Never build your world around a woman
You often hear RnB crooners sing about building their life around women. This is one of the most dangerous and selfish things you can do. Not only does it put an undue amount of pressure on her since you apparently made her responsible for your mental health, but you are also burning your cloak of leadership that comes with being a man.
The first question you need to ask yourself is what in the world makes any woman so important that you need to build around her? Also, knowing the temporal nature of dealing with these women, why in the world you even consider doing such a thing? The truth is that as a man and as a leader, she needs to build around YOU. YOU should be the foundation, not her.
What you DO need to focus on building on is your character, a stable financial situation, your relationship with God, and just an overall highly stable and yet fun state of being. A woman should be a PART of your life and never your life.