From experiences with people I know, it really takes a specific type of guy to want to take on the challenges of dating a girl with kids. I have two cousins that did it and they are doing fine but I will say they are not alpha males and (they) sort of like/need that type of women to tell them what to do all the time. But still, thank god there are people like this to take on the responsibilities of someone else's kids. I would hate for a woman with a child to never meet someone else after the facts. I for one could never date a girl with kids but honestly I can't even take care of myself properly. I am just too jealous for my own well being.
I think you're on to something...
I'm not going to generalize and say that ALL men who are successful in relationships with women who have kids are this way, but the ones that I have known in the past tend to be the pushover types who put up with way more than they should.
I knew this old man who got roped into raising two teenage girls who didn't even like him and he ended up having a new kid with the mother in his mid 50s when he was getting ready to retire.
He was her boss and she got them both fired and ended up juicing dude of all his money and basically keeps him in the back room of the house like a pet.
Now that he has a kid he can't do ****. He once told me that when he met her he had everything in order: his own house, a Benz and then he got his nose wide open and got caught smashing her at work and that was the end of that.
I feel sorry for the dude, but he's definitely a captain. He goes to bat for his "daughters" and they have no love for him and disrespected him constantly throughout the years. I've even seen the wife straight up disrespect him in front of a house full of people on multiple occasions.
Couldn't be me. **** that.