Confessions

[slighted]

Coromanti

Your homie is an insecure bird who is living proof of "friends want to see you do well, but not better than them."

You should check him the next time he acts like that. It sounds Petty Wap, but some people need to be handed the L in order for them to actually learn. Alternatively, you can kill him with kindness, but it seems you've already done this with no change in results.

People who try to feel better about themselves by putting OTHER people down have a very weak mental foundation. They operate from a negative standpoint, which is poisonous to anyone and everyone around them. I'm willing to bet my next paycheck that dude is deeply unhappy.

 

[MetalMario]

Smh, it's only been 11 days since I had to post about my ex... And just outta nowhere last night, she texts me.

"Omg I forgot your calculator" I let her borrow it over the summer for her class before all the BS happened.
And I just send some basic *** replies "Oh, it's whatever"
X: "I'll bring it by sometime"
Me: "Alright"
X: "You okay?"

That kinda ticked me off, cause she knows exactly how I feel. It's only been a month since it happened, and she got the nerve to really ask me if I'm good. I know she means well, but she knows, she really doesn't have to ask that dumb *** question. Plus, she coulda just left it after I said alright rather than jumping straight to that.

You gotta do the math son! She's trying to get you back into the equation using PEMDAS but remember the square root of the problem of how you got there. know your absolute value bro! she's trying to get to your PENIS

 

[Brownstone]

I have been with my girl for 3 years, and while she ready for the marriage thing, I just am not ready to commit.

I remember growing up thinking how the **** can my Dad like Jazz, guess who is going to a Jazz concert alone next month because my girl hates Jazz

Not sure I will ever outgrow the is there someone better out there for me feeling.....

 

[squarianaa]

Lmao nah.. I doubt she lookin for a quick ****, but whatever. I'll curve that if it's true. And I do try to avoid contact as much as possible for my own sake cause she f-cked me up bad. I'm just workin on myself, trynna mind my business. Focusing on transferring out after the spring, work out, go to work.

But like I said before, I just respected the fact she told me the truth face to face on what she did. So I'll probably get some **** for this, but I wanna trust her and just be friends despite what she did to me. How I'ma view "love" and how I'ma be in future relationships ain't gonna be the same for sure. Idk, I'm just repeating what I've said before in my last couple posts. Just trynna focus on rebuilding myself mentally/emotionally and if I do happen to get into a relationship or a couple along the way, cool. If not, whatever.

 

[fluid hips]

I've been single for a while now because I don't want to settle for any girl that gives me attention. I know what I want in a woman, most of all an educated one that is also good looking but they hard hard to come by. I can get good looking girls but they can't hold an intelligent conversation and it turns me off. All they want to talk about is celebrity gossip and what celebrity is doing what. I really don't give a damn about that.

I've been feeling lonely not having a girlfriend. This whole summer I was longing for a girl to share the summer with but I didn't want to settle for any girl just so I could say I had a girlfriend. All my friends have girlfriends and it sucks being the only one without one.

There's one girl at my job that really likes me but she smokes and that is a turnoff for me.

Don't know if I'm being too picky or if I should aim for what I want in a girl instead of settling like most people

 

[Coromanti]

Had a sit down with that friend who was throwin the jabs. Dude admits he is massively insecure (as you guys pointed out). For the life of me I don't know why. He's got money, well traveled, educated, self-employed, decent looking. IDK what else one might need to build self-esteem/confidence. Kinda feel bad in a way cuz it's like everything a normal person could possibly need he's got but he's still insecure. I suggested therapy but IDK if he gonna follow through. Dude just needs to recognize his value, maybe get laid.

 

[lamekilla]

I don't know if I'm naive or I'm just a good natured person

 

[balldontlie206]

I have been with my girl for 3 years, and while she ready for the marriage thing, I just am not ready to commit.

I remember growing up thinking how the **** can my Dad like Jazz, guess who is going to a Jazz concert alone next month because my girl hates Jazz

Not sure I will ever outgrow the is there someone better out there for me feeling.....

One thing I have found as I get older is no matter how much you try to be your own person when you're growing up, over time you tend to inherit traits and tastes from your old man, good and bad.

 

[AL Andretti]

One thing I have found as I get older is no matter how much you try to be your own person when you're growing up, over time you tend to inherit traits and tastes from your old man, good and bad.

Truth.

 

[slighted]

Had a sit down with that friend who was throwin the jabs. Dude admits he is massively insecure (as you guys pointed out). For the life of me I don't know why. He's got money, well traveled, educated, self-employed, decent looking. IDK what else one might need to build self-esteem/confidence. Kinda feel bad in a way cuz it's like everything a normal person could possibly need he's got but he's still insecure. I suggested therapy but IDK if he gonna follow through. Dude just needs to recognize his value, maybe get laid.

Everyone is different. There could be many reasons: his upbringing, his family influence, etc.

Life is funny that way. There are people who have everything, but suffer from low self-esteem. Then there are bum dudes who really ain't sh-t, but are unnecessarily confident / cocky (basically me).

 

[HideYoKidsHideYoWifi]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

 

[squarianaa]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

I think you should start by asking yourself if throwing away these 7 years of marriage worth it. And on top of that dating her for 15+ years. Your wife has been there for you through it all, she's seen you at your lowest and highest points and stuck it out with you. Don't fall for how this "girlfriend" is telling you how you've treated her better than anyone else she's been with. PLUS if your wife is begging you to come back and that she'll forgive you, I'd believe her. Sure, it's gonna suck for a bit at first, but she's not jumping the gun of saying that she doesn't want to have anything to do with you after what you did man. She really loves you. Dropping your life you've made with your wife for this long, all for a friend man? Is it really worth it?

You just gotta suck it up, own up to your mistake. Do the counseling with your wife and rebuild with her. On top of all this, your family wouldn't even accept this girl if you were to leave your wife. Do you wanna lose your wife as well as your family?

 

[Olympus]

Dream house + ride or die chick + 22 year relationship

To no wife + no dream house + possibly losing the support of your family + guilt

What do you gain with this other girl? I don't see it. Plus she's almost 10 years your junior. She probably isn't where you're at in life.

 

[ROYGBiV]

Just do what makes you happy. In this case it's staying with the gf.

 

[Jimmy Two Times]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

If you weren't satisfied in your marriage than chances are it will only get worse if you stayed with her especially if you had kids. Too many people stay together for the wrong reasons. You gotta do what makes you happy. It's better to shake things up now than risk doing it after you had a kid. Whatever you decide to do just make sure you're honest with the wife or girlfriend. Be straight up with them and don't drag it out. I wouldn't care what your family thinks either. It's your life.

 

[Mark Antony]

Popped an adderall to study and ended up cleaning my house instead.

 

[lamekilla]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

25 year old woman is way too hot and cold for a true commitment let alone restarting your life for. Truly think about this man.

 

[wayniac211]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

Strong SN to post ratio

 

[Coromanti]

I had a dream. I killed my ex. We were on a side walk in Geneva. We were dressed like we had just had dinner. And I pushed her into oncoming traffic and then I ran away. I came back around like half an hour later and I had on a leather jacket. I put on some goofy jamaican accent and asked what happened and if she's dead. Somehow she was already cremated and in an urn. I guess it was the coroner who said she was. She was Asian (not that common in Geneva). I shook my head and then walked away.
______________________
It was so weird. We haven't spoken for months. I haven't really been thinking about her. And then BAM. This happens. Woke up in a sweat. What the hell? What does it mean?

EDIT: Also just generally I've been dreaming recently. Previous to this week I would've said I rarely dream. But I've had like 4 dream nights in the last 7 days. What's going on?

 

[jayhood23]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

News flash, you're another loser guy that she's adding to the history of losers. Go back to your wife. That 25 yr old joint is gonna stress you out more than its worth. Go home and be a family man.

 

[gil23]

I have a confession and a major issue on my hands.

I have been married for 7+ years and with the same girl for 15+ years. earlier this year I started hanging out with a "friend" at the hotel I stay out while out of town for work. She worked the front desk there and we began talking. We messed around for a while and my wife found out, said I have to leave her and I didn't. Well my wife ended up moving out and leaving me while this has been going on. We sold our dream home together that we just bought last year together and I've basically given up everything for this new girl. My wife filed for divorce and it is still going on but she is begging me to come back and I refuse to try and make it better wth my wife because of my own guilt inside. I feel like my wife would never forgive me completely or let it go but she swears she would and we would attend a counselor together. The girl I am currently with makes me feel happy but my parents have already told me they will never accept her into our family nor will my sister and brother in-law. I fell in love with this new girl but it's like I am basically living a double life still because I have to keep it separate. I believe that this is almost to the end with my divorce but part of me doesn't want it to happen still and I am just torn on what to do. I would feel awful leaving this "girlfriend" because she's been through some awful relationships with past guys and says that I've treated her like no other loser guy she's been with. Also there is an age difference between her and I, I am 34 and she's 25. I don't know if I want to get remarried soon but I do want to have kids which my wife and I were in the process of trying for but we had found out some unfortunate news during the process of not being able to get pregnant. I am not sure if that was my escape to start seeing someone new and try to satisfy my needs or if it was something else.

Do you still love your wife? Why did you start messing with the side chick?

 

[theregothatman]

Been messing around with this girl for about a 2 months, messed around and got her pregnant. She already had 3 kids by two different fathers and just gotten her life headed in the right direction but still struggling to get by. We made the decision to not go through with the pregnancy. Well of course continuing our irresponsible behavior she ends up right back pregnant less than 2 months later. The twist in this is in that time the relationship fizzled. She hits me up to tell me she's pregnant and wants to keep the baby. I told her I don't think it's a good idea to bring another child into this world in this situation and we shouldn't go through with it. Ultimately I told her it was her decision but no matter what I'll handle my responsibilities.
She has a great job but she just started her career and a baby would possibly derail it being her job is very physical. Also it would have a huge impact on the life she has created for her other children. She is heart broken and really wants to have this baby with me, but I simply can't be in a relationship because of a baby. I feel like a scumbag for putting her back through this. I told her having this child won't impact my life a great deal and I'll be there for the baby but we will never go back to what we were. She is also a high risk pregnancy so being placed on bed rest is a very high possibility. I'm not sure where my responsibilities end? If she can't work and can't pay her bills, am I responsible to take her family in?
We have been pretty nasty to each throughout this process but we always just apologize and go right back through the cycle.
I care about this girl but I have to honest in not wanting to have this baby. We agreed it was best to just go our separate ways if she doesn't go through with the pregnancy, but I hate what I've done to her, she's a great person on the inside. I definitely feel like a scumbag for feeling this way.

 

[SIETE TRES LA]

lol @ that Great Wall of Textina that aint nobody going to read.

 

[slighted]

3 kids by 2 different dudes

You goofed up, fam. Take care of the kid if she goes through with it, but you're not on the hook for funding her entire life/kids.

 

[dakid23]

He did goof up .

Have you met the other baby daddies?