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Just look at the stats on American marriages. 50% of all marriages will eventually end in divorce, which are initiated by 70% of all married women. Those rates go up to 90% if the woman is college educated. You would have to be out of your mind to get married in the States, if you have something to lose as a man.
That's like sticking your hand in a bowl of poisoned candy, with a 50% percent rate of you eating the poisoned candy in the bowl. I've seen couples in their 50,s and 60,s recently get divorced.
Alot of people are following an old construct, when it comes to marriages. The majority of married couples i know right now, aren't genuinely happy with each other.
They're just tolerating each other, because if the time and money that's been invested into it.
what you see might be true for you anecdotally but i think the statistics are all over the place in terms of marriage & divorce (for example marriage of college educated couples get divorced at much lower rates, similarly with higher earners, there likely is some correlation there)…as well as the limited nature of statistics generally, i think women do tend to have more ‘incentive’ to file for divorce even as statistically they tend to be worse off for it in a bunch of outcomes.
Nature is undefeated.
It will adjust to the environment, biology, and culture, that we create.
It is in a woman's DNA/Biology to prioritize her survival and men have created a world for her to do so without us.
Works for me because I'm getting more access to sex than I ever had in my younger days and I don't have to worry about divorce or child support.
definitely think it true that we have fashioned a world that doesn’t necessarily need/reward explicitly coupling for the long term as in past generations & thus there are different values at play today. birth control probably functionally eliminated the idea of ‘shotgun weddings’ such that it really isn’t even a thing anymore; sexual liberation, women’s ability to earn, combined w/state protection, and men & women’s tendencies in sexual selection create a different set of ‘carrots & sticks’ but a lot of folk are moving as if the old rules still apply…