long distance relationships....who's succeeded? who's failed?

[galvelocity]

I'd say don't do it mostly because of your particular circumstances. Long distance when you're both going off to college is a bad idea. There's a ton of new experiences and new people and it's just very unlikely it'll work out. You grow so much when you move for school that you'll become different people and want different things.

That being said, I've also been in an LDR DURING college while my bf of 2 years was at work co-ops for 4-8 months at a time. I thought it was working but turns out he was seeing a million other girls. After that I was adamant that I'd never do it again...

UNTIL I met my current. He does the same work co-ops and I don't worry at all. I found a good one. We text every day, skype a couple times a week. You have to really be able to see a future with this person or there's no way it's worth it.

 

[Hahahaha]

Nah, it can work. I know a few cats. It just depends on dedication and trust. It's just rare to find a successful one because someone is always worried that the other is cheating and doesn't want to get played so they break it off by assuming the worst

 

[Hahahaha]

Nah, it can work. I know a few cats. It just depends on dedication and trust. It's just rare to find a successful one because someone is always worried that the other is cheating and doesn't want to get played so they break it off by assuming the worst

 

[marcgrat]

Not worth it. (from personal experience)

 

[marcgrat]

Not worth it. (from personal experience)

 

[365k]

I'm in one atm. 2 1/2 years, and all I gotta say is, have patience, have energy, and have time.

 

[365k]

I'm in one atm. 2 1/2 years, and all I gotta say is, have patience, have energy, and have time.

 

[popcornplaya]

A good friend wanted one...I said no. She's a great girl and everything, but nah.

I can barely fight temptation when my girl is across campus (and have failed multiple times)...I don't trust myself enough to try it across the country.

 

[popcornplaya]

A good friend wanted one...I said no. She's a great girl and everything, but nah.

I can barely fight temptation when my girl is across campus (and have failed multiple times)...I don't trust myself enough to try it across the country.

 

[veryanalytical85]

Originally Posted by Ballerific703

Nah, it can work. I know a few cats. It just depends on dedication and trust. It's just rare to find a successful one because someone is always worried that the other is cheating and doesn't want to get played so they break it off by assuming the worst

QFT. I've been in my fair share of LDRs (mostly failed though

) and one thing is for certain, if both of you don't put any time and effort it will fizzle out just as quick as it started. Props to those who were able to maintain it 

.

 

[veryanalytical85]

Originally Posted by Ballerific703

Nah, it can work. I know a few cats. It just depends on dedication and trust. It's just rare to find a successful one because someone is always worried that the other is cheating and doesn't want to get played so they break it off by assuming the worst

QFT. I've been in my fair share of LDRs (mostly failed though

) and one thing is for certain, if both of you don't put any time and effort it will fizzle out just as quick as it started. Props to those who were able to maintain it 

.

 

[jumpmanjunkie]

Still in the early stages of a long dist relationship (5 hours away from each other), so far so good

i go to school in PA while shes home/school in long island NY, imma try to visit like once a month but thats not gunna be enough

 

[jumpmanjunkie]

Still in the early stages of a long dist relationship (5 hours away from each other), so far so good

i go to school in PA while shes home/school in long island NY, imma try to visit like once a month but thats not gunna be enough

 

[jordanfean23]

going almost 2 years strong right now... 5 hours away...I'm in NY she's in DC

 

[jordanfean23]

going almost 2 years strong right now... 5 hours away...I'm in NY she's in DC

 

[illphillip]

I had to move to Miami for work back when and me and my now wife made it work.

I could fly her down/she would fly herself down pretty frequently on weekends.

But eventually you have to know you're coming back together. Or don't even bother.

I always knew I'd move back to NY.

 

[illphillip]

I had to move to Miami for work back when and me and my now wife made it work.

I could fly her down/she would fly herself down pretty frequently on weekends.

But eventually you have to know you're coming back together. Or don't even bother.

I always knew I'd move back to NY.

 

[38816]

ive failed. she was in NJ i was in Ohio....(REAL long distance, not that tom and jerry !++@ yall talkin)

it may be the dumbest idea ever.

depending on the length , distance and reasoning...

however, my advice is....

don't do it....its not worth it.

what kind of relationship is it when the other person isn't even there?

(like i said, it depends on the length, distance and reasoning...but...yeah)  

Originally Posted by Fade On You

I did it for 5 years. Don't bother.

me too.... ( ._.)



p.s. my experience was well documented on NT

 

[mht214]

Definitely not impossible. I did it, we were 70miles away, and we only saw each other every other weekend--sometimes---we both lived in new cities to us [one of those cities having one of the most diverse universities in the nation with alot to do in the city also ].---did it for 4yrs.

 

[38816]

ive failed. she was in NJ i was in Ohio....(REAL long distance, not that tom and jerry !++@ yall talkin)

it may be the dumbest idea ever.

depending on the length , distance and reasoning...

however, my advice is....

don't do it....its not worth it.

what kind of relationship is it when the other person isn't even there?

(like i said, it depends on the length, distance and reasoning...but...yeah)  

Originally Posted by Fade On You

I did it for 5 years. Don't bother.

me too.... ( ._.)



p.s. my experience was well documented on NT

 

[mht214]

Definitely not impossible. I did it, we were 70miles away, and we only saw each other every other weekend--sometimes---we both lived in new cities to us [one of those cities having one of the most diverse universities in the nation with alot to do in the city also ].---did it for 4yrs.

 

[ignantbliss]

Failed......miserably...all times I tried

....I'm sure it works for some people though...I don't believe that long distance relationships just DON'T work...it takes effort from both sides though,

 

[ignantbliss]

Failed......miserably...all times I tried

....I'm sure it works for some people though...I don't believe that long distance relationships just DON'T work...it takes effort from both sides though,

 

[nocomment6]

failed.

 

[ksteezy]

Originally Posted by kdawg

Originally Posted by DEMIZE

not sure, but going to have one coming soon. not really that far away, just about 2 hours away

That doesn't qualify at all - you could easily meet up an hour from you and have dinner or something - weekly.

We were 2 plane rides (at about $1000 and 18 hours apart) for 3 years. Email was a bit rare at the beginning and long distance phonecalls were extortionate - no skype or anything - but if you are committed to each other it's tough but by no means difficult.

We've been married for 13 years this summer if that matters.

Props to you sir.I failed miserably, homegirl lived in west palm and I was in NY...sparks flew while I was going through a rough patch with my current wife about 3 years ago...we dated for about 4 months, I made one trip to Florida, she made two up to NY, at first it was cool but then reality set in and I realized how stupid this was, she started acting out and I said %*@# it. We only actually spent no more than 15 days physically together in 3-4 months...lolFunny thing is she now lives about 10 minutes from me I think...I'm staying farrr away from shorty specially now that I'm married.Shes the one in black, full Ecuadorian...body was

OP watch "Going the distance" good movie for those that have gone through the long distance thing....I think patience and trust are the most important factors In order to make it work.