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That insecurity goes away when you have a secure relationship that you trust and believe in. I know for a fact that would never happen in my relationship. Not because I'm naive, but because of the actions she's shown over the course of the relationship. She's gonna upset and cried over **** that I did that I didn't even know I was doing. She would make the biggest deals out of things I thought were so minuscule. And some of it might come out of insecurity but I also think a large part of it is out of care and the attention to detail she has in our relationship. If she EVER cheated on me I might never get into another serious relationship again because it's been cemented in my brain that if this doesn't work nothing will. I've been with women I thought I could trust but got screwed over countless times. I know what those relationships feel like and I know this isn't that. Just takes the right woman but the "right" woman only exists if you're willing to try.The thing that I struggle with is that if I fight the urge to cheat(which I believe exists in all men) and actually succeed in not cheating on my girl(which could take an extreme amount of self control to do) I can't trust/assume that she is also that dedicated/disciplined with a faithful mindset. That scenario is very realistic and scary to know that you could be in one of those situations