Don't really know what recent events sparked this topic but I caught some posts & have a good enough idea of what you guys are discussing to be able to chime in...
Korrupt Koop's post was spot on on how a BM/BF's new partner should conduct themselves around the child.
I'm speaking from personal experience so there is bias there but it is not illogical in any sense of the word.
I've posted about my issues with my BM's new dude in the confessions thread b4.
Well recently, long story short, my autistic son (think not as verbally articulate as you would expect of a "normal" 6 yr old child) expressed to me that this dude allegedly hits him. I reacted appropriately after initial animation to put it lightly, advice from my older brother & reported this to CS. There was no visible evidence & I'm a conscious enough person to realize there is the possibility that my son is lying due to him not liking dude & other factors.
Well, within the last few days, dude got arrested for domestic violence (he was drunk -> came & told my son to clean up & go to bed -> my BM did not like the manner in which he spoke -> argument ensued -> he grabbed her hard enough to leave marks that where still there when the cops came -> one-time took him to his confinement on L block).
Myself (after my son's accusation & b4 his arrest, I spoke to him briefly for the first time ever) & CS both told him that it is not his place to act as an authorative figure towards my son when I am active in his life.
Son in there crying (confirmed fact) while I'm outchea puffing on the finest
listening to a JRE podcast.
Lol funny the way life works sometimes.