I came out to my parents today....

[lobotomybeats]

Congrats, Tim!

Also, congrats, NT! Two years ago this thread would have been an abomination. Progress!

 

[timcity2000]

Originally Posted by will068

I'm sure your parents already knew. Hell, they raised you. Were you expecting a different response from your parents ?

i wasn't sure what to expect honestly.  but it was really great.  they kept telling me they loved me and were proud of me.  i'm sure having your 33-year-old son break down uncontrollably in front of you doesn't make it easier, lol.

i was probably the most surprised by my dad's reaction.  i knew my mom would accept it almost immediately, but i thought my dad would show some hesitation.  but he didn't.  he even made it a point to say that any partner of mine would always be welcome in their household.

 

[damnitzdom]

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by will068

I'm sure your parents already knew. Hell, they raised you. Were you expecting a different response from your parents ?

i wasn't sure what to expect honestly.  but it was really great.  they kept telling me they loved me and were proud of me.  i'm sure having your 33-year-old son break down uncontrollably in front of you doesn't make it easier, lol.

i was probably the most surprised by my dad's reaction.  i knew my mom would accept it almost immediately, but i thought my dad would show some hesitation.  but he didn't.  he even made it a point to say that any partner of mine would always be welcome in their household.

do you say partner or boyfriend? is it preference on the term?

 

[whyhellothere]

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

i was probably the most surprised by my dad's reaction.  i knew my mom would accept it almost immediately, but i thought my dad would show some hesitation.  but he didn't.  he even made it a point to say that any partner of mine would always be welcome in their household.

 

[mr marcus]

respect......live free.....

 

[freddypee]

Originally Posted by whyhellothere

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

i was probably the most surprised by my dad's reaction.  i knew my mom would accept it almost immediately, but i thought my dad would show some hesitation.  but he didn't.  he even made it a point to say that any partner of mine would always be welcome in their household.

Congrats.

 

[timcity2000]

Originally Posted by damnitzdom

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by will068

I'm sure your parents already knew. Hell, they raised you. Were you expecting a different response from your parents ?

i wasn't sure what to expect honestly.  but it was really great.  they kept telling me they loved me and were proud of me.  i'm sure having your 33-year-old son break down uncontrollably in front of you doesn't make it easier, lol.

i was probably the most surprised by my dad's reaction.  i knew my mom would accept it almost immediately, but i thought my dad would show some hesitation.  but he didn't.  he even made it a point to say that any partner of mine would always be welcome in their household.

do you say partner or boyfriend? is it preference on the term?

no preference.  i'd probably say boyfriend, actually.  partner sounds kinda sterile and secretive.  not sure why i chose that word, lol.
  

 

[beh235]

OP, I've never met you, but I'm proud of you. It took a lot of courage to do that. All jokes aside (at least for me), gay or straight doesn't matter. Glad you are able to be you and not have to hide.

 

[k2theablam]

OP, I'm proud of you, and proud to be a part of NT when threads like these happen.

 

[shogun]

Congratulations on finally being able to tell your parents.  I know it's something a lot of gay people have to struggle with.
Like others have said, the maturity and positivity in this thread is surprising.  I was expecting the exact opposite.  I thought it'd be similar to the gay marriage thread.

 

[deletedelete]

will i see you at pride next year

that takes a lot of courage, i think especially for gay men (as opposed to gay women). i'm glad you're getting a lot of support. good luck with everything and finally being able to live your life true to yourself and not a lie. YOU WERE BORN THIS WAY BABAY

 

[fulltech]

props to you, OP

 

[timcity2000]

Originally Posted by SiMPLYDiMPLY

will i see you at pride next year?

  

in alabama??  lol.

actually, there is a pretty sizable gay community here... i think people would be surprised.

 

[dens415]

 congrats homie.

 

[wldcat10]

Congrats man, that takes alot for you to do that. Glad to hear that your parents took it well. Best of luck to you!

 

[forgot about jae]

Why do some people here assume he'd show "symptoms" of being gay over the years, as if all gays act the same?

All Im saying is some of the big swole bouncers you see smoking 6 cigs in a couple minutes and giving everybody attitudes are gay dudes too...They aren't all flamboyant and overtly gay, many of them are just as dominant and manly as you and I. Hell I've caught looks from gay dudes who think I'm a Bear and they wanna be cubs

 

[deletedelete]

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by SiMPLYDiMPLY

will i see you at pride next year?

  

in alabama??  lol.

actually, there is a pretty sizable gay community here... i think people would be surprised.

thats cool i don't know why i just assumed you were in ny, i'm crazy. but ha, now that you came out now you have to plan a pride weekend in new york or cali. CRAZY.

 

[xanadu one]

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by xanadu one

good job. step one complete.

thanks... but god help me if that was step one!

unfortunately its a never ending road to walk.
you'll do fine.

 

[timcity2000]

Originally Posted by SiMPLYDiMPLY

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by SiMPLYDiMPLY

will i see you at pride next year?

  

in alabama??  lol.

actually, there is a pretty sizable gay community here... i think people would be surprised.

thats cool i don't know why i just assumed you were in ny, i'm crazy. but ha, now that you came out now you have to plan a pride weekend in new york or cali. CRAZY.

yeah... not sure i'm ready for that yet, lol.  

 

[mplsdunk]

Pride in Minneapolis is insane too. Been to a few.

 

[ikari xd]

Originally Posted by damnitzdom

btw, time to hit up The Castro.

all you can drink mimosas at Lime.

that should be a legitimate pastime for anybody no matter your sexual orientation 

. 
to OP, congrats. lot of respect is due to someone who can stay true to themselves no matter the setting.

 

[Senoj]

Originally Posted by xanadu one

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by xanadu one

good job. step one complete.

thanks... but god help me if that was step one!

unfortunately its a never ending road to walk.
you'll do fine.

nice avy

 

[oneand23]

Congrats to OP! You are a brave person indeed! It takes a lot for people to just come out. I can't imagine the way you have felt. I'm glad it's finally off of your shoulders.

 

[noblekane]

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by damnitzdom

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

i wasn't sure what to expect honestly.  but it was really great.  they kept telling me they loved me and were proud of me.  i'm sure having your 33-year-old son break down uncontrollably in front of you doesn't make it easier, lol.

i was probably the most surprised by my dad's reaction.  i knew my mom would accept it almost immediately, but i thought my dad would show some hesitation.  but he didn't.  he even made it a point to say that any partner of mine would always be welcome in their household.

do you say partner or boyfriend? is it preference on the term?

no preference.  i'd probably say boyfriend, actually.  partner sounds kinda sterile and secretive.  not sure why i chose that word, lol.
  

damn dude you waited a long time to come out.

times really are changing. i think nowadays more parents are aware and less stuck in old fashioned ways.

and i dont know why but all my gay friends and gay co workers always say partner. maybe its just they are still a bit in the shadow? i dunno...
  

 

[timcity2000]

Originally Posted by NobleKane

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

Originally Posted by damnitzdom


do you say partner or boyfriend? is it preference on the term?

no preference.  i'd probably say boyfriend, actually.  partner sounds kinda sterile and secretive.  not sure why i chose that word, lol.
  

damn dude you waited a long time to come out.

times really are changing. i think nowadays more parents are aware and less stuck in old fashioned ways.

and i dont know why but all my gay friends and gay co workers always say partner. maybe its just they are still a bit in the shadow? i dunno...
  

yeah, my dad made a similar comment.  he said he couldn't imagine if he had to come out to my grandfather, a very strict naval captain.  i think of all my four grandparents, only one of them would have accepted it (my dad's mom).
as for boyfriend vs. partner... i think in the workplace people probably are somewhat self-conscious and don't want to give anyone a reason, fair or not, to view them unobjectively.