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Originally Posted by Big J 33
Everything you say lacks confidence and shows your insecurities... I understand you're trying to address that, but even the way you talk emphasizes this. If YOU don't think you're of value, women won't either. The first step will be to remove that kind of language or thought, constantly saying you're average, everyone else is better, etc. that's the first step to building your confidence.
Completely forget about older women, you're not looking to marry these HS girls, just think about being young and having fun (responsibly of course), but you're not going to be pulling even college age women right now. High school is filled with tons of girls who are similar to you, inexperienced, naive, etc. so just look at HS girls right now. You're interested in mature and smart people, but if you're that inexperienced, don't start turning away girls or not pursuing them because you think they're not good enough for you. You don't have to lower your standards 100% and chase every girl, but you're thinking way too much about it... if you're interested in a girl, then go for it... end of thought.
While it is a cliche, confidence is incredibly important. Not to say the Elephant Man will pull the prom queen if he's confident enough, but still... be confident and everything else comes easier. You're asking how to "spit game", "put in work", "be a player", forget all that nonsense... even if you have a great line that gets the girl interested, you probably still won't know what you're doing, and that's not the end of the world. Be yourself, address your insecurities... if you want to be in better shape, then eat healthier and workout. If there's something you don't like about yourself, then work hard to improve it but if it's out of your control (like your height) or there's only so much you can do, then cool, that's who you are, deal with it.
Cliffs: Stop talking like you're sub-human. If you look down on yourself, so will other people. Forget older women, you're surrounded by girls your own age, appreciate that and don't reject a girl because she might not be mature enough, newsflash... you don't come across as a mature person either. Accept what you can't change, improve what you can, have confidence in being yourself first, then you can worry about "spitting game"
Yeah I see and agree with everything you said. I'm just gonna drop that whole idea of going after older women... everyone in here is right
So if I'm going after high schoolers, how do I just let it be known that I want to smash? Like how does one try and smash girls who aren't DTF? My school is mad conservative, maybe like 10 kids are smashing and they're just smashing the same 10 girls too, the rest of the girls don't let anyone hit, doesn't matter if they're on the bball team or pushing a nice car, it's just not like most other high schools where everyone just does whatever they want.
What I'm trying to say is, how do you establish that you aren't trying to be just friends and that you want to be friends with benefits, you know? And how do you get girls who just aren't down for that kind of stuff?