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question: why do girls when they know they gave you the green light to start they ask you a messed up question like "What you doing?"

I usually say somethin like" what I wanna do" or " what you wanted me to do"...it might sound cheesy but it works for me lol
 
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So I tried to set a date up through text last week smh at me I know.:it was a spur of the moment type thing to see were I was at with her she never replied..but she's been textin me the last few days and I haven't replied back..y'all think I should try again or just keep avoiding her till she gets the memo
 
So I tried to set a date up through text last week smh at me I know.:it was a spur of the moment type thing to see were I was at with her she never replied..but she's been textin me the last few days and I haven't replied back..y'all think I should try again or just keep avoiding her till she gets the memo
Depends on what your intentions are with her. Smash? Date?  Ego? Seem like you both are playing a game
 
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Ok my NT brethrens. Im in a bad place. I'm desperate for some advice. Thanks in advance for whoever responds. This going to be a LONG *** post. Bare with me. Im on my phone. These quotes are direct text messages and/or spoken words.

I dunno if you guys remember my little scare like a month ago. Shot the club up after a wild night of drugs and sex(lasted for like 45 mins). Ended up being good. First time we ever did **** (wlkissed, had sex, ect). We were up north on vacation with some friends and just sorta happened. She didn't tell me to drop a bomb im her or anything it just felt too good. Haha. Anyway. Prior to that we were just kinda friends of friends(my best friend of like 15 years has been with her best friend of equal time or so for like 5 years or so) we'd occasionally see each other every other weekend or so while hanging out with them. Well after the "close call" we started hanging out more. Like a 2 or 3 a week. Once again just through our mutual friendships. My boy would have small get together, bonfires, ect at his house. Well a couple saturdays ago we ended up sleeping together, no sex just making out, cuddling, and talking. She told me how she just got out of a 4 year long relationship 6 months or so ago and that shes damageds goods and how im the first guy shes been with since her ex and how im so cool or whatever and how shes confused and doesn't kniw what to make of "us" right now. And how she wants to take it slow and talk and be friends. now im not gonna lie prior to the up north incident I started having feelings for thia girl. We were kicking like 2 days or so a week, again through our mutual friends and ****. Well 2 saturdays ago we were drinking at our friends and ended up hooking up again. She went down on me, i went down on her then we ended up ****** again. Not gonna lie I UNDER PERFORMED(to say the least SMH) and blew in her again. SMH. Only this wasnt 45 mins of magic like last time. Maybe like 5?
She wasn't like pissed or anything. She ended giving me a Handy then we ended up cuddling and fell asleep in eachothers arms. I ended up telling her how i felt and hiw i wanted a relationship. The next day i get this text saying how she just wants to be friends and how she cant be what i want. Now im not gonna lie I hit the bottle hard for like the next 6 days. Called off work all week. She asked why I was drinking this i said "the idea of having a child is freaking me out plus the girl I like wants nothing to do with me all of a sudden" She acted concerned saying "I do wanna be with you but just as friends. Its hard for me. stop drinking like this , go to work, itll be fine" and whatnot.
it was a mess of a week. I drank like 5 5ths of crown who knows how many beers. I blew her phone up and clearly sent too many texts to her.

This is where its gonna get a littlw ****d up. Im gonna be jumping back and forth. I apologize to whoever reads/ing this.

Anyways, I got her to take plan b as well. literally on the 70th hour after I blew in her. Says take within 72 hours. Paid for it and all that ****. I gave my boys girl the money to give to her. Now the chick I want went to CHI last weekend for a fam reunion. Shea hard up on loot so when I gave her friend the $ to give to her I threw in a extra 500. After she got the loot I got a text from her saying how ahe cant accept it. I said no its all good. She took it and said how "i hope its just a friendly gesture" :x I said yes, im not gonna throw it in your face or anything. I just want us to be cool.
She said "good, cause thats hiw its gonna be. Juat friends". I agreed and we proceeded to talk about some upcoming concerts we'll be attending this summer. 311 this weekend. Sublime next weekend. And like 5 more between this month and september. I sobered up and wasnt being as crazy lol

so while she was away for the weekend I talked to my boys girl abiut this situation. In all honesty her and I are really cool and I consider her a good friend.
I told her how i liked her and had more than "just friend" feelings. She said "everything's gonna fine. Just give it some time. If u need anything u can always talk to me.. dont do anythjng stupid. U have to chill out because she did say she just wanted to be friends and she still does. I don't want u guys to hate eachother. "
I hit her with the "I have enough friends" line. But how id rathee be her friend than nothing.
She said " I understand that. I just hope we can all still hangout. I don't want things to be crazy weird between u guys. You're gonna be fine. Just chill iut and let it blow over. It's not that serious. I know it's hard but u gotta let it go. Drinking is not gonna solve your problems. The right girl is out There for u."

I said how the **** she told me about just taking it slow and seeing what happens and i need time led me to belive more than what it was
She said " She does because she just got out of a long relationship. U don't understand what it's like for a girl when she really likes a guy. It's different. She said she just wants to be friends. She wants things to go back to normal. Just let it go for a while and see what happens. She has a lot of stuff going on right now and she doesn't have time nor does she want a relationship right now. Don't be mad just stay chill. u acting the way u were ****** everything up. I'm not trying to be mean but I won't lie to u." I said " great, so i ****d what chances i had up by being a drunken mess."She said " Yes u did. But if u let it go and just be cool maybe she will turn around. She liked u but wanted to take things real slow. But u ****** things up by being drunk and not understanding what she was saying. Just be cool if your ever around her. Don't expect anything just Bc she's hanging out with u. You're gonna be fine. Just chill."

so I ask you NT. What should I do? What do you make of all this? Clearly I ****d **** up but is it completely over? What should I do? Anything I should say? Like I said im desperate. I haven't had feelings for a girl like this since my ex like 5 years ago. Im not one od those dudes that just falls for chicks.
I thank anyone who chimes in in advance. And clown on me if you want. I had to go some where for more advice. Cheaper tham therapy. Lol
 
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@301216baller

I would send her another chick to see where her mind is at

@three6mafia

I think you miss a sentence between telling her how you feel and the text saying you successfully shot the club club up....word to 50 but if you really feeling this chick you should let her chill then come back to her. You dont want to overwhelm her .

I think I have something i may need advice on from the TAY  fam
 
Lol bruh tried to buy ole girl lmao.
Just threw her 500 just because? I hope that was a typo

Lol no typo. Not trying to buy her. When we were kicking it I was paying for Everything anyway.
I mean full tank of gas to get there. Full tank back. That's like 180 right there.
Straight up, I was straight wasted when I gave her friend the loot. Had I been a little more sober it wouldn't have been that much lol.
 
Lol no typo. Not trying to buy her. When we were kicking it I was paying for Everything anyway.
I mean full tank of gas to get there. Full tank back. That's like 180 right there.
Straight up, I was straight wasted when I gave her friend the loot. Had I been a little more sober it wouldn't have been that much lol.

all I'll say is you're a better man than me
But you'll find this useful: the fact that she didn't just take that bread without hesitation is a sign she may have some morals.
she doesn't seem interested though, and the fact that she now know she has enough power over you to cause you to drink yourself into a stupor doesn't bode well for you going forward.
My only hope is that ole girl was flawless to cause you to act this way.
We've all done wild stuff for women man..bounce back!
 
:lol Three 6 how old are you fam? You really wylin out here. From your desperation to throwing money at these thots. You gotta learn how to get some chill. Its as simple as this, the girl just got out of a long relationship & probably still has feelings for ole boy (and rightfully so). She uses you for a little fun & forewarned you from the beginning that it was a "just friends" situation. Now she got you open & you don't know what to do. The funny thing about it is if you played it cool this whole time you could probably actually win her over or at least be smashing on the reg. You acting like a desperate fool is only gonna drive her away further. I'd suggest moving along, stop fapping, start using rubbers & get your pull out game up. It's really that simple.
 
Still saying you should chill then go back to her. But really cant be trying to show every chick the finer things in life tho, some don't understand that.

Order her a filet told her butterflies, she'll love it...She's used to soda and nuggets, she's really just out here thugging-Drake
 
I feel ya. I think what set me off was knowing she did like me and I ****** it up by trying speed things up and drinking myself ******ed. All though like 30% of my bender was towards the idea of having a kid. I feel yall though. I'm just gonna play it cool. Chick it goin no where(good and bad thing). She's my best friends girls best friend. Like I said we'll be kicking it a lot. Got like 7 concerts in the next 3 months or so we'll all be attending.
And to answer your question.. Straight dime. Baddest chick I've ever got. Mexican and Arabic mix. thick in the right places. Tig ole bitties. And I'm 26 btw. She's 29
 
Off topic but its the worse when you unsure if you pulled out and EVERYTHING around you is like baby related ads, convos, etc lol
 
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She said " I understand that. I just hope we can all still hangout. I don't want things to be crazy weird between u guys. You're gonna be fine. Just chill iut and let it blow over. It's not that serious. I know it's hard but u gotta let it go. Drinking is not gonna solve your problems. The right girl is out There for u."

I said how the **** she told me about just taking it slow and seeing what happens and i need time led me to belive more than what it was
She said " She does because she just got out of a long relationship. U don't understand what it's like for a girl when she really likes a guy. It's different. She said she just wants to be friends. She wants things to go back to normal. Just let it go for a while and see what happens. She has a lot of stuff going on right now and she doesn't have time nor does she want a relationship right now. Don't be mad just stay chill. u acting the way u were ****** everything up. I'm not trying to be mean but I won't lie to u." I said " great, so i ****d what chances i had up by being a drunken mess."She said " Yes u did. But if u let it go and just be cool maybe she will turn around. She liked u but wanted to take things real slow. But u ****** things up by being drunk and not understanding what she was saying. Just be cool if your ever around her. Don't expect anything just Bc she's hanging out with u. You're gonna be fine. Just chill."
 
What ya girl said right here. You messed the situation up by pushing to hard, giving her money, and giving her the opportunity to throw you in the friend zone and play on your "desperate" attempts to make her yours. I would say move on from the relationship want and leave it alone. If you can (which from your post, I honestly don't think you can), then keep it strictly friends: no smashing or nothing like that. Just chill and try not to let them emotions get too involved. And take that $500 loss son. Don't ever mention it again cause it'll be petty, being that you offered the money even though you shouldn;t. 
 
If you really like her you should leave her alone otherwise she's going to manipulate you and break your heart in the worst way if this is how she got you feeling already. Dead serious you should be thankful she gave you the heads up that she just wants to be friends instead of torturing you.
 
:lol my advice three6 is to take the $500 L and move on. Nothing you can do at this point and you don't want to dig yourself a deeper hole than you're already in
 
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