- Jul 31, 2012
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Have the hard conversation on how you feel.Need help, man. Few months ago, my girl tell me her uncle is getting married. We should go to the wedding. Cool. I put in for a personal day off at work. Found out last week, her mom conveniently "forgot" to rsvp, so the uncle only knows that immediate family is coming. I'm not accounted for, I can't go. So now I'm stuck on a Saturday, alone, without **** to do. I'm pissed. Should I be? I'm tired of bending over backwards to make plans only for them to keep faking through, and I'm left out to dry. Plans tonight to grab dinner, head to the airport to scoop up her grandmother who's coming to visit from Puerto Rico for a week. Cool. It's my off day. Cleared out my evening schedule. Turns out she gets off work and "remembers" that her mom (who is flying back in on the same flight, gone for two weeks) has a **** load of luggage, as does her grandmother. And her little brother. Once again, I'm left out to dry, what the hell am I supposed to do now. I cancelled what I had going on tonight (wasn't anything big, but still.). Getting dressed now to head over to her her house so we can have a good ol talk. I'm trying to calm down before I get there.
Don't internalize it, tell your lady how you feel unappreciated and the only way for us to last in the future is to have clear communication on events that affect both parties.
OR( I've done this before and my wife got the hint)
Be a petty *** mofo and the next time she "has an event" you conviently forget and leave her to figure it out.
Now just know when you do this, I'm pretty sure WW3 will take place and she will forget about her actions before and call you all kinds of jerks or words in her native language( I know my wife tries to give me work in Tagalog but I'm learning) and that's when you hit her with that work about the bs she has been pulling.
The best option is number 1 and tell her it's irresponsible and selfish on their part. But it's going to be tough unless your girl understands how you feel. Attack or having conversations with females about their friends or family can get very emotional but it's a conversation you need to have no matter how hard it is[emoji]9996[/emoji][emoji]127999[/emoji]️