TAY: thread about yambs...

[gatorbeltsnpattiemelts]

And I didn't mean I don't like his loyalty, come on now it was more so like he's so loyal it would get in the way of him approaching the hitting on women as a learning exercise, so to speak. I love the fact that he's loyal; one of the many inside qualities he has that a lot of guys I dated didn't.

Any help is appreciated, if he was your boy and lacked confidence how would you address it?

 

[rrlegend]

And I didn't mean I don't like his loyalty, come on now it was more so like he's so loyal it would get in the way of him approaching the hitting on women as a learning exercise, so to speak. I love the fact that he's loyal; one of the many inside qualities he has that a lot of guys I dated didn't.

Any help is appreciated, if he was your boy and lacked confidence how would you address it?

Wait so he had confidence to step to you in the first place and feels like he has the right to settle . Is he stressing or depressed about something ? Going through a midlife - midlife crisis ? I know plenty of women in the past wish I was complacent with they *** so we could play house. But your playing a deadly game with him because you give him the green light on certain things he's gonna start thinking and over analyzing the situation . For 1 he's gonna think your doing something behind his back and I feel guilty about it so it letting him get a pass and secondly your putting the grass is greener idea in his head which could be the wrong thing he needs right now. Why don't y'all do something competitive toghter like as corner as it sounds like kart racing, shooting , or golfing ? Him being the lonely brother at the bar with his chill friends might catch the attention of an ex Thot that wants a dude she can bring around her fam and throw that thang on him and know he's waiting on her.

Just my take on it . I seen it happen to cousin saying her dude was settling and he wasn't all that any more. A wild Tyrone appeared and got them yambs , she got knocked up by t-sizzle ( he left) and dude bounced . She's still recovering from the L because she wanted the best of both worlds, not saying that's gonna happen to yourself because at least your addressing the problem and asking for help and if I was in d-town I would help him out .

 

[daytona 5000]

Back up QB trying to be the franchise player smh. She has that awesome jawsome so I sorta want to hold on to her, but how can I help her understand her role?

 

[gllahone84]

Bench players talking like starters I hate it.

 

[rrlegend]

Back up QB trying to be the franchise player smh. She has that awesome jawsome so I sorta want to hold on to her, but how can I help her understand her role?

Drake album
Temperatures dropping
Halloween , thanksgiving , Christmas

She want somebody to take her out and meet the famb

 

[usabasketball08]

@ "a wild Tyrone appeared"

 

[elderwatsondiggs]

[COLOR=#red]Gator best advice for people who want to stay in a relationship is to keep in-house issues in house so to speak. You are honestly backtracking in order to save face...sorta how like Jim Irsay who is the owner of the Colts is trying to back pedal from the disparaging remarks he made about his former QB Peyton Manning when he received backlash for the remarks. How it came out is how you feel, and it doesn't look good. Save yourself the elaborate explanations by not airing out your biz especially since it's your main. Notice most of the stories in here are about side peeps, random smashes, or already doomed relationships. I'm saying just imagine how your man would feel if he read your initial statement...especially in a thread like this...dude would be devastated or at the very least feel slightly betrayed.

Gator, you don't have to try to be cool to kick it with the "fellas" in here. I mean to be honest I feel you try too hard to be one of the guys. To be honest you would be accepted just as much or even more if you simply provided the female perspective without all the false testosterone added. I'm not even mad at you, I'm just keeping true.[/COLOR]

 

[gatorbeltsnpattiemelts]

Wait so he had confidence to step to you in the first place and feels like he has the right to settle . Is he stressing or depressed about something ? Going through a midlife - midlife crisis ? I know plenty of women in the past wish I was complacent with they *** so we could play house. But your playing a deadly game with him because you give him the green light on certain things he's gonna start thinking and over analyzing the situation . For 1 he's gonna think your doing something behind his back and I feel guilty about it so it letting him get a pass and secondly your putting the grass is greener idea in his head which could be the wrong thing he needs right now. Why don't y'all do something competitive toghter like as corner as it sounds like kart racing, shooting , or golfing ? Him being the lonely brother at the bar with his chill friends might catch the attention of an ex Thot that wants a dude she can bring around her fam and throw that thang on him and know he's waiting on her.

Just my take on it . I seen it happen to cousin saying her dude was settling and he wasn't all that any more. A wild Tyrone appeared and got them yambs , she got knocked up by t-sizzle ( he left) and dude bounced . She's still recovering from the L because she wanted the best of both worlds, not saying that's gonna happen to yourself because at least your addressing the problem and asking for help and if I was in d-town I would help him out .

I see what you are saying, and the example about your cousin plays into my "instant gratification" idea/concept. She might not have known what she had but I do, and unless that wild Tyrone is Boris kodjoe or Bradley Cooper I'm good. A dude from my past randomly hit me to but I stopped that dead in its tracks. I get hit on but not too the point where I'm fighting them off usually when I say I'm taken guys are respectful enough to move around.


Him going out and hitting on women may or may not happen, I was just thinking of ways to boost his confidence and that was all I could think of. Based on what you guys are saying seems like that's not going to work anyway. Unfortunately it's not like knitting or coming where you can just take a class. Just want him to be the best he can x he's working on it though so only time will tell. Last night he said things I've never heard him say before, and not even in relation to us but just work on where he sees himself in the future. I was really proud of him because he never used to talk like that.

 

[cliffordsmith]

She wants him to pick up some chicks so they can have some 3 sums. 

Gator how did he get you?

Im curious.

 

[rrlegend]

I see what you are saying, and the example about your cousin plays into my "instant gratification" idea/concept. She might not have known what she had but I do, and unless that wild Tyrone is Boris kodjoe or Bradley Cooper I'm good. A dude from my past randomly hit me to but I stopped that dead in its tracks. I get hit on but not too the point where I'm fighting them off usually when I say I'm taken guys are respectful enough to move around.


Him going out and hitting on women may or may not happen, I was just thinking of ways to boost his confidence and that was all I could think of. Based on what you guys are saying seems like that's not going to work anyway. Unfortunately it's not like knitting or coming where you can just take a class. Just want him to be the best he can x he's working on it though so only time will tell. Last night he said things I've never heard him say before, and not even in relation to us but just work on where he sees himself in the future. I was really proud of him because he never used to talk like that.

Go to the gym with , take him shooting , or Andretti racing , you' be surprised what that might do to him . How often do y'all go out on dates ? And how often are y'all getting it in ? I know that's a more personal question for females than dudes so u don't have to answer that


Also my dudes I finally got some much needed r and r so I'm going to make that post in oilfeilds later on

 

[gatorbeltsnpattiemelts]

Go to the gym with , take him shooting , or Andretti racing , you' be surprised what that might do to him . How often do y'all go out on dates ? And how often are y'all getting it in ? I know that's a more personal question for females than dudes so u don't have to answer that


Also my dudes I finally got some much needed r and r so I'm going to make that post in oil fields later on

yea; we both work out but not together because of our work schedules. Never thought about that, but yea.... shooting would be good too.

Gator best advice for people who want to stay in a relationship is to keep in-house issues in house so to speak. You are honestly backtracking in order to save face...sorta how like Jim Irsay who is the owner of the Colts is trying to back pedal from the disparaging remarks he made about his former QB Peyton Manning when he received backlash for the remarks. How it came out is how you feel, and it doesn't look good. Save yourself the elaborate explanations by not airing out your biz especially since it's your main. Notice most of the stories in here are about side peeps, random smashes, or already doomed relationships. I'm saying just imagine how your man would feel if he read your initial statement...especially in a thread like this...dude would be devastated or at the very least feel slightly betrayed.

Gator, you don't have to try to be cool to kick it with the "fellas" in here. I mean to be honest I feel you try too hard to be one of the guys. To be honest you would be accepted just as much or even more if you simply provided the female perspective without all the false testosterone added. I'm not even mad at you, I'm just keeping true.

this was something really important and personal and you right--- maybe I shouldn't have posted it, but let's keep it funky, I been posting about my "mains" in here from the beginning I'm a girl, I don't have side pieces. Ya'll offer great insight (most of the time) and the few that don't well hell I just ignore them. My initial post was about ways I could help him boost his confidence or ppl who'd take him out... Everything I said in my initial post I said to him, he just didn't get as sensitive about it as lot of ppl in here did :\ I did tell him I was thinking about leaving, and I did tell him that I wasn't attracted to the weak/no confidence thing. I ALSO mentioned the 6'4 walking around like you 4'11 thing... perhaps in your head you heard me yelling it, waving my head and pointing my finger into his forehead but I didn't . Like I said, we just had a long honest conversation.

I gueeeeeesss I can get with you on the betrayal thing...but not EVERYBODY in talks about mains or doomed relationships. I mean let's be for real for real when you yourself posted pics/stories of flirting and getting numbers from other chicks when you had a wife


I been on NT damn near 10 years so fitting in with one of the guys is what you had to do to stick around. **** has changed, so that's my fault. Thanks for whatever advice was given to those that helped.


I already kinda chilled from this thread but I just thought I poke my head in again. Holler.

 

[krazy88s]

She wants him to pick up some chicks so they can have some 3 sums. 

Gator how did he get you?

Im curious.

Maybe she got him?

 

[cliffordsmith]

 

She wants him to pick up some chicks so they can have some 3 sums. 

Gator how did he get you?

Im curious.

Maybe she got him?

Maybe

 

[champagne papi]

TAYers,
Need a opinion,
Guaranteed yambs or wants a actual chill date

 

[rrlegend]

Have u slid in home before ?

 

[champagne papi]

Never...
An I don't want to ruin it.
Cause it's fat(yambs)
The best.

 

[rrlegend]

Sounds like you'll get some convo and maybe some cuddling . But if it was me I would let her know the intentions around 11 pm and play " gimmie dat by webbie" at 2 am on the way to her crib

 

[champagne papi]

Sounds like you'll get some convo and maybe some cuddling . But if it was me I would let her know the intentions around 11 pm and play " gimmie dat by webbie" at 2 am on the way to her crib

Haha Forsure ,
Uploading to iPhone
Update coming soon
Got this lil one using the TAYers advice

 

[joepac12]

Webbie never let's down lol

 

[doitallpaul]

met this cute girl thursday night at a happy hour, she said she kind of had a bf - thought i was getting set up to get sucker punched, i ended up drinkin too much and wasnt let back in didnt even get her number

last nite was at the bar by myself for a quick drink and sitting next to 2 girls both cute couldnt even think of how to get 1 of there numbers smh

whatever tryna get it tonite!!

 

[Mark Antony]

Webbie never let's down lol

Not with the bass hitting in the whip, nope.

 

[MetalMario]

welp, another foul 

in my history book

take a girl out on a date, I would call myself at master at dates... get me with a girl 1 on 1 it's over, but I ask for the check, it comes she ops to pay, which is a no-no of course, guys are suppose to do it, it was in her hand and puts her card, and says it like it's nothing "its my husband's card, he just adds money all the time, he's in the military"

deading it all man, i felt so disgusted after that B

 

[tomdiginson]

welp, another foul :x in my history book

take a girl out on a date, I would call myself at master at dates... get me with a girl 1 on 1 it's over, but I ask for the check, it comes she ops to pay, which is a no-no of course, guys are suppose to do it, it was in her hand and puts her card, and says it like it's nothing "its my husband's card, he just adds money all the time, he's in the military"

:x deading it all man, i felt so disgusted after that B

She is cold

 

[romedadude]

To the cats getting choked up talking to yambs this should help you....


Don't go into the convo thinking I want to get with this chick, approach the conversation as someone you are just talking to without an intention. This will relax you enough that you feel comfortable enough to escalate your interaction.


Also breathe, that is critical. When your mind is moving 100 mph, settle down and breathe. It really works. Think of what you want to say and say it in a manner that suits you.

I don't know why but sometimes I find it impossible to internalize this.

I feel you bruh, **** is so simple but I can't pick up on it. It's like I get that target in the crosshairs and I'm all about baggin and gettin it in. But now that I think about it, what JayHood said is the ****** KEY. I just think about about interactions with women at work and I try to stay professional, on some Day Day "Not on Duty" steez and I get play. My dumb *** just never picked up on it until it was too late.

 

[black migo]

welp, another foul :x in my history book

take a girl out on a date, I would call myself at master at dates... get me with a girl 1 on 1 it's over, but I ask for the check, it comes she ops to pay, which is a no-no of course, guys are suppose to do it, it was in her hand and puts her card, and says it like it's nothing "its my husband's card, he just adds money all the time, he's in the military"

:x deading it all man, i felt so disgusted after that B

Smh dont dead her, i would use the hell out of that sneaky b****