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Yo I'm seeing all these comments saying my family isn't the type to say love you and I get it because that was just like us. Until one day my mom got sick and so we started saying it a lot more just because we never knew if she was gonna get better and then she did and we stopped saying it. We always just showed out love for each other more than we actually said but I regret not saying it more. I just gotta say though from an outside looking in point of view change it asap. Now that my mom has passed away I regret not telling her ILY everyday. I regret not hugging her and giving her a kiss on the cheek more often. She used to tell me that you'll never understand the pain that I feel for losing my parents but now I get why she'd always mention that to me. Moral of the story tell your parents,siblings, SO, kids, extended family, etc., I love you.
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Turned 27 today and morality (not just my own, but people around me) is becoming more apparent.happy birthday. hope you have a good one.
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Happy birthday to the dude who always keeps it real with me
I turn 27 later this year too -- fam is suspecting I'm gay just because I don't have a shorty
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Happy birthday my G! Enjoy your day! How are you celebrating today?
damn homieHappy birthday to the dude who always keeps it real with me
I turn 27 later this year too -- fam is suspecting I'm gay just because I don't have a shorty
that's cold blooded 
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That seems normal for older Asian people to think you’re gay if you don’t have a long time gf or aren’t married.
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Happiest of birthdays!
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Happy birthday to the dude who always keeps it real with me
I turn 27 later this year too -- fam is suspecting I'm gay just because I don't have a shorty
I’m 31 and I used to get that when I was around my mid 20s and still didn’t have a serious gf to bring home. However, that all changed when fam and family friends started getting Facebook and added me. They all got super nosy and looked pics and comments, now they’ve been calling me a “playboy” for the last couple years smh.
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It's fun out here if you know locals or have specific places you know to visit. Otherwise, it's a lot of troubles to be stuck in traffic trying to get places. Oh cool, sounds like your cousin will be your guide but tips can't hurt to get some kind of agenda for planning.
Oof, you're up in Richmond but going all the way to SJ? That's one hell of a trek. You're right for wanting to do 1 day out in SJ. The traffic in the Bay is a bust when you're on 880/580/680 to get up to 80. I'm here in the East Bay so I've gotten stuck hella times. Traffic hours are 5 AM to 10 AM and again from like 2 PM until 7 PM.
My husband (he's Japanese) has hella Vietnamese friends in SJ and they used to hit up coffee shops and various late-night spots. I don't know if they all still exist but it's pretty much around Pekoe as Nawzlew listed. If you want to go to ritzy shopping spots in SJ, go to Westfield Valley Fair. After you're done, go across the street for drinks at Santana Row. If you plan on staying late, there's a few lounges/bars that get crackin' at night on the weekends. It's the older crowds (25+) that are there, so if you want the younger crowds, stick to the clubs. I've heard mix reviews about Downtown SJ at night so I'd only recommend that as a backup plan. If you want any VIP experience, let me know, I have a friend in the scene who can really show you guys an amazing time.
SF is really fun. Last time I was in North Beach, I drank until the spots closed but once it closes, there's not much else. I mean, Ruby Skye sometimes has good headliners if you're into EDM/trance. I went to 1015 and ended up at the End-Up for after hours. There's supposed to be a 90's themed club but I don't remember where or what the name was off the top of my head. Go to the House of Prime Rib in SF and get that double King Henry cut. No regrets! (Ask your cousin to get reservations because walk-ins are rarely seated.)
+1 for this spot being hella ABG
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When I was 28, my family kept asking me when I was going to get married and have kids. Their reasoning was: I'm getting old and no dude wants an old lady. Really tho? I had plans to get married in my 30's. Why waste your 20's on marriage when there's so much in the world to learn and experience? I had a career I needed to focus on so that was my thing.
They called my guy cousins "lazy" and "playboys" because they're not married, seldom have a gf or a friend who is a girl around. My girl cousin who's going into medical school got called "too old" and she's 26. Can't win neither way!
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Old people are ridiculous with some of their perspectives. I don’t even use facebook anymore because my statuses and pics would cause drama and I’d get asked about it in real life by family. It’s like they don’t understand people want to keep that stuff separate.
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It's just the stigma with Asian families, IMO. Growing up, my mom didn't really show me any affection and only criticized me for the things that I was doing wrong. I learned she was like that because that's how her parents raised her. My dad was the only one who showed verbal support and love to me and my brother when we did good things.
My wife's parents NEVER showed affection or support for the good things that she did through out grade school and even college. There was a phase in her life that she actually contemplated suicide due to all the negativity she received from her parents. Thankfully she was able to overcome that phase and doing well now. And her parents are so affectionate now, since they have a grandaughter lol
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Thanks for all the birthday wishes brethrens.
On another note, I may be in trouble at work for writing something that kind've went viral about how a lot of white people's ignorance to Chinese culture, and the struggle of the immigrant experience doesn't do anyone any good.
i'm here on a work visa so if my job is in jeopardy I have to go home. Not apologizing to anyone. Just read hte book "Chinese in America" and people who paved the way for us (not just in America) went throuhg way worse. Rather live my life standing up for things I believe in than be mentally shackled by ignorance and BS.
On another note, I may be in trouble at work for writing something that kind've went viral about how a lot of white people's ignorance to Chinese culture, and the struggle of the immigrant experience doesn't do anyone any good.
i'm here on a work visa so if my job is in jeopardy I have to go home. Not apologizing to anyone. Just read hte book "Chinese in America" and people who paved the way for us (not just in America) went throuhg way worse. Rather live my life standing up for things I believe in than be mentally shackled by ignorance and BS.
In Vietnam/China it is very common for women to get married relatively young around 18-22 sometimes even younger, so that's probably why your family kept bugging you about it and certain Asian cultures the 'value' of women decrease as they age if they aren't married (people will think that there's something wrong with you, difficult to deal with), obviously drastically different here in western culture.
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Thanks fam! Tbh I'm at work man. Haven't made a lotta close connections in the States yet to where I would be comfortable with them getting loose on my birthdayHappy birthday my G! Enjoy your day! How are you celebrating today?
damn homie
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Ruby Skye closed down a while ago.
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Oh damn, that's right. They had issues with sanitation, if I remember correctly.
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happy birthday!
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I don't think I have a pair of shoes from when I was 18-22, let alone pick a husband that young and keep him for life. I was a baby at that age so I wouldn't have a clue who's good for me or not. It's hard for me because I am stuck between Asian (Vietnamese) and Western cultures. Women here in the USA are pushed to go to college and be independent. My Asian family told me I'm not to move out until I'm married and that I'm to stay close to home. My own mom told me "let things go" so that I can keep my husband happy. Basically, just do what he says.
Bruh, I'm not about to let anything go if I feel he does something I don't agree with. It's not "my place" to be silent and unhappy. (Note: he's a respectful and loving man and has never treated me any less than I know I deserve.) My place is to be his wife, mom to his kids, and his equal in every way.
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so true. baby boomers will never understand millennials
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same goes the other way too. I can't imagine up and leaving my home country to start a life in a foreign country even starting a business like some of our parents did just sounds crazy to me.
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Happy birthday to the dude who always keeps it real with me
I turn 27 later this year too -- fam is suspecting I'm gay just because I don't have a shorty
What I would give to be that age and those problems again
Don't worry dude, you have quite a bit of time left, enjoy the present time.
Plus, once you get married and have kids, then all your single homies will suspect you're gay. At some point you just become almost eunuch-like and not even part of the conversation anymore
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shoot my mom is already begging me to get married and have kids soon lol
I'm only 25, Imma enjoy this single life and smash a lovely woman every so often
I'm only 25, Imma enjoy this single life and smash a lovely woman every so often
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Happy birthday!
Yoooo that pressure is too real.
I'm 26 & my boyfriend is 27. My family always asks when our time is coming up. I mean I'm glad my we have their blessing. He is ready for marriage, but wants to save money first. I'm the one who isn't ready. I have so many things on my bucketlist I want to fulfill first
Plus, I'm sure pops would literally want to kill my boyfriend when he actually proposes.
