TAY '16: The Saga Continues

[301216baller]

Lmao

 

[Coromanti]

Ex-Girlfriend says we're on break. However, as of 9:23PM, Tuesday, May 17, 2016 I am single. In high school I made two rules for myself based on the stories I've been told by friends and family, NT, and my own personal inclinations.

1. Never start out a relationship as long distance.

2. There's no such thing as a break. We either are or are not together.

I broke rule #1 for her, I will not break rule #2. Initially I gave myself until this Saturday (tomorrow) to decide whether I would just break it off or if I would give her an ultimatum of we either are or are not together. Now I'm just gonna break it off.

 

[suberzat1]

What happen

 

[slighted]

 
Ex-Girlfriend says we're on break. However, as of 9:23PM, Tuesday, May 17, 2016 I am single. In high school I made two rules for myself based on the stories I've been told by friends and family, NT, and my own personal inclinations.

1. Never start out a relationship as long distance.

2. There's no such thing as a break. We either are or are not together.

I broke rule #1 for her, I will not break rule #2. Initially I gave myself until this Saturday (tomorrow) to decide whether I would just break it off or if I would give her an ultimatum of we either are or are not together. Now I'm just gonna break it off.

Ultimatums don't work in relationships.

Just go ghost and get back in the game. You're a handsome, delicious dude and it's Friday in NYC.

 

[tomdiginson]

Good job, you did everything right here. Have you considered smashing that initial friend?

I barely know said friend I'm sure if we buck into each other though its on and popping.

 

[EddieDoyers]

I was sitting in the park today during my lunch break and couldn't do any thing with all the hints these chicks was giving me.

A chick showed me her panties and I was like yeah that's cool...

Cmon man u letting TAY down with this

Im in a relationship......I'm letting myself down

Oh well then
Nothing wrong with having a side jk

 

[poorhomiejuan]

Long time lurker, first time poster. It's an absolute honor to be amongst such savages! Any young fathers here or that were young fathers that aren't with the BM?

 

[Coromanti]

What happen

We had been having problems for a bit which culminated in a small argument I posted about maybe a month ago or so. Then that small argument spiraled out into a biiig argument where we eventually ended up agreeing that we didn't truly trust one another. I didn't tell her how I truly felt about things because she would have an overblown emotional reaction. She didn't feel like I was ever truly open with her. Not just in that moment but for quite a while. So we tried to hit the reset button. We explicitly agreed to leave things in the past. A week later she starts saying that I 'lied' about something (I call it omission, she calls it a lie *shrug*) and I was like yea I did 'lie' but why is that relevant when we said we weren't going to dig up stuff from the past. She says its still relevant (literally impossible but ok...) and that I should've told her and I'm like literally that goes against our agreement. She wants a break. I internally say screw that I'm out. I won't be punished for trying. I wont be on a "break" with anyone. So tomorrow I'm saying screw that I'm out to her face so I can be done.

EDIT: And what pisses me off the most is that I genuinely considered every point she put against me and apologized and conceded where she was right. I genuinely am trying to become a better person. She would here none of why she messed up and would always come with some bull crap she felt a certain way therefore she did nothing wrong. Literally saying feelings = facts...and when I called her on that she then switched to feelings > facts. Like this is insane. Note to all men to ever read TAY...don't date women with daddy issues. It's a headache (and BOTH my dad and step dad warned about about this in the past).

 

 
Ex-Girlfriend says we're on break. However, as of 9:23PM, Tuesday, May 17, 2016 I am single. In high school I made two rules for myself based on the stories I've been told by friends and family, NT, and my own personal inclinations.

1. Never start out a relationship as long distance.

2. There's no such thing as a break. We either are or are not together.

I broke rule #1 for her, I will not break rule #2. Initially I gave myself until this Saturday (tomorrow) to decide whether I would just break it off or if I would give her an ultimatum of we either are or are not together. Now I'm just gonna break it off.

Ultimatums don't work in relationships.

Just go ghost and get back in the game. You're a handsome, delicious dude and it's Friday in NYC.

Yep. Tomorrow gonna be a fun day.

 

[slighted]

 

What happen

We had been having problems for a bit which culminated in a small argument I posted about maybe a month ago or so. Then that small argument spiraled out into a biiig argument where we eventually ended up agreeing that we didn't truly trust one another. I didn't tell her how I truly felt about things because she would have an overblown emotional reaction. She didn't feel like I was ever truly open with her. Not just in that moment but for quite a while. So we tried to hit the reset button. We explicitly agreed to leave things in the past. A week later she starts saying that I 'lied' about something (I call it omission, she calls it a lie *shrug*) and I was like yea I did 'lie' but why is that relevant when we said we weren't going to dig up stuff from the past. She says its still relevant (literally impossible but ok...) and that I should've told her and I'm like literally that goes against our agreement. She wants a break. I internally say screw that I'm out. I won't be punished for trying. I wont be on a "break" with anyone. So tomorrow I'm saying screw that I'm out to her face so I can be done.

EDIT: And what pisses me off the most is that I genuinely considered every point she put against me and apologized and conceded where she was right. I genuinely am trying to become a better person. She would here none of why she messed up and would always come with some bull crap she felt a certain way therefore she did nothing wrong. Literally saying feelings = facts...and when I called her on that she then switched to feelings > facts. Like this is insane. Note to all men to ever read TAY...don't date women with daddy issues. It's a headache (and BOTH my dad and step dad warned about about this in the past).

No x 900000000

Good on you for dodging the bullet. None of this "should I/should I not?" self-doubt and questioning.

Note: If you're breaking up with her officially tomorrow, make sure it's in a crowded, public area.

 

[ogmcmxcii]

No x 900000000

Good on you for dodging the bullet. None of this "should I/should I not?" self-doubt and questioning.

Note: If you're breaking up with her officially tomorrow, make sure it's in a crowded, public area.

You making his ex seem like she Jodi Arias

Free my baby smh [emoji]128531[/emoji][emoji]128557[/emoji]

 

[Mark Antony]

Met a chick today that had a random spark, haven't felt that in a while. That **** where y'all just met and it all just feels super natural. I swear she's some kinda Asian/Latina/black mix, built like a 2010 Kim K. Too bad she's married with kids, but I like the way that brief encounter felt. I think I got a type.

"Note to all men to ever read TAY...don't date women with daddy issues. It's a headache (and BOTH my dad and step dad warned about about this in the past)."

Could've told you that, especially if she's younger. They love asking for breaks then try to be up in your face harder. It's like an internal conflict of wanting attachment but not being used to attachment. At least some later in life work through the issues.

 

[adi934liife]

Fellow savages I need some help....the "lets chill and smoke a backwood" ain't working no more. I refuse to take these jumpoffs on dates as well.

 

[suberzat1]

You want to come over and watch the NBA Playoffs and drink Hennessy?

 

[slighted]

Fellow savages I need some help....the "lets chill and smoke a backwood" ain't working no more. I refuse to take these jumpoffs on dates as well.

Minimize spending $$$ as much as possible.

 

[BIG LEEMELONE]

Minimize spending $$$ as much as possible.

This. Get her to pay if you can. Tell her you want a woman that's generous and that you like to feel appreciated. Ish works wonders

 

[T Lo Sweater]

Story time. Lil bit of a read but its interesting

Me and my girl going on 4 months. Shes a big Christian. Like really ******* big. I'm a muslim. Not like she didn't know either. Since day 1 she knew

Anyways she asked me to church a while back and i said yes to be nice. Then shes asking me to go again and I'm like no. I'm not waking up early on a Sunday and im not even a church person

Then she invites me to Bible study, even had the nerve to ask me if islam promotes violence. Bc she googled it and some site said yes

Kinda felt like she was tryna convert me but I'm like Nahh. She isn't that dumb

So 2 weekends ago shes wit me and my boys at a BBQ. She goes with one of them since he was gonna go pick up his girl (they get along great) so when they came back my boy drags me to the side and spills the Beans

In the car she brings up religion and says how shes gonna end up with a Christian at the end of the day. And that it says so in the Bible. My boy was like then why are you with troy then? You expect him to convert? She says yes

Then he's like wow. Does he know? She says no and that we would prolly break up if we discussed it. But then she goes on saying she would never convert for me and that islam is the reason ppl are dying around the world

I couldn't help but laugh. Cause deep down i figured she was tryna throw shade about my beliefs and ish. But like I said shes super into church and Bible study every week man

Im not the most religious person but I have my beliefs and what not.

I can't even play my dam music around her cause she complains about the curses. I was just with her just to be with her. Like I'm indifferent about the whole relationship honestly

Few of my boys said to just let it rock and ride out and see what happens since idc if im with her or not

Thoughts?

 

[vagixxer]

What part of the game is staying with a chick you clearly know isn't the right fit my guy?

 

[T Lo Sweater]

What part of the game is staying with a chick you clearly know isn't the right fit my guy?

I really don't know. Did the same thing last year Smh i need to stop

 

[tdogg2k]

idk what there is to debate...

There is nothing wrong with being with someone of a different faith, but if it's affecting yall like that then you dont need to be with her period.
you dont plan on changing and she doesn't plan on changing, Its a problem.

 

[ogmcmxcii]

I really wanna respond but I'll hold my tongue

 

[ogmcmxcii]

But the word does say unequally yoked won't match so..... Take it how you want to and let the chick be free to someone else

 

[T Lo Sweater]

Say it g

I just shared cause i wanted to see what you guys were gonna say

The end is coming for us anyways cause that's just od

 

[doxen5703]

Yeah she's bugging. You should check her too for being ignorant on your religion as well, or for her listening to what Wikipedia told her. But deadass you know you gotta get outta there b. Just slide out like

 

[Roderick Kingsley]

Religion shouldn't matter at all. As long as there's mutual respect for each other's beliefs (clearly she doesn't for you), it's all good. What she's doing is wrong.

Drop her.

 

[ogmcmxcii]

The end is coming for us anyways

Says who? I don't live here