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I would hope you try to find a way to accept them if they are reaching out to include you based on love.
If love ain’t involved than I feel you. Keep your distance.
But also understand not all people are like you or raised like you. If you know better than them. Then teach them. Influence them about their behavior and try to get it right.
My dad was calling me often for the past 2.5 months
He called today but I ain’t pick up since I work and I can’t use my phone
He left me a voicemail cursin me out and saying I don’t have to talk to him. People been reaching out to me but I don’t respond. Not sure what he means by that.
Anyways I just texted this to him. I’m tired of it tbh and figured I’d just dead it once and for all
Am I alone in thinking this? Vol family
Kinda a long read
I grew up with my moms. Dad wasn’t around much if at all. Only people I’m really cool with on his side of the fam is my grandma and grandad. I visit them often
My dad was always in the streets and because of that he missed out on a lot. He tries to reach out but I’m over it. Been over it for years. Don’t see the point in us ever talking again
He has 2 kids besides me. My brother is a younger version of him (he’s 20 now but I️ met him for the first time in 2006). In trouble and whatnot. Back when I worked at the gym he would hit me up saying that he wants to get brolic and we should lift together. It’ll be our way of bonding so I’m like cool. We went 2 times then he stops and starts flaking and ignoring me. Cool.
Then recently he’s talking smack cause he visits our granddad (he has health issues, but I go more than anyone. Always have). This dude is rubbing it in my face and saying how they want to LET me in the family....wtf? That rubbed me the wrong way
My sister (22 I️ think) would always hit me up for money. Like that’s all u think of me? A bank? She had a baby last year and her son turned 1 a week ago. We never had a relationship like that, but she didn’t inv me to the baby shower. I still haven’t seen this kid and it’s been a year. Granted I really don’t care. But I hear she’s mad at me cause I haven’t reached out to see my nephew
But it’s like, look at how you talk to me. Only when you want something. And I don’t play that. We didn’t ever really talk like that but why would I️ when you always want money from me?
I feel that just cause we family don’t mean I have to **** **** with you. I don’t care who you are. We share blood, but that doesn’t mean I have to talk to you
But like my aunt (dads sister) would always be like oh I spoke to your dad. He said call him. But she knows the situation...why would you even want me to call him? I don’t wanna
We work together as well, and she’s like your sister is mad at you cause you don’t come around and stuff. My grandmother is like you need to talk to your sister and see your nephew. But why?
Just we family I have to speak to these people? I’m 26 and wouldn’t care if I never spoke to them and my sisters kid for the rest of my life
What do you guys think? Am I alone thinking that I don’t have to speak to these people, regardless if we’re related?
Just cause people are blood (gang gang lol) don't mean they family.
Go about your life. A lot of times people make the excuse to someone in your shoes "what if they die? What if you need someone?"
Do you rely on them now, have you ever relied on them, have they ever shown they could be relied upon? If the answer is no, then why sweat it. the only reason you feel any kind of way cause "we suppose to be family." They aint acting like family, so don't invest no time.
People (especially family) hate when you don’t need them for anything. Treat them with a long handled spoon, I’m the type who will cut off anyone, especially if you’re leaching. Don’t care if you’re family or not.
I’ve cut off my dad also, but again, when you don’t “need” people, that makes them more infuriated. Keep your social circle full of upstanding, and accountable people.
One thing I dislike, are adults who are not accountable. Your sister has a whole baby father out here, and acting a fool with you? SMH.
And lil bro better learn that them streets don’t care about NOBODY. He’ll find out either the hard way, or come to his senses.