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This man knows.Imma have to disagree with this. Ya'll playing the game like every other dude out there. Though you might win some, it takes too much energy that you could be using for something more productive.NO.
The key is to move things away from the site as fast as possible (getting her number/social media or w/e then meeting in person) or get buried in her inbox.
While you're trying to play it cool she could be immature and playing the same game...it could take a week to finish a basic convo and someone else could already be making plans/smashing.
They get dozens of messages each day there's almost no way they can responded to them all. (Most only use the app on their phone and they turn the notifications/emails off b/c their phones would go off all day)
Chicks are flaky by nature they pull the same stuff in real life...everything is going to be exacerbated online due to so many more guys trying to get their attention at once.
I've had chicks that messaged me first then go MIA before I could get them on the hook...it is what it is. Try POF I'm almost positive are you'll get better results.
You cant worry about other guys blowing up her inbox. Other dudes are blowing up her phone as well, so bagging the number aint nothing. You basically put yourself in her "box" sitting there holding long convos, when at the same time she having deep convos with multiple dudes at once.
You should be playing the same game they play. The same game that have dudes trying to reel them in real quick in fear they may not respond or ignore you. Im telling you from experience and from what women tell me themselves. They dont like men that are too available. They like the "mystery" and not having access to a guy all the time.
When you play their game, it reverses everything they ever thought of the dating game. They start coming after you and you can have them do things they normally wouldnt do. It makes them feel insecure about themselves, makes them wonder why you dont want them. in turn they try to impress you and make an effort to please you. Same way these women have dudes now a days.
You guys are neglecting the fact that sending a new message puts it at the top of the inbox. If they're into you they're not gonna forget about your existence just like that. If you're not actually a busy person, at least create the illusion that you are and always leave them wanting more. Having to constantly message/text POF and OKC girls would get exhausting.