How do you manage relationships/dating in college? Need Advice.

[trevrob]

So I find myself often looking out of getting "burnt". Seems like from my experience that in college I'm always seeing girls messing withmultiple guys or talking with multiple guys. I guess there is so much temptation in college, at bars, etc that I often wonder how you guys deal with this. For example, I've been talking to one since summer and our friendship/fling has been off and on. She came out of a relationship when I started talkingwith her (near end of her relationship) and we hung out a lot and get along great but she said she didn't want another relationship etc. Long story short,she sort of lead me on but we are great friends and usually still mess around when we hang out. Anyways, I 'm good friends with her roommate and herroommate is bouncing around a lot and they both tend to say they want to enjoy senior year.

What I'm getting at is last night with this chick, we went to the NCAA games, had dinner, and just an awesome day together. We go out to a bar back intown when we get back and I hung with some of my friends and she went with hers. Anyways were not together but she knows I like her and I'm not sure herfeelings towards me at the moment, but she was talking to some guy for a little and then at end of the night I asked her if she was going back to her placebecause my stuff was there and she said she "Didn't know". I sort of played *+%* block card figuring something seemed fishy. Anyways I stayedwith her last night ultimately but this morning she was saying she made good decisions last night and didn't go with that one guy and I asked her if shewanted to and she said she "Didn't Know" but he's a nice guy, etc. and glad we didn't mess around for once last night as she doesn'twant to lead me on (complicated from past stuff). I know she's not a %#@% or anything but it amazes me that even thought were not togather she would evenconsider the other guy whom she doesn't even talk to beside maybe see in class or something , etc. She doesn't want any relationships which makes oursituation complicated but how should I handle it? It's hard for me to say anything because were not togather so she shouldn't have any"ties" to me , etc. I know some of you know what I'm talking about here. They face temptations everywhere and how do you guys react to keepthings in tact with your ladies ?

I do see some good advice on NT sometimes and I'd like some views on this.

 

[jawnyquest]

i stopped goin to school when i got w/ my girl.. so i never had to worry about that..

 

[shortydoowopp]

she just wants to mess around...fall back if you're tryin to be in a relationship...

 

[ricekrispies420]

dont mess with her, she doesnt seem to be currently looking for a serious relationship.

 

[jays585]

Pipe only.

 

[ninjallamafromhell]

What in college?

 

[nipxd]

Well Since i started college in 06 sadly enough i let one girl get to me.

Even tho we were never official but for the next 2 years she gave me hell for the women that i was talking to, just talking to, nothing serious tho.

Now that its been over for 5 months now i find myself chasing skirts everywhere cuz ....well skirts are everywhere

It's just all the freedom i want. So i guess females feel the same way

As to how to deal with relationship in college? I would say there is NONE. Dont get in a relationship until you at least get your bachelor degree and so shouldyour female.

At that point both of ya'll got everything outa your systems and its time to take things more seriously, both career wise and emotionally speaking

Otherwise FUN is too much to ignore.

 

[krazy]

She only with you to bounce back to. Sounds like you're friend zoned, and she wants the D from other dood. Stop making yourself available for her,'cause it looks like it's not going anywhere.

 

[blackmagnus514]

college is experimentation time for a lotta chicks.

 

[dirtylicious]

homegirl was straight up and told you the deal from jump...
you get hurt... it's your fault.

she was the mature one by communicating...you were the one making the assumptions.

 

[jayhood23]

Don't catch feelings for this chick if you know she got other cats on the roster.

 

[thegr8blkhope]

in college you dont manage relationships...you get around (word to Pac and Shock G) because chances of you ending up with that someone after graduation are notthat good IMO. just get in where you fit in and dont get burnt, have babies or get a rape accusation and youre cool.

 

[yungmatt]

In this situation, You sound more like the female

 

[sylvestermcgrizzly]

In college u have bigger things to worry about than some girls...have fun and do you...you will eventually find a good one to get into a relationshipwith...you have to go thru a few to find the right one...

 

[call me walks]

relationship?....in college? no thanks

 

[springfieldxd]

quit saving these @#@@.

it sounds like you're throwing on that life jacket, you need to let them broads drown if they can't swim.

 

[mrspectacular]

obviously your playing but she def got a bench...if she was considering going back home wit a nice guy. she aint thinkin bout u homie. Its time 2 leave.dueces.

 

[phaze1123]

I met my wife my junior year in college. She graduated that year which freed me up to get it in my senior year while holding on to that relatioship. She wasnot the "experimenting" with everybody type which is one reason I held on to her. I knew I had something special, but I had a lot of "work"to do my senior year.
It's difficult in a college environment to find someone mature enough for a strong relationship. It seems like your girl is obviously not ready for thecommitment that you are looking for. For me, I knew that I was thriving in college and wanted to take full advantage my senior year. That may be what is goingon with your girl. Things change once you graduate. If I were you, I would keep the relationship that you have with her now and wait until after graduation totry to take it to the next level. Don't get to wrapped up in this relationship right now, use this time to get yours while still building on therelationship you have with her.

 

[eight2one]

Originally Posted by jawnyquest

i stopped goin to school when i got w/ my girl.. so i never had to worry about that..

you seem soo lazy.

 

[bonafide hustla]

tighten up your britches homebody and get out in that sea. you watching life pass you by while she out there gettin it in. no disrespect but youstraight up sound like a female.

 

[kn0wledgeable]

it sounds like you wanted a relationship, she told you that she didnt want one, but you caught feelings. its clear that you have feelings for this girl becauseyou're thinking about it alot and typing it on nt. if she wanted to be in a relationship with you, you guys would have been together right now. its clearthat she doesnt. her telling you that she's glad you guys didnt do anything last night is pretty much her setting it in stone. plus she probably wanted toleave with that guy she met but decided not to because she didnt want to hurt your feelings. which shows, she is considerate and not a total !$*!%. at the endof the day, i would say that you need to move on and stop chasing this girl around or you can go for it and tell her you want to take things serious. but ifyou approach her on some i want to get serious vibe...she will most likely friendzone you, so you have to do it the right way. but chances of you guys takingthings serious are slim to none. so spit that G code can you dig itttttttt

 

[retro7sz10]

Originally Posted by bonafide hustla

tighten up your britches homebody and get out in that sea. you watching life pass you by while she out there gettin it in. no disrespect but you straight up sound like a female.

this man knows what he is talking about

 

[blackmagnus514]

Never catch feelings before them..

the only reason you sound lame is because you prolly didnt have options. You cant hate them for exercising their options because if you had some you'd useem to. by default, chicks will have more options than you will so until you commit to a girl you should always have some on deck.

I got caught out there and i realized it was because i had no other options.

She's smart by not giving it up because if you'd smashed, you prolly woulda been extremely open. Females can tell when dudes are being/gonna be abugaboo

 

[usa pride4life]

Originally Posted by jawnyquest

i stopped goin to school when i got w/ my girl.. so i never had to worry about that..

 

[nawth21]

I was single the entire time

worked out great. I went on dates and what not but no serious monogamous relationships. That was my "I'm sick ofrelationships so I'm just going to do me" stage of my life.