the thread about nothing...

[DCAllAfrican]

Probably that they don’t see their friends much. I see mine every weekend

Yea, you are definitely an anomaly. Most folks that I know (and hear speaking), don't get around like that as a group only but a few times per year.

 

[mplsdunk]

I know I am but I try to not let life get in the way. I don’t want to be alone and worked all my friends away.

One owns a restaurant so we all pulled up to see him and eat yesterday and going to ride dirt bikes with a bunch today.

It’s hard but I’d rather skip mowing the lawn or whatever or ot at work vs not have friends.

 

[darthska]

Explain.

Unprocessed feelings.
Whether it's an inability or an unwillingness, being able to talk for hours about Fantasy league & athletes [obviously] disconnected from the group, but sitting in shock & mostly silence when a friend of 10/20 years shares that he's going through a critical event... that's not good.

Like, as men, we gotta talk about that ****.

In my experience & observation, society does not [collectively] value men's mental health... but men also don't [individually] value men's mental health.

 

[tokes99]

Unprocessed feelings.
Whether it's an inability or an unwillingness, being able to talk for hours about Fantasy league & athletes [obviously] disconnected from the group, but sitting in shock & mostly silence when a friend of 10/20 years shares that he's going through a critical event... that's not good.

Like, as men, we gotta talk about that ****.

In my experience & observation, society does not [collectively] value men's mental health... but men also don't [individually] value men's mental health.

definitely agree with the later sentiments vis a vis how both men & society value/view men’s well being for men’s on sake vs being productive for society…that noted, i think men are just generally less apt to be communicative about emotion eliciting stuff specifically & life stuff generally…it’s something to the studies that note that men across the board tend to use less words daily than women

two things can be true tho & i’d say the fact that man actually did tell his bredren what he had going on during their get together points to pretty solid relationship with the mandem, (men are kinda cool w/‘suffering in silence’ for a myriad of reasons, i believe) man dropped something heavy on what is a fun/light ting, so taking a moment (≈ 20 seconds, probably way less because quiet in a moment like that feels like an eternity) to process that in silence isn’t that crazy or necessarily means they have some issue unprocessed feeling rather maybe men just process stuff differently than the way i kinda think men are told they should process tings which tends to be based on how women would; nature vs. nature type stuff

 

[DCAllAfrican]

definitely agree with the later sentiments vis a vis how both men & society value/view men’s well being for men’s on sake vs being productive for society…that noted, i think men are just generally less apt to be communicative about emotion eliciting stuff specifically & life stuff generally…it’s something to the studies that note that men across the board tend to use less words daily than women

two things can be true tho & i’d say the fact that man actually did tell his bredren what he had going on during their get together points to pretty solid relationship with the mandem, (men are kinda cool w/‘suffering in silence’ for a myriad of reasons, i believe) man dropped something heavy on what is a fun/light ting, so taking a moment (≈ 20 seconds, probably way less because quiet in a moment like that feels like an eternity) to process that in silence isn’t that crazy or necessarily means they have some issue unprocessed feeling rather maybe men just process stuff differently than the way i kinda think men are told they should process tings which tends to be based on how women would; nature vs. nature type stuff

 

[mplsdunk]

Also you gotta speak up though if you’re going through it.

Like my old co worker offed himself, it was sad and he was really cool legit person but we all had zero clue he was feeling like that. Even his family didn’t.

We could have helped him if he told us and would have because everyone loved him.

 

[Blue Mamba]

Probably that they don’t see their friends much. I see mine every weekend

I see mine every weekend too. I know how rare having an active social life is for adults as you get older so I don’t take it for granted.

 

[mplsdunk]

Yeah and it’s not like the whole group is getting together some have def fallen off but I still got a bunch willing to do stuff even for an hour or two.

My wife’s friends are cool too so I consider them my friends if we get together.

 

[had pants]