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I had a longer post typed out, clicked submit, the damn wizard came up and I lost it so this one will be shorter.
Basically, as the title suggests, people seem to cower in fear at my presence. I am the nicest guy in the world, literally. I actually have had friends andfamily (especially Mom) actually be concerned that I'm too nice and it'll lead to me getting walked over in life. I disagree, but that'sbeside the point.
Strangers, particularly women, are so scared of me I have literally seen an old lady fall and hurt herself while intensely watching me instead of where she wasgoing. I get it all, from the cross the street if I'm approaching, the see me coming down the aisle and stop and pretend like you got what you need at yourcurrent aisle position then turn around and go to the next over aisle so you can come back into the same aisle but the opposite direction so you'd bebehind me now, people noticing me behind them in line and turning sideways so they can keep an eye on me, the snatching up of kids and purses with superhumanstrength, and definitely the police.
Another quick example, there's this young ____ lady who would never talk to me by herself at my last job. I was I.T, and they only have user rights ontheir computer, so they actually had to come to my cubicle or come talk to me to get them to install stuff on their computers all the time. She would nevercome by herself, and never talk directly to me. She'd always bring this girl Jennifer with her and I never understood why. She finally seemed to be warmingup to me like right before I left though, she'd come by herself and talk directly to me, say hi if we ever made eye contact.
Ignoring the fact I think it's a stupid generalization, I don't wear fitteds, durags, baggy jeans, gold teeth, any of that. I don't drive a lowlow, listen to rap music loud in my car. I don't have an angry disposition or demeanor. Much the opposite, I probably have a smirk on my face most of thetime because I'm always recalling random funny moments in my head. If I ever make eye contact with somebody, always will say Hi, wave, or nod or something.They're usually the ones who turn their head real fast. Only thing I do that I guess I could see scaring some people is sometimes while walking in a storeand singing or rapping song lyrics to myself.
It's hard enough for me to meet people because I'm extremely shy, and like I mentioned I'm not in college anymore nor does my job find me aroundtons of females, people apparently being fearful of me and making snap judgements about it makes even harder.
CLIFF NOTES
I am a very nice guy
People seem scared of me anyways
Anything I can do to change that? I'm thinking about shaving my beard
Should I just accept people are always going to make that snap judgement about me and live with it? I guess I can't force people to like me or not bescared of me.
Basically, as the title suggests, people seem to cower in fear at my presence. I am the nicest guy in the world, literally. I actually have had friends andfamily (especially Mom) actually be concerned that I'm too nice and it'll lead to me getting walked over in life. I disagree, but that'sbeside the point.
Strangers, particularly women, are so scared of me I have literally seen an old lady fall and hurt herself while intensely watching me instead of where she wasgoing. I get it all, from the cross the street if I'm approaching, the see me coming down the aisle and stop and pretend like you got what you need at yourcurrent aisle position then turn around and go to the next over aisle so you can come back into the same aisle but the opposite direction so you'd bebehind me now, people noticing me behind them in line and turning sideways so they can keep an eye on me, the snatching up of kids and purses with superhumanstrength, and definitely the police.
Another quick example, there's this young ____ lady who would never talk to me by herself at my last job. I was I.T, and they only have user rights ontheir computer, so they actually had to come to my cubicle or come talk to me to get them to install stuff on their computers all the time. She would nevercome by herself, and never talk directly to me. She'd always bring this girl Jennifer with her and I never understood why. She finally seemed to be warmingup to me like right before I left though, she'd come by herself and talk directly to me, say hi if we ever made eye contact.
Ignoring the fact I think it's a stupid generalization, I don't wear fitteds, durags, baggy jeans, gold teeth, any of that. I don't drive a lowlow, listen to rap music loud in my car. I don't have an angry disposition or demeanor. Much the opposite, I probably have a smirk on my face most of thetime because I'm always recalling random funny moments in my head. If I ever make eye contact with somebody, always will say Hi, wave, or nod or something.They're usually the ones who turn their head real fast. Only thing I do that I guess I could see scaring some people is sometimes while walking in a storeand singing or rapping song lyrics to myself.
It's hard enough for me to meet people because I'm extremely shy, and like I mentioned I'm not in college anymore nor does my job find me aroundtons of females, people apparently being fearful of me and making snap judgements about it makes even harder.
CLIFF NOTES
I am a very nice guy
People seem scared of me anyways
Anything I can do to change that? I'm thinking about shaving my beard
Should I just accept people are always going to make that snap judgement about me and live with it? I guess I can't force people to like me or not bescared of me.
