Good Parenting Appreciation

solarius49

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I dont have any kids, but i have such a strong appreciation for good parents.  I was adopted as a baby, never met any of my blood relatives, but i was blessed to be adopted by great parents.  My mom and dad raised me from day 1 like I was birthed from their own bodies, and when later in life they had their own biological son, nothing changed.  My mom worked as a special ed teacher, as well as holding down 2 other jobs, my father worked as director of safety for a construction company, and moonlighted as a real estate agent.  My parents worked SO hard to give me and my brother every opportunity.  Needless to say, as a teenager coming up in the late 90s and early 2000s, i didnt appreciate anything they did, but the love was always there.
In the winter of 2007, my mother was diagnosed with late states of ovarian cancer, the doctor told us that the cancer was probably accelerated by the stress of working 3 jobs.  I dont know %$$ i was thinking, but instead of being with her in the hospital, i was running the streets with this girlfriend i had at the time, instead of being there for the woman who had done everything for me throughout her life.

Now growing up, my father and I had never had a good relationship, it was loving, but we were never close.  When my mother passed in May 2008, he took it upon himself to go that extra mile to strengthen our relationship, and now, 4 years later, at 25 years old, all I can say is that I want to be just like him

i dont know what exactly inspired this, but I was thinking about my family and my family...do you guys have any stories you can share

sidenote: i almost shed a tear typing this
 
I am a firm believer of being a parent and not a friend to your child. And I don't think that children appreciate this until they get older and see what was done for them.


I hate the parents that want to be their child's best friend...my wife has a friend that took her 8th grade daughter to get her lip pierced. And when she graduates she is going to get her an arm sleeve tattoo...SMGDH.
 
Originally Posted by shaft

I am a firm believer of being a parent and not a friend to your child. And I don't think that children appreciate this until they get older and see what was done for them.


I hate the parents that want to be their child's best friend...my wife has a friend that took her 8th grade daughter to get her lip pierced. And when she graduates she is going to get her an arm sleeve tattoo...SMGDH.

QFT. I used to think my dad was the biggest D-Bag until I got a litle older, and I really grew to appreciate all the lessons he taught me.
 
Aww I cant wait to adopt.
Everyone should adopt.


My parents are the best, wouldnt trade them for the world.
Im a distant person with everyone except my parents.
I love them.
 
I love my parents and brother to death. Always there for me and caring for me. I've been dicked over so many times by so many different people but my family is always there for me.

Side Story: I was having a convo with my one female friend. She gets on my case on how I call my mom 4-5 times a week when I'm at school. Conversation went like this.

Girl: You call your mom way too much
Me:I love my mother to death. My parents are my best friends. I'll prolly call my mom at least once a week when I move out
Girl:I'm sure your wife would love that
Me: Then my wife can go #!%* herself. This is the women that brought me into this world and raised me. I'll be damned if my wife will be upset by me talking to my own mother.

Momma's boy
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solarius49 wrote:
Originally Posted by shaft

I am a firm believer of being a parent and not a friend to your child. And I don't think that children appreciate this until they get older and see what was done for them.


I hate the parents that want to be their child's best friend...my wife has a friend that took her 8th grade daughter to get her lip pierced. And when she graduates she is going to get her an arm sleeve tattoo...SMGDH.

QFT. I used to think my dad was the biggest D-Bag until I got a litle older, and I really grew to appreciate all the lessons he taught me.
I don't know, I kinda gotta disagree with that. I would love to have a parent I could talk to like a friend about just anything that's on my mind. You don't want to alienate your child thinking that you guys aren't their "friends" or can have each others back. I've felt that way several times. That 8th grader lip piercing and arm sleeve tattoo whatever is not good parenting, period, you can "reward" you child in other ways. You can have that friendship stuff with your child but that doesn't mean you have to be so willing to do what they want, you have to have restrictions. Usually the kids that tend to rebel, or want to cause trouble are the ones you cannot be friends with because they need more restrictions.

I wish my parents were a little tougher on me. I wish my parents would have motivated me more. I wish they were in my life more like I have seen some with some of my friends. They spent too much time working and providing this baller ##* lifestyle I live today. 
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That's why I feel the reason to put in the time to be involved in my child(s) life/lives and not just provide their wants and needs. With that being said, I have always appreciated my parents and what they do for me.
 
i think my parents did a good job with me. at the time i thought my mom was strict, but looking back on it, it wasn't bad at all.
 
Originally Posted by solarius49

Originally Posted by shaft

I am a firm believer of being a parent and not a friend to your child. And I don't think that children appreciate this until they get older and see what was done for them.


I hate the parents that want to be their child's best friend...my wife has a friend that took her 8th grade daughter to get her lip pierced. And when she graduates she is going to get her an arm sleeve tattoo...SMGDH.

QFT. I used to think my dad was the biggest D-Bag until I got a litle older, and I really grew to appreciate all the lessons he taught me.
So one of the prerequesites to being a "good" parent is that you have to be against piercings and tattoos?
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Originally Posted by HAM CITY

Originally Posted by solarius49

Originally Posted by shaft

I am a firm believer of being a parent and not a friend to your child. And I don't think that children appreciate this until they get older and see what was done for them.


I hate the parents that want to be their child's best friend...my wife has a friend that took her 8th grade daughter to get her lip pierced. And when she graduates she is going to get her an arm sleeve tattoo...SMGDH.

QFT. I used to think my dad was the biggest D-Bag until I got a litle older, and I really grew to appreciate all the lessons he taught me.
So one of the prerequesites to being a "good" parent is that you have to be against piercings and tattoos?
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 naw, not at all. me and my brother have plenty of tats...but an 8th grader though? you GOTTA draw a line somewhere
 
Man both my parents are ALWAYS there when I need them. Words can't explain how much I love them both.
 
Kind of jelly

My parents did the best they could.

Can't wait to be a parent someday.
 
Originally Posted by solarius49

Originally Posted by HAM CITY

Originally Posted by solarius49


QFT. I used to think my dad was the biggest D-Bag until I got a litle older, and I really grew to appreciate all the lessons he taught me.
So one of the prerequesites to being a "good" parent is that you have to be against piercings and tattoos?
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 naw, not at all. me and my brother have plenty of tats...but an 8th grader though? you GOTTA draw a line somewhere
I think the line should be drawn at infants getting their ears pierced but what do I know society says that one's okay
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point is a parent isn't good or bad because they don't choose to follow societies norms. How old is fourteen really?
 
Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

Aww I cant wait to adopt.
Everyone should adopt.


My parents are the best, wouldnt trade them for the world.
Im a distant person with everyone except my parents.
I love them.
how do u guys feel about adopting kids from other countries??
  
 
Which I could say this for my biological pops. Dude was there for me until age 10, then he gets deported for 3 strikes back to S.Korea and acts as if I was never born really (we talked on the phone probably 15-20 times in 12 years now. Never really saw him as a rolemodel
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Mom dukes and stepdad appreciation though (RIP) 
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BTW: Im a great single dad myself too. Thanks for the appreciation fambs
 
Originally Posted by bhergh

Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

Aww I cant wait to adopt.
Everyone should adopt.


My parents are the best, wouldnt trade them for the world.
Im a distant person with everyone except my parents.
I love them.
how do u guys feel about adopting kids from other countries??
  

Im getting one from Columbia to save him/her from FARC Guerrillas
And Im getting another one from china, cause they so cute.

If I some how get super rich I might get more and ones from here.
 
Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

Originally Posted by bhergh

Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

Aww I cant wait to adopt.
Everyone should adopt.


My parents are the best, wouldnt trade them for the world.
Im a distant person with everyone except my parents.
I love them.
how do u guys feel about adopting kids from other countries??
  

Im getting one from Columbia to save him/her from FARC Guerrillas
And Im getting another one from china, cause they so cute.

If I some how get super rich I might get more and ones from here.
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at this girl talkin about children like they're little play things
 
Originally Posted by HAM CITY

Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

Originally Posted by bhergh

how do u guys feel about adopting kids from other countries??
  

Im getting one from Columbia to save him/her from FARC Guerrillas
And Im getting another one from china, cause they so cute.

If I some how get super rich I might get more and ones from here.
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at this girl talkin about children like they're little play things

 "im getting another one" 
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Originally Posted by 6 rings MJ

DEFINITELY APPRECIATED!!


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Shout out to by my boy too. He's got a little 2 year old girl. Maaaann, this guy used to be the biggest partier I know. He's gotta a good job and all, FORD, but like prior to having his kid he was getting drunk, blowin white, taking pills like 5 days out of the week. Now he don't do jack ++%+. I can't even get him to go to the bar with me anymore. Works all week, get his kid on the weekends.
 
Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby

Originally Posted by HAM CITY

Originally Posted by shoefreakbaby


Im getting one from Columbia to save him/her from FARC Guerrillas
And Im getting another one from china, cause they so cute.

If I some how get super rich I might get more and ones from here.
roll.gif
30t6p3b.gif
at this girl talkin about children like they're little play things

 "im getting another one" 
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when you mentioned getting another one from china.. I thought for a second.. you were talking about shoes..
 
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