So I Hit my Sister.... smh

[solemate96]

I think you did the right thing. You didn't hit her face or anything just her leg.

 

[ositodormilon]

having a sister. and having lost my mother. i would have done the same

i was gonna stoneface you, but i saw how you went about it and i wouldve done the same.

not for nothing im glad my pops hit me when i was young. it kept me off the streets, now im doing good and me n my pops are best friends. tough love isneccesary.

i hateeee disrespectful kids man. it really grinds my gears

 

[damilkman619]

First off fam, my siblings and I were disciplined physicly as children, and so far we've turned out good so far. We're not perfect, but we're notout there raising hell or getting into trouble. Those were different times different generation. Kids now are so ahead of their time its getting ridiculous.

Second I believe in this form of discipline, but only to a certain point. Like, a slap on the hand, or a slap on the butt is fair and not really cruel. Belts,hangars, extension cord, slippers and all that are not right. To me, when you use these things to discipline people or children, that's when you cross theline from discipline to abuse.

Do I think you were in the wrong for smacking your sister in the leg? No. No, because you were trying to discipline her. Yes because you struck her out ofanger. I learned a while ago with my sister that hitiing each other out of anger is not the right thing to do. Especially if they're not much younger thanyou. That only leads to more problems. I'm not saying to walk away from it and forget it, just wait for a momment when she's calmed down and is willingto listen. That's what I do now, with my sister and my brother, and so far it seems to be working out.

Also fam you gotta becarefull with these kids now because they won't hesitate to pick up the phone and call the cops on you. If ur a legal adult now, thatmeans some serious time for you for hitting a minor. That's why its always good to think about what you're gonna do and say before you do it.

 

[janjan414]

siblings hit each other. thats what they are made for. I mean i would hit my little brothers if they were disrespecting one of my parents or send them to theirroom for the rest of the day.

 

[ridikuloz]

you can hit a girl in the face, only if it's the backside of your hand.

 

[mateen cleaves]

Originally Posted by BwooDFolkGD74

i threw a deck of cards at my sister's face

 

[dropkicks]

It was all for fam bam .. You did the right thing .. Respect my dogg ..

 

[trueshotaura]

I'd do the same propz

 

[west2east]

Originally Posted by ILL LEGAL OPERATION


All y'all "talk it out" and "use pyschology" folks are the ones with those bad #$! kids runnin' round the supermarket openin' up the popsicles and *$%!...

I never understood that *$%! when some spoiled brat says, "I hate you mom. You're a @$%$%." Like, how the hell do you not smack that kid in the mouth for that? Really.

You don't reason with children. You spank them.

I'm the one who doesn't have to always yell or spank my nephew in order to get him to listen. I really don't think me or Ska aresaying you never hit/spank your kids. It just shouldn't be your go to disciplining tactic first, every time.

Also you most definitely do reason with children. You aren't giving your child or yourself enough credit as a parent if you don't think children canreason. I mean isn't spanking a form of reasoning? Aren't you trying to teach them the connection between doing something unacceptable and being hit?Isn't that the objective? If you don't think your child is capable of developing that skill then why are you spanking/hitting them in the first place?Just to inflict pain on them?

 

[ag 47]

Originally Posted by 23ska909red02

You hit her... to make her respect others.

That's counterproductive on 2 levels.

#1. Hitting is disrespectful in itself, so it makes little sense for me to hit someone and tell them 'I'm hitting you to try and get you to be respectful to others, dammit!'

#2. You're not going to 'make' her do anything. The only person you can 'make' do something... is you.

I only lived with my sister and my dad for a couple years (from 18-20), and my sister was 9 kinds of disrespectful to my dad. We both resented him, but I just paid him no mind, paid him rent, stayed out of his hair, etc. She would go crazy on him... but I never hit her over it. It accomplishes nothing. Matter of fact, I've shared on here before that I've even fought for her when I saw my dads put his hands on her, pushing her or what not.

Yeah, my sister ended up going down a self-destructive path, and she's currently failing at life,'bout to get all 3 of her kids taken away by the state and everything, but would I have changed her life's path by hitting her when she was disrespectful to my dad?

Nope.

I know I'm a little late in this thread, but I have to ask you a hypothetical question Ska.

If you knew before hand that if you were to "check" your sister by slapping her leg (same thing OP did) that your sister would have
been less of a failure at life, would you have done it?

 

[onlyicanbcb603]

you did the right thing.

 

[darthska]

VeryAnalytical85:

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Ska, and all others who are against using physical abuse as discipline.

I'm all for it but there are those kids who refuse to listen...regardless of what you tell them (or any other non-physical alternative you give them) as a means of discipline.

So what will be the solution?
The solution will be for you to take your scenario back a few steps and realize something: no child is born with a refusal to listen. A 5year-old-who won't listen to his parents has been taught that he doesn't have to. What, he's told not to touch the big screen tvs at Best Buy, thenhe plays with one and it falls, and he goes home and gets his butt whooped? And? That's it? No working to pay for it? No taking his electronics away? Norestriction from going places with his parents when they go out, since he can't listen to them? None of that? Just whoop his *@#@ and that's the end ofit? Yeah, he's learned that he doesn't have to listen; he's learned that if he's tough enough to take the pain of a *@#@-whooping when he doessomething wrong, he can get away with anything.

 

[darthska]

ILL LEGAL OPERATION:

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All y'all "talk it out" and "use pyschology" folks are the ones with those bad #$! kids runnin' round the supermarket openin' up the popsicles and *$%!...

Let's not take it there, because every time I'm at Walmart or at the mall orsomething and I see some brat running around acting a fool,there's always some hoodrat behind him talking about ow she's going to whoop his %#%. And I always watch and think 'Yeah, that whole whopping himthing, that really seems to be working out for you.

Good job!'

Meanwhile, I'm married to a woman who was never hit... ever... by her parents, and she listened to every g.d. word they sad to her growing up. Same withher sister. They never disobeyed, got great grades, and they are both adults now with an EXCELLENT work ethic and respect for authority... but they were never,EVER hit.

Would you care to explain that?

 

[darthska]

TraSoul82:

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And Ska, you CAN make people do things whether you want to believe it or not. There is a reason governments use torture. It works. It's cruel, but it works.
Nope.

If you're torturing me unmercifully, I still have a choice to give you what you want or to allow the torture to continue.

The choice is still mine. Just because your options aren't 'Get shot in the head? Or enjoy an ice cream sundae?' doesn't mean your ability tochoose has been taken from you. Just because I'm tortuiring you doesn't mean I'm making you do something; you're still going to choose youraction.

 

[ajwings23]

Yeah most def not something good..

 

[darthska]

AG 47:

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I have to ask you a hypothetical question Ska.

If you knew before hand that if you were to "check" your sister by slapping her leg (same thing OP did) that your sister would have
been less of a failure at life, would you have done it?
Of course.

My turn to ask you a hypothetical.

If you were in my shoes, and you knew beforehand that you could straighten your sister out without ever laying a hand on her and you also knew beforehand thatthe end result would be more productive in the long run than if you were to hit her, would you keep your hands off?

Another hypothetical: if you were in my shoes or the OP's shoes and you knew beforehand that hitting your sister would continue a cycle of 'hit first;use other disciplines second' that would eventually lead to one of your sister's kids getting charged with child abuse because they took it too far,would you keep your hands to yourself?

 

[majik214]

Originally Posted by sauuceking

I hit too

His sister is 12. Dumb *#@ *$$+!

 

[retrojtino]

Originally Posted by ZOOM AIR ELITE

should have whipped it out to make a tight situation and awkward one.

Ay but seriously tho, those of you who say he's wrong, y'allz kids are gonna be running all over y'all. Physical discipline is almost likeelectroconvulsive therapy. For those of you that don't know what it is, it's a therapy for drug addicts. They induce the addict with a hit of the drug,and shock them afterwards. The idea is to make them believe that they'll experience pain or discomfort when they use the drug. Thus leading them to stop.My point is, you're sending a message that they'll be physically discplined (pain/discomfort) again if they decide to disrespect their elders (use thedrug). Ya dig?

EDIT: A.He only hit her in her leg. It ain't even that serious. and B. Please recognize that there's a difference between physical discipline andphysical abuse.

 

[iblink]

The title's name had me like ho-lee s--t

But honestly, you would have gotten your point across more clearly had you slapped her face. I don't advocate violence on women, but she isn't awoman yet; she's young, she was being disrespectful, and she needs to learn manners.
You did the right thing... kinda.

 

[retrojtino]

Originally Posted by iBlink


The title's name had me like ho-lee s--t

But honestly, you would have gotten your point across more clearly had you slapped her face. I don't advocate violence on women, but she isn't a woman yet; she's young, she was being disrespectful, and she needs to learn manners.
You did the right thing... kinda.

Damn Blink. In the face tho?

 

[b smooth 202]

I wish I could slap the hell out of my little sister sometimes, who is also REAL disrespectful.

Parents ain't havin it though. If it was a kid brother it wouldn't matter.

 

[brandonb2005]

Pops ain't aorund so I had to do it man..... its the only way I know.... I tried talking but kid won't listen yo.
Nope you did the right thing...she shouldn't be disrespecting your mother... Also try to talk to her when she isn't so mad, that will helptoo. But don't get soft cause you may have to do it again.

I got into a fist fight with my sis a min ago because she disrespected my mom who was taking care of us by herself. I held back for months watching my momstruggle and my sister just be disrespectful.

Then one day I just gave it to her... but this was when we were teens I was maybe 14-15 she was 16-17.

 

[iblink]

Originally Posted by RetroJTino

Originally Posted by iBlink


The title's name had me like ho-lee s--t

But honestly, you would have gotten your point across more clearly had you slapped her face. I don't advocate violence on women, but she isn't a woman yet; she's young, she was being disrespectful, and she needs to learn manners.
You did the right thing... kinda.

Damn Blink. In the face tho?

Real talk. It's called discipline. You guys can keep that "abuse" stuff. IMO, there's a huge difference in the two.

The guy's sister is 12

and talking to their moms like she was oldenough to do things on her own. The guy hit her leg; That's nothing.

 

[darthska]

RetroJTino:

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Ay but seriously tho, those of you who say he's wrong, y'allz kids are gonna be running all over y'all. Physical discipline is almost like electroconvulsive therapy. For those of you that don't know what it is, it's a therapy for drug addicts. They induce the addict with a hit of the drug, and shock them afterwards. The idea is to make them believe that they'll experience pain or discomfort when they use the drug. Thus leading them to stop. My point is, you're sending a message that they'll be physically discplined (pain/discomfort) again if they decide to disrespect their elders (use the drug). Ya dig?
Drug addicts have a chemical imbalance that creates the need for the drug they are addicted to; they didn't just learn to want the drug. Theyare addicted to it, as in, their body has created a chemical need for it. Kids learn how to act, whether it's appropriate learned behavior orinappropriate. Do you have any kids? Have you done any study or research on child development? I hate to pull that card, becuase I know there are a lot ofpeople that like to think that their uneducated, unresearched opinion should count just the same as someone else's experienced, researched opinion... butthat's just arrogant and rebellious to think that.

A drug addict has a chemical imbalance affecting their thoughts and behaviors; children don't. Children act in accordance with what they know they can getaway with, and if you hit first and encorporate other disciplines later (or never), then like I said before, you've aught the kid that if he can be toughenough to withstand pain, he can get away with anything. THAT kid will walk all over you, and your frustration with your inability to get him to act right willonly make you want to it him more, and since he's tough enough to withstand the pain, then once again, no progress will be made. And we'll all see youat the mall wondering where you went wrong, wondering why when you say 'If you don't put that back, so help me god, you won't walk for a week',the kid just laughs at you and says 'Like that's going to hurt.' And then you can see other parents call their kids name out and just barely givetheir kids a menacing glare, and the kid stops what they're doing and waits to be told what to do.

It's interesting watching the development of my son, because I have never put my hands on him punitively (for punishment or out of frustration), andneither has his mom (my wife). But both of us... when we call out his name sternly... son freezes. He literally freezes his body, stops what he's doing,and just stares at us, waiting for us to tell him to come to us or put down what he had or move from where he is, or whatever.

Hitting is not the only way to establish fear, but establishing fear shouldn't be the goal to begin with; establishing respect should be.

RetroJTino:

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Please recognize that there's a difference between physical discipline and physical abuse.
Definitely. Physical discipline is 'corporal punishment'; physical abuse is... 'physical abuse'.

 

[bboi4lif3]

i seen the tittle & thought something else lol