Am I in the wrong? Upset g/fs family on Christmas....

[newmoanyuh]

Not showing respect and disrespecting are two different things. Take mental notes and don't put yourself in that predicament again. You don't have to scream and shout with your mouth to make a loud statement.
Don't let your emotions cause you to act out even though everything you said was true and if you were in the right. Pay attention to the red flags and keep it moving.
You got the greatest Xmas gift of all.

I agree, you would have came out truly on top if you just said. "I'm sorry, but I left my family for this. And I have to work tomorrow, I don't have time for this. Peace." and just straight up and left them hanging.

There was nothing wrong with the little jabs, but they just weren't necessary, and it kind of turns you into the bad guy (even though you aren't). You do have to act differently when you're in someone else's hood, because no one will be objective or on your side when it comes to family. Also, if you're going through this at 3 months... bullet dodged.

 

[jesusshuttlesworth34]

This belongs on a Dave Chappelle's "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong"

"I don't like people playing on my phone!"

 

[powerballin]

This belongs on a Dave Chappelle's "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong"

"I don't like people playing on my phone!"

"Granny NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"  he's beating off in his room now instead inside some X-mas yambs

"please never contact me again"

 

[cragmatic]

Trust me, I did not scream or yell. I spoke very calmly and called the situation as I saw it. All I said was I left my family christmas party early to spend time with you and your family, and you have been off not even in the same room as I am the entire time I've been here, They then proceeded to attack me and my character, and I stood my ground...

 

[balloonoboy]

In the heat of the moment, some things were said that shouldn't have been said.

You were the outsider looking to get into the fold. Even if you were forced by your gf - you still obliged.

In the future, just keep your cool. Be as respectful as you can be and get out of there. The first straw was talking down to the mother. You ****** yourself by getting into it with the bf and sister.

Had you left after you told off mom dukes, things could have been salvaged. But, you may have had a weak-minded girl on your hands who may not have really been ready for a relationship anyway. So you used a few bullets, but dodged the biggest one - the one aimed at you.

Live and let live bro. It's Christmas. We ain't got time for that.

 

[bossjin]

You gotta look out for numba 1 and you did that. Beeotch wasted 2 hours of your Christmas which couldve been well spent with your family. Shes wrong your right, tell her dont just back up her mom, look at it from your pov. Tell her all NT says they're wrong and text her the link to this page.

 

[iblink]

You don't have to scream and shout with your mouth to make a loud statement.

 

[checks grossman]

Not showing respect and disrespecting are two different things.

Yep.

Just know you're probably better off - to be honest - who in their right mind puts down another persons way & means...my man said he works at BestBuy, not joogin' stones to kids. Like I said earlier it probably is for the better, who knows how far the independent blogger or her mother for that matter, will go w/ the disrespect. Words were exchanged.It happens..but it doesn't matter if y'all were in the Wendys drive thru or her house, it's beside the point.

 

[flacobey]

Wait this guy is a guest in this woman's house. I don't know how yall were raised but all that "called her out" stuff isn't even an option. Then dude disrespected my dude that works at staples too. All because he was about to miss a movie. Dude has no respect for older people or other peoples houses. Sometimes you gotta take a L to win and he didn't want to. Made himself look like a clown in the process. Cragmatic should be apologizing not her

I agree, you gotta know when and how to pick your battles. Arguing with the girl's moms during the first time y'all meet wasn't smart.

 

[cragmatic]

It wasn't the first time I've met her mom, I have met her mom 4-5 times before this happened.

 

[stunnafasho03]

She just texted me and told me never to contact her again

I can't believe this.....

dont trip off one girl fam, there will be plenty more

Qft

 

[gatorbeltsnpattiemelts]

So I've been with this girl for only a little over 3 months. Her mom kept making a huge deal about me coming over there and getting to know me. So I told my g/f I would leave my family Christmas early to go to hers to make her mom happy. Well I showed up, and for 2 hours while I was there, her mom was not in the room, no where to be found. My g/f said something to her, and she just brushed it off. We had plans to go see Django Unchained later, so I told her we had to get going, and her mom then comes in the room after I had been there for 2 hours and tells me to see the movie tomorrow, I'm like well I work tomorrow. She kept saying well just wait...
So I did what I probably shouldn't and said I left my family Christmas early to come spend time with yours and you are asking me to stay when you have been no where to be found the entire time I've been here.... needless to say it didn't end well...
PS Even my girl says her mom is crazy.

1. way to stick up for yourself You are not in the wrong
2. uhm, you may want to think about your gf/s relationship with her mother as a potential factor into ya'lls relationship.... like, if you see yourself getting serious and being with this chick then ya'll need to have a sit down about her mother and how involved much time you guys will spend with her. Your gf saying she's crazy is one thing, but if she is enabling the craziness then that's a whole other ball game

 

[blakep267]

Was seeing django worth losing "yambs" as nt calls them? Even if its only a temporary loss, was it worth it? did you actually like the girl?

 

[luong1209]

It's a sign, but youre not getting the picture.

 

[gatorbeltsnpattiemelts]

Was seeing django worth losing "yambs" as nt calls them? Even if its only a temporary loss, was it worth it? did you actually like the girl?

keep it funky--- did you read ANY of the follow up posts?

 

[Y4BBZY]

Better you know now than later, would have done the same OP. I wouldn't put up with that ish, only people I would put up with that is my family but I would let them know what's up if they keep pulling that ish.

 

[powerballin]

at the mindset of NT.  The same crowd that post "I wish I had a girlfriend". 

 

[jesusshuttlesworth34]

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[blakep267]

Was seeing django worth losing "yambs" as nt calls them? Even if its only a temporary loss, was it worth it? did you actually like the girl?

keep it funky--- did you read ANY of the follow up posts?

Im saying was it worth it from the standpoint of losing her. He said she was the best relationship he ever had. I dont remember him saying he didnt mind losing her

 

[Trey Bantz]

Son kept it #3HUNNA and it backfired. When keeping it real goes wrong..

 

[shoefreakbaby]

3 months and you already meeting the family. You work quick




Beta

 

[ksteezy]

Lol what didn't go well is I called her mom out on how she asked for me to make an effort to get to know her, and when I left my family to do so, she thought it'd be better to be hiding and smoking a "cig" because she's too crazy to handle social situations. Her mom's b/f and her sister both ganged up on me, trying to make me the bad guy when I was just calling out how I saw it. It ended with her B of a sister saying I could never support her because I work at best buy. Wait... didn't your husband work for staples? Aren't you an independent blogger with like 1000 followers? And pretty sure I've made your sister a lot happier than you are. Sorry for sticking up for her because she's to afraid to displease you even when it makes her unhappy. Havent heard from her since I left.

Sometimes is best to suck up your pride ad walk the hell off, there was no need to air out laundry, you should have let your girl handle HER family, you should have just left...you have them a reason to tell her "look how disrespectful, blah blah blah" which it seems that's what they were looking for.

Are you guys from the same ethnic background?

 

[nawghtyhare]

Now i think u standing upfor urself was a good thing. Ive learned that females with unresolved family isues or just issues with parents in general are the worse. yall only been together for 3 months and that aint **** you will find another female so do stress.

Btw did u at least have sex with her before tonight? Or is that why u say she was the most amazing female. Cause i know crazy females have the BEST sex game.

 

[shoefreakbaby]

double

 

[shoefreakbaby]

Look at the results of his actions....he's on NT, no girl, and her fam hates him.

All he had to do was play it cool but he "called her out" which is actually a female trait.  I don't care if my girls parent's are in the KKK.  I'm playing it cool off the firs

very true