Letting go is the hardest part...

[fro b giant]

Is your soon to be ex named Ashley? Cuz I knew a crazy Ashley once...

 

[mrmoneyindabank]

Originally Posted by superuntouchable

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

Originally Posted by Diego

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

I'm not gonna front, I think that parents that get divorced when young children are involved are selfish. The children deserve better than that. Once you have a child its your responsibility as a parent to put the best interests of your kids before whats best for you. I'm sure there are people that don't agree but I've seen what divorce does to young children. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be happy, I just think you need to put yourself in the kids shoes.

What good is it for the kids if they live in a house hold where they are exposed to constant arguing? Or to live in a place full of tension?
How can they make the kids happy if the parents are miserable?
To the OP, just be as involved as much as you can with your daughters. Dont just pay for child support, but be there for them while they grow up.
A civil relationship with your soon to be ex wife would also go along way.
Good luck.

They don't have to be together. They can see other people on the side if they choose too.

Being in a nuclear family has a positive effect on children. They don't have to keep it up forever, but at 2 years old a kid needs that.

Is it better for the kid to be around mommy, daddy, mommys man, daddys shorty? You explain that to a 2 year old. Better you come up with an answer when his 6 year old asks why daddy is kissing another woman and not mommy?

Yeah, she won't ask that question because it's not going down in front of her. My children are the most important thing to me in the WORLD, they are the reason that I stuck around for the last 4 years. This didn't just pop up all of a sudden, I have tried repeatedly to make the relationship work to no avail. The problems in the house are/were already affecting my children, staying in the marriage is not healthy for any of the parties involved at this point. It would just be even worse if I stayed.

I'm not speaking on you in particular. Im just speaking on the topic in general.

 

[produccionfrescos]

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Getting married FTL[/color]
[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Getting married THAT YOUNG FTMFL!!!![/color]

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Why do people constantly put themselves in these situations? You don't even getto experience other people. "We're young and in love, let's get married"

... Get real.[/color]

 

[swyftdahoe]

Sorry to hear that. Have you guys tried counseling? I mean, a child of 2 months. Maybe she's still hormonally imbalanced. Who knows. 3 young kids can putcrazy stress on anyone. Unless your problems reach back much further than that.

 

[blackmagnus514]

word. ^

 

[mdresident]

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

I'm not gonna front, I think that parents that get divorced when young children are involved are selfish. The children deserve better than that. Once you have a child its your responsibility as a parent to put the best interests of your kids before whats best for you. I'm sure there are people that don't agree but I've seen what divorce does to young children. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be happy, I just think you need to put yourself in the kids shoes.

That is ridiculous. So, if the parents are constantly fighting and always miserable they should stick it out, even after many attempts at tryingto fix the problem? The parent's well being does not matter anymore? This can cause even bigger problems. This new situation will take some time for thekids to get used to, but just like any other human being, they will eventually get over it, and learn to love this new situation. But if they choose to staytogether and kids have to hear constant screaming, I think that can cause way bigger problems.

 

[swyftdahoe]

Originally Posted by ProduccionFrescos

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Getting married FTL[/color]
[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Getting married THAT YOUNG FTMFL!!!![/color]

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Why do people constantly put themselves in these situations? You don't even get to experience other people. "We're young and in love, let's get married"

... Get real.[/color]

You're speaking out of your backside. You can't paint everything with one brush. And you're contributing nothing to this thread. Gocontinue being a mack daddy pimp playah ballah.

In any case TS, even after this divorce, I'm certain you can still be a good dad. I mean, it sounds as if you're gonna put in the work. I thinkyou'll be okay. Daddy's little girls are always going to be daddy's little girls. I think you would have a harder time if they were boys.

 

[emkicks]

she tried to stab you??

Hope everything turns out well for you and more importantly your children

 

[jose cansec0]

went thru a similar situation about two months ago, i seriously feel your pain

...keep your head up and ALWAYS be there for your little girls, i know it'sgonna be hard to forget about your wife. I was with my girl for 5 years, and im just barely startin to get used to life without her, heartbreak sucks.

 

[airkeung88]

if she try to stab you, you should be able to file a restraint order against her.
An you might win, but need prove that she is violent to the court.

 

[mrmoneyindabank]

Originally Posted by Diego

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

Originally Posted by Diego

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

I'm not gonna front, I think that parents that get divorced when young children are involved are selfish. The children deserve better than that. Once you have a child its your responsibility as a parent to put the best interests of your kids before whats best for you. I'm sure there are people that don't agree but I've seen what divorce does to young children. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be happy, I just think you need to put yourself in the kids shoes.

What good is it for the kids if they live in a house hold where they are exposed to constant arguing? Or to live in a place full of tension?
How can they make the kids happy if the parents are miserable?
To the OP, just be as involved as much as you can with your daughters. Dont just pay for child support, but be there for them while they grow up.
A civil relationship with your soon to be ex wife would also go along way.
Good luck.

They don't have to be together. They can see other people on the side if they choose too.

Being in a nuclear family has a positive effect on children. They don't have to keep it up forever, but at 2 years old a kid needs that.

Is it better for the kid to be around mommy, daddy, mommys man, daddys shorty? You explain that to a 2 year old. Better you come up with an answer when his 6 year old asks why daddy is kissing another woman and not mommy?

So if they stay in the same house will they not also be seeing different people?
Family dinners will be great when there are 2 mommies and 2 daddies.
Better his 6 year old asked why daddy is kissing another woman than ask why is mommy putting that knife to daddys chest.

I said keep up the image of a nuclear family, that means do your dirt outside of where you live. If the kids live with one parent when do youthink they won't be around the parents new mate?

 

[superuntouchable]

Originally Posted by ProduccionFrescos

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Getting married FTL[/color]
[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Getting married THAT YOUNG FTMFL!!!![/color]

[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]Why do people constantly put themselves in these situations? You don't even get to experience other people. "We're young and in love, let's get married"

... Get real.[/color]

Hindsight is always 20/20 my friend......

 

[mrmoneyindabank]

Originally Posted by mdresident

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

I'm not gonna front, I think that parents that get divorced when young children are involved are selfish. The children deserve better than that. Once you have a child its your responsibility as a parent to put the best interests of your kids before whats best for you. I'm sure there are people that don't agree but I've seen what divorce does to young children. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be happy, I just think you need to put yourself in the kids shoes.

That is ridiculous. So, if the parents are constantly fighting and always miserable they should stick it out, even after many attempts at trying to fix the problem? The parent's well being does not matter anymore? This can cause even bigger problems. This new situation will take some time for the kids to get used to, but just like any other human being, they will eventually get over it, and learn to love this new situation. But if they choose to stay together and kids have to hear constant screaming, I think that can cause way bigger problems.

If the can't act civil towards each other then how is rasing children gonna work? like I said before do your dirt outside of where you livebut stay together for the kids.

 

[dirtylicious]

Originally Posted by swyftdahoe

Sorry to hear that. Have you guys tried counseling? I mean, a child of 2 months. Maybe she's still hormonally imbalanced. Who knows. 3 young kids can put crazy stress on anyone. Unless your problems reach back much further than that.

indeed.

sorry to hear though. good luck

 

[yungmatt]

Damn

 

[i3allistic]

sorry to hear that bro, but i was wondering ...is ur soon to be EX suffering from depression after the birth of ur 2 mos old? that probably why she actingcrazy ...i duno ..i dont wanna sound like a doc, but i just recently learned about that at my EMT class..might wanna try to get some professional help and tryto work it out at least one more time?

 

[nawth21]

I know so many people, as adults, who say they wished their parents would have gotten a divorce. Divorce or separation will have an effect on kids, sure, butso does 18 years of living in an unhappy home. Kids are not stupid. They know when their parents basically hate each other. And to live in that tension filledhouse hold day after day for YEARS and YEARS has one hell of a psychological effect.

And it's easier to act civil towards the other parent when you are no longer in that relationship, and don't live with them, etc.

 

[mdresident]

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

Originally Posted by mdresident

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

I'm not gonna front, I think that parents that get divorced when young children are involved are selfish. The children deserve better than that. Once you have a child its your responsibility as a parent to put the best interests of your kids before whats best for you. I'm sure there are people that don't agree but I've seen what divorce does to young children. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be happy, I just think you need to put yourself in the kids shoes.

That is ridiculous. So, if the parents are constantly fighting and always miserable they should stick it out, even after many attempts at trying to fix the problem? The parent's well being does not matter anymore? This can cause even bigger problems. This new situation will take some time for the kids to get used to, but just like any other human being, they will eventually get over it, and learn to love this new situation. But if they choose to stay together and kids have to hear constant screaming, I think that can cause way bigger problems.

If the can't act civil towards each other then how is rasing children gonna work? like I said before do your dirt outside of where you live but stay together for the kids.

Maybe you will understand if you are ever in a situation where u cannot stand to be around someone, and you are just always on the edge just being in the sameroom as them. That is not mentally healthy.

 

[njstress03]

Originally Posted by ProduccionFrescos

Getting married THAT YOUNG FTMFL!!!!

Why do people constantly put themselves in these situations? You don't even get to experience other people. "We're young and in love, let's get married"

this part has some truth to it, but this notion provides no help in this particular situation. OP does not need a lecture in love andrelationships etc. he is asking for post marriage with children advice.

 

[dapper d]

Thats tough man...good luck

 

[yungchamp]

damn bruh

sry 2 hear that

 

[stoneyjax]

keep your head up bro

 

[mrmoneyindabank]

Originally Posted by mdresident

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

Originally Posted by mdresident

Originally Posted by MrMoneyInDaBank

I'm not gonna front, I think that parents that get divorced when young children are involved are selfish. The children deserve better than that. Once you have a child its your responsibility as a parent to put the best interests of your kids before whats best for you. I'm sure there are people that don't agree but I've seen what divorce does to young children. I'm not knocking you for wanting to be happy, I just think you need to put yourself in the kids shoes.

That is ridiculous. So, if the parents are constantly fighting and always miserable they should stick it out, even after many attempts at trying to fix the problem? The parent's well being does not matter anymore? This can cause even bigger problems. This new situation will take some time for the kids to get used to, but just like any other human being, they will eventually get over it, and learn to love this new situation. But if they choose to stay together and kids have to hear constant screaming, I think that can cause way bigger problems.

If the can't act civil towards each other then how is rasing children gonna work? like I said before do your dirt outside of where you live but stay together for the kids.

Maybe you will understand if you are ever in a situation where u cannot stand to be around someone, and you are just always on the edge just being in the same room as them. That is not mentally healthy.

I've never been in that situation but if its that bad then the kids will still suffer even if they divorce. They are raising the same kids, they are goingto be around each other all the time.

 

[be23forlife]

children are more unhappy in a messed up a home, then a divorced home.

my boy's parents got divorce but his pops keeps it 100. supports him, guides him, is there for him, makes sure theres quality time,

and is very civil with his baby moms. You gotta make it work...Good luck OP, this is a very difficult position to be in but you gotta

have patience, think of your kids, work it out, be civil towards your EX, and take responsibility.

 

[lilstarz07]

still cant believe you couldnt work something out for the kids ...