yo NT, why are you single?

[|A-Man|]

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

Originally Posted by Nyota de la star

I don't have a soul.
...
No, seriously I just haven't found any guys that I thought trustworthy (I attract horrible people

). Not to mention
my last two run ins with the opposite sex have been some of the worst experiences in my life. I just don't trust N's anymore.

Sounds like you might need to try talking to a white guy

 

[timcity2000]

 I got hit on by a gay dude this weekend, I was kinda flattered.

My cousin got hit on by one a couple of weeks before Christmas and it made his day.  

 Last weekend a guy was trying to get me to go home with him 

damn, some guys have all the luck, lol....

 

[timcity2000]

 I got hit on by a gay dude this weekend, I was kinda flattered.

My cousin got hit on by one a couple of weeks before Christmas and it made his day.  

 Last weekend a guy was trying to get me to go home with him 

damn, some guys have all the luck, lol....

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Originally Posted by Mark Antony

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

well, since you asked...

i'm too shy to approach other guys that i'm interested in. definite lack of self-confidence.

also i'd feel like i was hiding a secret since i'm not completely out yet.

   being openly gay on this message board takes guts. You're awesome

 I got hit on by a gay dude this weekend, I was kinda flattered.

Something just feels douchey about this response. Almost patronizing, like "let me hurry up and look cool by responding, and the same time being patronizing by saying he's awesome because he's a spectacle and not a normal person, and also being condescending to everyone else."

Way to pull the freakshow card.

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Originally Posted by Mark Antony

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

well, since you asked...

i'm too shy to approach other guys that i'm interested in. definite lack of self-confidence.

also i'd feel like i was hiding a secret since i'm not completely out yet.

   being openly gay on this message board takes guts. You're awesome

 I got hit on by a gay dude this weekend, I was kinda flattered.

Something just feels douchey about this response. Almost patronizing, like "let me hurry up and look cool by responding, and the same time being patronizing by saying he's awesome because he's a spectacle and not a normal person, and also being condescending to everyone else."

Way to pull the freakshow card.

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by Mark Antony

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

well, since you asked...

i'm too shy to approach other guys that i'm interested in. definite lack of self-confidence.

also i'd feel like i was hiding a secret since i'm not completely out yet.

   being openly gay on this message board takes guts. You're awesome

 I got hit on by a gay dude this weekend, I was kinda flattered.

Something just feels douchey about this response. Almost patronizing, like "let me hurry up and look cool by responding, and the same time being patronizing by saying he's awesome because he's a spectacle and not a normal person, and also being condescending to everyone else."



But i figure a dude is a dude, gay or not.  Bustin nuts is atop our list of things to do, so it shouldn't be hard to bag dudes at all.

   or maybe, just maybe i'm really fond of gay people

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by Mark Antony

Originally Posted by AntonLaVey

Originally Posted by TimCity2000

well, since you asked...

i'm too shy to approach other guys that i'm interested in. definite lack of self-confidence.

also i'd feel like i was hiding a secret since i'm not completely out yet.

   being openly gay on this message board takes guts. You're awesome

 I got hit on by a gay dude this weekend, I was kinda flattered.

Something just feels douchey about this response. Almost patronizing, like "let me hurry up and look cool by responding, and the same time being patronizing by saying he's awesome because he's a spectacle and not a normal person, and also being condescending to everyone else."



But i figure a dude is a dude, gay or not.  Bustin nuts is atop our list of things to do, so it shouldn't be hard to bag dudes at all.

   or maybe, just maybe i'm really fond of gay people

 

[Mark Antony]

matta fact, dipset.

 

[Mark Antony]

matta fact, dipset.

 

[johnnyredstorm]

purple city

 

[johnnyredstorm]

purple city

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by Mark Antony

Right, cuz they're like a spectacle to you who need someone like you to say things for them. Imagine some unknowingly condescending white liberal saying "i'm fond of black people" like they're goldfish or some %%@*. I'm probably reaching cuz i'm tired, don't even know why i started, i don't want no parts of this %%@* dewey.

Meh I mean I see where you're comign from but yea you're reaching a bit. For me to be condescending would mean that I think I'm better than gay people in anyway which is absurd. I'm just a fan of culture, have many gay people I'm close with and I empathize with their struggle (couldn't imagine living an existence where I couldn't be myself).

 

[antonlavey]

Originally Posted by Mark Antony

Right, cuz they're like a spectacle to you who need someone like you to say things for them. Imagine some unknowingly condescending white liberal saying "i'm fond of black people" like they're goldfish or some %%@*. I'm probably reaching cuz i'm tired, don't even know why i started, i don't want no parts of this %%@* dewey.

Meh I mean I see where you're comign from but yea you're reaching a bit. For me to be condescending would mean that I think I'm better than gay people in anyway which is absurd. I'm just a fan of culture, have many gay people I'm close with and I empathize with their struggle (couldn't imagine living an existence where I couldn't be myself).

 

[brettthejett]

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

purple city

Sniper status 

 

[brettthejett]

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

purple city

Sniper status 

 

[D Fly]

Because the only females I attract nowadays are either too crazy/weird , or already with a bf.

 

[D Fly]

Because the only females I attract nowadays are either too crazy/weird , or already with a bf.

 

[third]

ok here's mine when i try to approach hot chix it never goes past first/second date before it ends
but when they approach me i seem to be genuinely more interested
How do i repel gold diggers, fat chix and sluts in reform(you know, the one girl everybody's $$%@** and yet she tries to act new around me trying not to let me hit ) those seem to be the girls that are upfront about their interest
The worst is when I'm at a bar somehow random fat chix show up strike up convo then they never leave

 

[third]

ok here's mine when i try to approach hot chix it never goes past first/second date before it ends
but when they approach me i seem to be genuinely more interested
How do i repel gold diggers, fat chix and sluts in reform(you know, the one girl everybody's $$%@** and yet she tries to act new around me trying not to let me hit ) those seem to be the girls that are upfront about their interest
The worst is when I'm at a bar somehow random fat chix show up strike up convo then they never leave

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Originally Posted by brettTHEjett

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

purple city

Sniper status 

you're supposed to say byrd gang.

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Originally Posted by brettTHEjett

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

purple city

Sniper status 

you're supposed to say byrd gang.

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Use the fat chick to get to her friends. Then when you get there, find the hottest one, make eye contact and talk to her (fat chick will cockblock so make sure you get her name to continue the conversation on Facebook--then get number from there), plant the seed and then if you're really horny, you could catch a BJ from the fat chick and tell her to keep it under wraps, and you'll be money.

Because the only females I attract nowadays are either too crazy/weird , or already with a bf.
You little greaseball you, I miss you <3

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Use the fat chick to get to her friends. Then when you get there, find the hottest one, make eye contact and talk to her (fat chick will cockblock so make sure you get her name to continue the conversation on Facebook--then get number from there), plant the seed and then if you're really horny, you could catch a BJ from the fat chick and tell her to keep it under wraps, and you'll be money.

Because the only females I attract nowadays are either too crazy/weird , or already with a bf.
You little greaseball you, I miss you <3

 

[cwrite78]

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

Originally Posted by CWrite78

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

Originally Posted by CWrite78

pathetically shy when it comes to the opposite sex.





pathetically.

Honestly, I used to be the same exact way and then I realized there wasn't any point. Just say %%$! it, not care about anything that happens and be you. As long as you're confident and genuine, you'll catch some buns.

trust me, it is a lot easier said than done. i have never been a confident person, so im sure that plays into it a lot. im also too negative because i dont give myself any credit for anything.



honestly, im sure i have some sort of personally disorder that doesnt let me be more social.

I've made the transformation and it's actually quite simple. Just change your entire mindset around, only think positive thoughts (and every time you have a negative thought, be aware of it and change it immediately), speak positively (that means both in a grammatically structured kind of way and being appreciative of all that is beautiful), abandon frivolous thoughts, maintain full eye contact with everyone you speak to (you could even practice while watching tv, just stare into the eyes of the characters) and be proud to be yourself (look in your reflection in windows and mirrors, puff out your chest, and smile at the wonderful kind of person you truly want to become). Once you have good body language (that exerts self-confidence and appreciation), girls will notice you more and you could work something out with them. Real talk, you're a pretty cool dude (one of the few guys on here that I find reasonably agreeable), so got out and let everyone know what you're really about.

And also, try reading some Buddhist literature, something like The Dhammapuda, which will help you be more aware of the good in your life so you could appreciate the Universe.

I appreciate it and thank you for the advice and kind words. I know I have to change eventually and can't live my life in my own little self pity bubble. But this has been an on going problem for as long as I can remember, but you're 100% right. If I don't do anything about it, I'll be stuck like this forever. I will work on it little by little.

I've gone the buddhist literature route, but I'll have to check out that book soon. again, thanks.

 

[cwrite78]

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

Originally Posted by CWrite78

Originally Posted by JohnnyRedStorm

Originally Posted by CWrite78

pathetically shy when it comes to the opposite sex.





pathetically.

Honestly, I used to be the same exact way and then I realized there wasn't any point. Just say %%$! it, not care about anything that happens and be you. As long as you're confident and genuine, you'll catch some buns.

trust me, it is a lot easier said than done. i have never been a confident person, so im sure that plays into it a lot. im also too negative because i dont give myself any credit for anything.



honestly, im sure i have some sort of personally disorder that doesnt let me be more social.

I've made the transformation and it's actually quite simple. Just change your entire mindset around, only think positive thoughts (and every time you have a negative thought, be aware of it and change it immediately), speak positively (that means both in a grammatically structured kind of way and being appreciative of all that is beautiful), abandon frivolous thoughts, maintain full eye contact with everyone you speak to (you could even practice while watching tv, just stare into the eyes of the characters) and be proud to be yourself (look in your reflection in windows and mirrors, puff out your chest, and smile at the wonderful kind of person you truly want to become). Once you have good body language (that exerts self-confidence and appreciation), girls will notice you more and you could work something out with them. Real talk, you're a pretty cool dude (one of the few guys on here that I find reasonably agreeable), so got out and let everyone know what you're really about.

And also, try reading some Buddhist literature, something like The Dhammapuda, which will help you be more aware of the good in your life so you could appreciate the Universe.

I appreciate it and thank you for the advice and kind words. I know I have to change eventually and can't live my life in my own little self pity bubble. But this has been an on going problem for as long as I can remember, but you're 100% right. If I don't do anything about it, I'll be stuck like this forever. I will work on it little by little.

I've gone the buddhist literature route, but I'll have to check out that book soon. again, thanks.