@sugafree you gotta let go of some of this bias against people on dating sites like they are some kind of leper. On the whole you are mostly right, there are a lot of socially inept, unstable people seeking out validation there (both men and women). But there are also a lot of normal, well-adjusted folks who just don't have time to meet people, or they don't frequent the usual places (bars, clubs, etc). You are acting like it's impossible meet someone of substance online when that's not at all the case.
There are a lot of dudes in this thread who struggle to meet good chicks so online is a "path of least resistance" method that doesn't take a whole lot of time and can reap some good rewards. But honestly the dudes here who are killing it online would kill it IRL too because they know what they're doing. It doesn't have to be so life or death fam, cuz that's the way your posts come across.
Remember, you get back what you put out there... online is no different.