams only offered to pay for the hotel and dinner after we set it up and were gonna pay ourselves. the in-laws whipped out the cc when we all arrived at the hotel together and my mom grabbed the check at dinner cause she wanted to pay for something lol. nobody could say **** that mattered because we made it clear that it was OUR wedding and they were the guests.
when we got back home, within the next day or so, my wife got to work on all the forms to change her name and my son’s name (it was hypenated when he was born). i didn’t even say a thing or ask. i said it didn’t matter to me but she said it mattered to her
when we got back home, within the next day or so, my wife got to work on all the forms to change her name and my son’s name (it was hypenated when he was born). i didn’t even say a thing or ask. i said it didn’t matter to me but she said it mattered to her
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My in-laws to be are paying for it - my parents are paying for rehearsal and welcome bonfire
They are dropping an absurd amount of money and are letting us plan the entire thing - they asked for a few small things that are completely reasonable like everything being filmed and getting multiple versions of that
They are dropping an absurd amount of money and are letting us plan the entire thing - they asked for a few small things that are completely reasonable like everything being filmed and getting multiple versions of that
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appreciate all the love on my engagement post
Were paying from the muscle but her parents just told us yesterday while looking at a venue that theyre probably going to hit us off with a couple grand which is a big help.
We found a venue about 1.5 hours away that we went and looked at. They have a package for 10k that includes everything. We loved the venue and the price is realistic for us. 66 people max, which I like because i prefer the small intimate setting.
Looking at getting married next august before she starts grad school at NYU
Were paying from the muscle but her parents just told us yesterday while looking at a venue that theyre probably going to hit us off with a couple grand which is a big help.
We found a venue about 1.5 hours away that we went and looked at. They have a package for 10k that includes everything. We loved the venue and the price is realistic for us. 66 people max, which I like because i prefer the small intimate setting.
Looking at getting married next august before she starts grad school at NYU
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godspeed my friend.
Lol
Idk yet brotha. It'll be real soon, still trying to figure out where/when
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One piece of advice - a wedding planner is worth it
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Quick update to my situation.
Nutshell: OG wedding was supposed to be 09/12. Canceled that and planned on doing a court ceremony when the offices open up.
Updated: The court thing was scrapped and we ended up getting married on 8/1 at one of our wealthy client's big *** house and had the event with 20 people altogether (the includes us, poster, and photographers.) I would post the video sample we got here but I'm too ugly.
Nutshell: OG wedding was supposed to be 09/12. Canceled that and planned on doing a court ceremony when the offices open up.
Updated: The court thing was scrapped and we ended up getting married on 8/1 at one of our wealthy client's big *** house and had the event with 20 people altogether (the includes us, poster, and photographers.) I would post the video sample we got here but I'm too ugly.
CrownRoyalDaddy
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How do yall feel about the woman hyphenating her last name or keeping her maiden name
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my fiance wants a hyphen i told her you aren't taking my name cause there's no hyphen in it.
i ultimately decided i don't care but my kids will have no hyphen in their name
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Nope.
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she can sign the pre-nup with that hyphen too then
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Wife is very well known in her career at her company and I didn't want her to have any headaches switching it, so she kept her maiden name and I pushed her to keep it. Doesn't bother me at all. It's a name. We aren't having kids, so nothing to worry about there. If there are those who have a problem with it, it's 2020. Things are different now.
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no cap
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Yeah professionally she is keeping her last name - kids will have mine
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It wouldn’t be a deal breaker but thankfully my fiancée plans on taking my name along with the kids.
I’d be fine with a hyphenated name since her dad only has daughters. I can respect that since I personally care more about passing my name to my kids than my wife.
I’d be fine with a hyphenated name since her dad only has daughters. I can respect that since I personally care more about passing my name to my kids than my wife.
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Other than, "That is how it has always been" I have no logical reason as to why a woman SHOULD take a man's last name.
The hyphenated name thing is dumb to me. It isn't a Law Firm
Pick a name and keep it moving.
