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Marriage is NOTHING but a contract IMO
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Originally Posted by DearWinter219
Yeah... I AGREE with most of what's been said here.... 'Preciate the "advice" guys... now to share what I've "learned" with my lady....
Precisely. I can't imagine marrying someone and finding out that we don't work in bed. That stuff happens.Originally Posted by Cameron Nelson
Do I think it's necessary? Absolutely. Would you buy a car before you test drove it?
i would try to explain to them they sex isnt something that should be taken lightly & you shouldnt just have sex with any & everybody. Youshould wait until you area ready & are in a committed relationship with the person. In that case i really have no issue with it.Originally Posted by RKO2004
Originally Posted by DearWinter219
Yeah... I AGREE with most of what's been said here.... 'Preciate the "advice" guys... now to share what I've "learned" with my lady....
Wait a tick. If you have kids one day, what would you want them to do concerning sex?
Originally Posted by BwooDFolkGD74
sex is important. more important than marriage.
marriage is something we made up.
Damn... dude went in.Originally Posted by lobotomybeats
Precisely. I can't imagine marrying someone and finding out that we don't work in bed. That stuff happens.Originally Posted by Cameron Nelson
Do I think it's necessary? Absolutely. Would you buy a car before you test drove it?
But for those who wait, congrats! Congrats on the possibility of having terrible sex for the rest of your lives. Congrats on forever wondering about greener grasses. Congrats on not being compared to her last! Congrats on stroking your ego knowing that your inadequacies will only be compared to the magical awesome-ness of her hand or vibrator. You may not be able to get each other off, but hey, you are both each others best! Adorable. There may not be any cries of "Oh GODDDD!" and it has nothing to do with you taking the lord's name in vain. I raise my glass to your stringent Virgin policies. Not only are you willing to deprive yourself of something you ACTUALLY WANT, but you are willing to do it in the name of someone that there is no proof of! WOW. But really, I mean it. Congrats.
Seriously. those are the worst analogies I've ever heard. If buying a car is the same as a relationship to you then you have other issues towork on.Originally Posted by soundwave24
Because sex is something you can't improve in? You can't improve in your skills and techniques? There aren't like hundreds of thousands/millions of books and videos to help you learn how? You are innately born with the skills to please each other?
Being committed in a relationship is like buying a car? Wow, the analogies are right on point.
Originally Posted by soundwave24
Sex before marriage is common in our society but I think that it is one of the reason that our society is messed up. For men, sex is a selfish act (usually) and they just "want to get their's". Women tend to be insecure people and feel that this a way for acceptance (usually) and think that they can find love by giving in. So right out the gate, people are going to be messed up. I believe that waiting is an act of self-discipline. That if you want to get the best out of a relationship, you'd wait because the important parts of a relationship are not the physical ones. Waiting to have sex shows that you are willing to make a commitment to a goal and work at it, just like working on a relationship.
I know many people who are married and single and the woman uses sex as a weapon. "If you don't do what I want, you won't be getting any." I tell my girl, if you'd ever do that, I'd wait until hell freezes over and I'll win. By waiting, I can work on the problem and not have to give in to "get some". I'm also scared of having kids before I'm ready, catching some STD, or being a slave to sex. I know there are people who make fun of me (all the time) but this doesn't make me compromise on my goals. There will no time where I feel guilty because I but a girl through emotional pain of an abortion, settle for a job because I have a kid to take care of, marry a girl I don't want to be with, or have a child who is not having the full-time attention of both parents.
People also point out that marriage is not natural. There are things that separate us from animals like logic and reason. People need stability to raise healthy and emotional stable children. Children with parents who are committed to each other are far more likely to succeed than ones who are not and have healthy relationships of their own. The point that sex is natural is valid but the answer to that is that humans are more than animals and we progress above the "natural" standards. We have qualities that differentiates us from the common beasts and the more we rely on those qualities, the better we will be as a society.
Last but not least, I think of how many men destroyed their great situations to have better sex. Is it really that important? Is it so important that you are willing to risk your reputation and family over it? I see all the time on this board that people complain that some girl has screwed them over or that they can't find the right woman. If you don't do the right thing, how can you expect it in return?
i would try to explain to them they sex isnt something that should be taken lightly & you shouldnt just have sex with any & everybody. You should wait until you area ready & are in a committed relationship with the person. In that case i really have no issue with it.
honestly i believe that when that was said in the Bible, it wa smore realistic of an expectation. But now in this day & age when arranged marriages no longer happen & people date all throught adolescence & young adulthood. It would be a much more realistic thing to expect people not to have sex until they are in a committed relationship as opposed to marriage.
RKO: do you really think God would be that upset if two people who were in a committed serious relationship ahd sex even though they werent married?
Honestly yeah. Now what level I don't know. But I know He holds both sex and marriage in HIGH regard. But once again I don't know how upset. He justwants whats best.
Hmmm what happens if they are in a committed relationship and then break up?
Originally Posted by DearWinter219
So, what' the idea?
Is it sinful?
Is it necessary?
Is it taboo?
Is it reaqlistic for people to be tripping on it?
What do you believe?
RKO2004 wrote:
And why do people think sex can't be learned. You just know what to do. Its common sense.
Some aspects of it cant tho. Its like your saying speed can be taught. Sure, you can learn techniques to get better times, but it aint like you comin from a 5flat to a 4. Its the difference between a "big play" guy vs. one who, "just gets the job done," ... smell me?
Dont know bout you, but to me sex has a rhythm. Alot can be learned yes, but to be great at it requires a touch & a feeling inside about yourself thatcant be taught ...
Originally Posted by TkTheGirl
Originally Posted by Cameron Nelson
Do I think it's necessary? Absolutely. Would you buy a car before you test drove it?
Originally Posted by TkTheGirl
That what it sound like what you said to me. If not elaborate.
Originally Posted by Fanatic15
Seriously. those are the worst analogies I've ever heard. If buying a car is the same as a relationship to you then you have other issues to work on.Originally Posted by soundwave24
Because sex is something you can't improve in? You can't improve in your skills and techniques? There aren't like hundreds of thousands/millions of books and videos to help you learn how? You are innately born with the skills to please each other?
Being committed in a relationship is like buying a car? Wow, the analogies are right on point.