Good Points
kingfoamnyc
It is always hard to read when you should/shouldn't jump in and help a woman in 2021.
I remember one time at work, 2 women were moving a table while I was talking to two OTHER women.
One of the women I was talking to said, "You see them over there struggling (which they weren't), why aren't you helping them?
Me: They seem to have it under control. They don't need my help. I don't want to insult them by ASSUMING they need a man to come to their rescue.
There have been NUMEROUS times in my life where I HAVE offered help and was told that it was insulting that I interjected. So I decided that I am not offering help unless
A. I KNOW you and I KNOW how you operate when it comes to those feelings.
B. I am ASKED to help.
C. If it is an elderly/pregnant/child
It is just a crap shoot that I don't feel like dealing with.
But I get it, SOME women are simply independent and don't need my help so I don't fault them but I have no way of knowing when I am to interject.
It is what it is though.