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damn playa
hate to ask this but looking back didnt you see the signs before you tied the knot?
Ouch. One of the reasons I got a vasectomy. My youngest is 9, and I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Splashing in eeeeerything now without giving one damb
That **** is dark man...
So would you still have to pay spousal support if you never had kids??
I'm considering it since I have 3 kids already but real talk the idea of being cut is scaryOuch. One of the reasons I got a vasectomy. My youngest is 9, and I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Splashing in eeeeerything now without giving one damb
Ouch. One of the reasons I got a vasectomy. My youngest is 9, and I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Splashing in eeeeerything now without giving one damb
I'm considering it since I have 3 kids already but real talk the idea of being cut is scary
how much it cost?Ouch. One of the reasons I got a vasectomy. My youngest is 9, and I am starting to see the light at the end of tl.
Splashing in eeeeerything now without giving one damb
I'm considering it since I have 3 kids already but real talk the idea of being cut is scary
I'm telling you, it has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. The procedure itself takes about 20 minutes, and the recovery time is a week. You have to ejacualte about 15-20 times after to remove all of the built up sperm in your urine stream or whatever, then give a sample to your doctor. My doctor was real cool. Once my sperm count was at zero, he told me to have fun!
There is nothing like that feeling of not having to worry about pre-nut, pulling out on time, or a baby. I have been going absolutely HAM.
I always post this whenever this topic comes on. Good read.
Don't Marry | Why Modern, Western Marriage Has Become A Bad Business Decision For Men https://dontmarry.wordpress.com/
Many of the traditional reasons why a man gets married are a myth.
“I won’t die alone”
Wrong. The simple fact is that one spouse WILL die alone. Visit the hospital and go to the terminally ill or cardiac departments. Few people have the time to sit with an ill relative all day and all night. Yes, you may get visitors, but they aren’t having the same thoughts as you are. You’re contemplating your mortality, while they’re wondering what food the hospital cafeteria offers. In the end, even with a loving and supportive family, most of us will leave this world alone, unless you both die simultaneously in an accident of some kind. Your spouse may die fifteen years before you, or you may be in the hospital for your last year. Ultimately, we all die alone. Married or not.
“I won’t grow old alone”
Not necessarily. A marriage can self-destruct at any time. Your partner may initiate divorce at age 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50, 55, 60, 65 or 70. Many married people end up in the same position (alone) as if they had never married at all. Now they enter their twilight years broke, as a result of being stripped of half or more of their life’s assets, losing half their retirement and pension funds, and being assessed alimony payments. Experiencing financial devastation from one divorce often may preclude a man from ever marrying again. This is a common observation of many middle-aged Western Women. Q: “Where are all the men?”. A: “He is broke from the divorce settlement, alimony and child support payments.” Thus these women don’t find him marriable, and he grows old alone and poor.
Men are led to believe that not marrying implies only one destiny; that of a solitary monk in a cave, a shunned loner. However, life is not so black and white. Not marrying does not mean you cannot continue to date or have meaningful relationships throughout your life. There are plenty of single people in all age brackets. A bad marriage can be the loneliest of institutions, because most of your emotional outlet and companionship is concentrated into one person who gives back nothing in emotion, affection or support. Young men in their 20’s and 30’s should be more aware of the alternatives that exist in life. They should be aware that marriage is a choice, and is not the only path life has to offer. An informed decision is less likely to be one that is later regretted.
“I’ll get regular sex”
Not from Modern, Western Women. Access to regular sex is the oldest and the most frequently cited reason to marry. Many men now know that Modern, Western Women frequently stop having sex after just a short time of being married. There are plenty of “sexless” marriages. Talk to a few married couples that are honest about their relationship. One or both partners may stop wanting sex after kids, or the sex may be as infrequent as once a year or once every six months, or the wife may only have sex when she wants the husband to buy her something, take her somewhere, or remodel the house. Read the honest opinions of married men on the Internet. Most Western, Married Men will have more sex with their Western Wives in the first six months of their marriage than they will in the next 40 years. Lastly, it remains to be seen whether sex with one exclusive partner for forty years or more is even a natural act, or just a man-made convention. In many Western Nations, the wife is no longer required to have sex with her husband. She can deny him at any time, for any length of time. She can, if she wishes, deny him sex forever and there is nothing that he can do about it. In fact, if he insists that she honor her end of the marriage contract by being available for sexual relations, he can and will be accused of, charged with, and arrested for Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault or Rape.
Marriage is hardly a guarantee of regular sex, as many people are led to believe.
“I’ll have someone to cook and clean for me”
Not necessarily. While a Modern, Western Woman is perfectly justified in quitting her job in the name of staying home with the kids, she can also demand that the husband pay for a cook, a maid, and a nanny. This leaves the man to earn the money, and leaves him to pay for maintenance of household and children, while the wife gets to play at being a housekeeper. Today’s woman is empowered by not performing the traditional housewife duties, regardless of whether she is working or not. If a husband asks that his wife perform traditional household duties because she is not working, he will often be labeled sexist, abusive or controlling, even if he is doing his “traditional role” of paying all the bills, providing for his family, and performing the traditional manly duties of vehicle repairs, maintaining the lawn and house upkeep.
“I have to be married to have kids”
Not anymore. Her ovaries do not physically need a contract at the government center in order to be fertilised by your sperm. Cro-Magnon man had children long before lawyers invented marriage contracts. Often, you do not need to be married in order to share health benefits. You do not need to be married to designate your partner on a life insurance policy. You do not need to be married to own a dream home together. It is ironic that responsible parents who raise a healthy family, but never actually sign marriage paperwork, get less respect than divorced parents or married parents who are ineffective, inattentive or incompetent.
-Having a lifelong, faithful, committed relationship has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Owning a beautiful dream home together has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Rearing healthy, happy, and successful children has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Building a family and life together has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Growing old together has nothing to do with being “married”.
In fact, recent changes in cohabitation, partner and marriage law have proven that the only tangible consequence of marriage is having a formalised separation process that usually requires the talents of an attorney.
You do need to be married in order to throw an extravagant four-hour party, and share the same last name.
You do need to be married in order to involve the state and government in your romantic affairs.
You do need to be married in order give away half of everything you own.
Besides that, marriage does nothing more than introduce lawyers and social workers into your life. These are people that otherwise would have nothing to do with your life or your relationship.
Men need to stop and ask themselves:
“Why exactly am I getting married? What exactly does marriage mean to me in today’s world? What is the benefit to me to get married?”
It is no longer a lifelong commitment, because it can be reversed overnight on her unilateral whim.
Marriage was originally created as a way for families to merge land, property, political power and influence; perhaps people should return to viewing it as just that and nothing more. The rest of it is fake modern TV Fantasy and Tabloid Gossip and Hype polluting the minds of today’s impressionable youth, and a way to keep the multi-billion-per-year wedding industry chugging along. Perhaps the only criteria should be to ask oneself: “How excited am I for us to merge our finances and assets?” When all the fluff and hype are boiled away, that may be the only remaining reality. Spend a day in divorce court, and you’ll see exactly what is real and tangible and lasting about marriage. You’ll see women who signed the marriage contract under romantic pretenses who are now expert laymen attorneys who can cite case law. Bouquet throwing ex-brides now embroiled in warfare to get everything that is coming to them and more! The rest are myths, lies, bold unsubstantiated promises, and maybes. “For better or for worse…”
The Western Divorce rate is 43%. It is higher in some parts of the world such as California, Great Britain and Australia. In Japan the recent change in pension law may have many pensioners out on the street. In India new changes to dowry law have men being threatened by their wives. Consider the number of people who are in a bad marriage, but elect to stay; Men who don’t want to lose 50%, women who know they can’t support themselves alone. Next, think of how many more couples stay together just for the sake of the kids. Of these “forced marriages”, consider how many of these marriages involve infidelity, no sex, or sleeping in separate beds or separate rooms. I estimate the percentage of happy and monogamous marriages to be under 5%. Are these odds you would take in a business venture, investment or loan? Most of the risk-averse population would not. Yet they seek this exception to the rule everyday through marriage.
Another reason I will never get married because I know monogamy isn't natural. Knowing it isn't natural makes me not want to force it. Monogamy is the result of females needing safety and security, protecting their infants from infanticide, and the serendipitous result of democracy.
The struggle as a parent isn't even what I'm worried about.This makes me wonder since I want this too and I just accepted I'd have the mother involved if there's an alternative route?Didn't really read the thread but marriage is an institution that just doesn't work for me. Still want the house and kids....
I know of women and a few personally that have opted to be a single parent. They pay for that sperm at the sperm back or freeze their eggs and cop some sperm and get a surrogate. Can a man do that?
I think I know that most adoption agencies won't let you adopt as a single parent so if a dude for w/e reason just wanted to be a single dad does he even have any options?
I forget what movie or show it was but it did involve a young kid fresh out of college really wanting to have an Asian baby for w/e reason and after some time actually got to adopt the baby and raise it as a single father I don't think that'd fly in reality though for many reasons.
I would imagine if adoption was the route then being a single father just drops you to the bottom of the list. I think finding an egg donor is probably the easier route of all the ways to have a kid without dealing with women.
It's a struggle no matter how you slice it imo so you might as well shoot up the club and see how far you get with shorty.
Another reason I will never get married because I know monogamy isn't natural. Knowing it isn't natural makes me not want to force it. Monogamy is the result of females needing safety and security, protecting their infants from infanticide, and the serendipitous result of democracy.
You sure it's women who want monogamy? I don't know a man who would be cool with his woman having a polygamous relationship
So men want to be in a polygamous relationship but don't want their women to be. Greedy *************Another reason I will never get married because I know monogamy isn't natural. Knowing it isn't natural makes me not want to force it. Monogamy is the result of females needing safety and security, protecting their infants from infanticide, and the serendipitous result of democracy.
You sure it's women who want monogamy? I don't know a man who would be cool with his woman having a polygamous relationship
As a whole, women have developed more of a need for monogamy than men. If you have time check out my spoiler. I feel you though, I wouldn't want my woman to be in a polygamous relationship.
You dudes married women when you were barely old enough to drink, it didn't work out and now no one should get married?
#ntlogic