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Ok this is a kinda long read.
Maybe back in august my brother and I went away out of the country and I left the house keys with my girl to check in every other day or so.
Unbeknown to me, my brother left his set of keys with my best friend for the same reason.
Anyhow a few days after we left my girl has a convo with me about how my friend is strutting around the house as if he lives there. So the next day she calls me again saying how now he brought his girl over to spend the night in OUR house, playing music loudly @ like 12 AM when we have other tenants.
My brother was nearby and I told her to speak to him about it through the phone. He was upset and basically said that no one was supposed to be there in the first place.
She felt offended and totally by the comment. I personally didn't feel he said anything wrong because neither one of them were told to STAY there, only to pass by every so often.
So being that I didn't see anything wrong with the comment, there was a HUGE fall out between me and my girl, she cried, felt I "Didn't have her back" , Put my brother before her, Didn't Man up to him and put him in his place when she stated that she felt disrespected ETC. Even though I did speak to him about how she felt afterwards.
Since then we have never been on track properly and she has adopted a hatred for my brother.
He insists that he didn't say that to hurt her feelings and I was there when he said it and there wasn't any malice in his voice, just him stating a fact.
And I agreed that no one shoulda been in the house.
Recently we have been trying to repair the relationship.
WARNING THE FOLLOWING IS PRETTY IMMATURE
Fast forward to today, we went to the house and she was eating and she went into the fridge and grabbed a box of juice that he purchased. I always tell her when we are there to make sure she doesn't finish his juice or whatever drinks he has Its not anything new that I said. But she poured out the last drops of it
So she's like "so what?", "That seems to be a personal issue, not my problem", "Oh well"
"I don't care" and bein sarcastic as hell, that's when I started to get heated.
I'm like you wouldn't like if someone did that to your stuff especially with such disregard for their belongings. Especially since they hold a grudge against you. Then I said it's disrespectful... Its not only about juice
So then she jumped and basically was saying how I jump to my brother's defense when he was disrespecting her and not her defense yadda yadda. I explained that she is clearly trying to be disrespectful with what she's doing and my brother wasn't in his actions and I didn't feel that he was either.
So she saying she don't see anything wrong with finishing the juice. I said its more than just about finishing the juice its the fact that you have no regard just because its him.
Big fall out happens again, now she says she deserve someone better that will have her back and she hopes my brother loves me like a woman can
So given all the factors,
-this is my older brother who has 7 years on me and always has my back which ever way he can
-I know they say "Bros before Garden Tools" but this is a girl I have been with for about 3 1/2 years and was 3 months away from having a Kid with (RIP Nasir) So she isn't just "some chick"
Was I wrong? Overreacting? Any chance she gets to dog out my brother, she does, and I just had enough of it this time.
Does she have valid points? I think I need a female to step in to explain their POV.
AND NOT TO MENTION WE ARE TALKING ABOUT JUICE HERE PEOPLE!!!!
Cliffs:
-Brother said something that the GF took to offense but there was no bad intentions behind it.
- Big fall out between I and GF for not "Having her back" Relationship was never the same
-Today GF felt it was okay to disrespect brother I felt It was not okay and said something about it.
- She brings up past issues and relates it to current situation
- Now she is telling me she hopes my brother can love me like a woman can
Go to the actual read for more detail. Sorry it's so long
Maybe back in august my brother and I went away out of the country and I left the house keys with my girl to check in every other day or so.
Unbeknown to me, my brother left his set of keys with my best friend for the same reason.
Anyhow a few days after we left my girl has a convo with me about how my friend is strutting around the house as if he lives there. So the next day she calls me again saying how now he brought his girl over to spend the night in OUR house, playing music loudly @ like 12 AM when we have other tenants.
My brother was nearby and I told her to speak to him about it through the phone. He was upset and basically said that no one was supposed to be there in the first place.
She felt offended and totally by the comment. I personally didn't feel he said anything wrong because neither one of them were told to STAY there, only to pass by every so often.
So being that I didn't see anything wrong with the comment, there was a HUGE fall out between me and my girl, she cried, felt I "Didn't have her back" , Put my brother before her, Didn't Man up to him and put him in his place when she stated that she felt disrespected ETC. Even though I did speak to him about how she felt afterwards.
Since then we have never been on track properly and she has adopted a hatred for my brother.
He insists that he didn't say that to hurt her feelings and I was there when he said it and there wasn't any malice in his voice, just him stating a fact.
And I agreed that no one shoulda been in the house.
Recently we have been trying to repair the relationship.
WARNING THE FOLLOWING IS PRETTY IMMATURE
Fast forward to today, we went to the house and she was eating and she went into the fridge and grabbed a box of juice that he purchased. I always tell her when we are there to make sure she doesn't finish his juice or whatever drinks he has Its not anything new that I said. But she poured out the last drops of it
So she's like "so what?", "That seems to be a personal issue, not my problem", "Oh well"
"I don't care" and bein sarcastic as hell, that's when I started to get heated.
I'm like you wouldn't like if someone did that to your stuff especially with such disregard for their belongings. Especially since they hold a grudge against you. Then I said it's disrespectful... Its not only about juice
So then she jumped and basically was saying how I jump to my brother's defense when he was disrespecting her and not her defense yadda yadda. I explained that she is clearly trying to be disrespectful with what she's doing and my brother wasn't in his actions and I didn't feel that he was either.
So she saying she don't see anything wrong with finishing the juice. I said its more than just about finishing the juice its the fact that you have no regard just because its him.
Big fall out happens again, now she says she deserve someone better that will have her back and she hopes my brother loves me like a woman can
So given all the factors,
-this is my older brother who has 7 years on me and always has my back which ever way he can
-I know they say "Bros before Garden Tools" but this is a girl I have been with for about 3 1/2 years and was 3 months away from having a Kid with (RIP Nasir) So she isn't just "some chick"
Was I wrong? Overreacting? Any chance she gets to dog out my brother, she does, and I just had enough of it this time.
Does she have valid points? I think I need a female to step in to explain their POV.
AND NOT TO MENTION WE ARE TALKING ABOUT JUICE HERE PEOPLE!!!!
Cliffs:
-Brother said something that the GF took to offense but there was no bad intentions behind it.
- Big fall out between I and GF for not "Having her back" Relationship was never the same
-Today GF felt it was okay to disrespect brother I felt It was not okay and said something about it.
- She brings up past issues and relates it to current situation
- Now she is telling me she hopes my brother can love me like a woman can
Go to the actual read for more detail. Sorry it's so long