Originally Posted by
Craftsy21
Originally Posted by
DearWinter219
Originally Posted by Craftsy21
You aren't gay based on just having sex.. it's a mindset thing.
This would be like saying if you hate strawberries but you ate them one time, you all of a sudden like strawberries. Just because you participate in something doesn't mean you enjoy it and wish to do it again.
I'm about to sound very contradictory...
That makes perfect sense. Having gay sex = having a gay orientation still, but it makes perfect sense. The problem arises when you try to label what "is" homosexuality. Is it a thought or an action? I think it's both. Having gay thoughts while living a straight lifestyle makes you a gay person in denial. Having a straight mindset but doing gay sex for money makes you a gay person in denial also. Of course, both scenarios can mean you're a straight man with gay urges or maybe just gay tendencies, couldn't they? Maybe, there is no black or white, just different shades of grey that we all fall into. And once your gradient is a certain vale, you're technically considered gay or straight, but no one is truly black or white on the scale. That makes the most practical sense here, but it would never be accepted because that would mean that each and every one of us walking this earth is gay to some degree, and I'm probably the only person on NT that's secure enough in my sexuality to read that and go, "Hmmm, that's deep son..." and go back to being regular old me w/o any anxiety.
nah you're on the right track.
Consider when a person labeled as a gay man has straight sex... is he all of a sudden straight now, even though he prefers being gay? I'm willing to bet most people on here (homophobes) would say he's still gay... but so then why is the reverse action, a straight man having gay sex just for a movie, all of a sudden gay?
The actions of a person alone can't determine what their sexual preference is, because as you said, plenty of gay men live in denial of it for most of their lives out of shame.
It's just funny that some people think of gayness or gay tendencies as some blemish or tarnish that once you have applied to yourself once, you carry with you forever... but straightness is seen as permanent for the the most part. Gay sex one out of 100 times and you're gay... straight sex 1 out of 100 times and you're gay.