TAY '16: The Saga Continues

[ballinsam23]

 

[spizike231]

Been talking to this 30 y/o. Im intrigued by her but she has a kid |I . Always said that was a deal breaker for me 

What her kid got to do w/ you smashin that box?

 

[yaje1christ]

30sum and 1 kid.... Be thankful. Most got 3, 4.

I met this cool chick recently, she's 31 and has 3... Imma glaze the yambs but Imma have to give her a few options if she wanna continue a friendship.


Especially since I just pulled this other piece that I been lurking on for awhile. She was a very particular woman but I pulled out the good bait and reeled her *** in. I'm the 1 in 9,999... She told me she's only been with and loved 1 guy..... I'm about to show her what she's been missing in more ways than 1.


Not her but a splitting image. (I'm not posting her face on this site) lol nahhhhhhh this is Somelanie she's on IG. 1 of my dream girls, I just happened to find her twin.
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This is actually the female I'm talking to. Had to post a pic for beast.
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Imma stand up in it....

 

[suberzat1]

I can't **** with these sideline pics dude I need the in game view.

 

[tripleddd]

What her kid got to do w/ you smashin that box?

fax

 

[ballinsam23]

Feel like **** fam

Dated my best friend for the last 1.5 years. She just ended it this past two weeks on some "I dont feel it anymore, I thought I was obsessed with you all this time but I'm not anymore, I cant be with anyone right now and I rather just be friends" BS. That **** literally caught me off guard like crazy.

Background on her. She's only been with 1 other dude in her life. Dated him from 16-22 and randomly ended it with him. He turned to drugs and she tried to help him out by going back to him but he was a lost cause. We started pharmacy school together three years ago. At first I knew she started talking to me as a rebound but we hit it off like crazy. We slowed down a little because she said she cant jump into another relationship and needs time. Cool. One year break of just being friends, I did my own thing. We got super close last two years and hit it off again. Emotional and physical chemistry was crazy. Complete different feeling when you actually make love, I was new to this. Talked about marriage, kids, introduced to family, etc. After two years, 100% was the woman I wanted to marry, introduced to parents (I never did this), traveled together, she's literally everything I look for in a woman inside and out.

Now she drops this bomb. Before you guys ask there is no other guy. She's very sensitive and delicate. Took her ex 1 year to smash, took me 3 months of dating. Had a long talk with her mom and she said something along the lines of "sometimes two people cross paths and it just wasnt meant to be". Not tryna hear that right now. Tough thing about all of this is that we see each other every day, have same schedules, same friend groups, and live next door to each other

Now.....she has ADHD and after all this time together I've learned to cope with it and how to approach certain things with her. Has anyone here ever dealt with a woman who has ADHD? I've been doing research on couples where one person has ADHD and its I mean I've lived it last 2 years but its all starting to come together.

I try to avoid her and havent spoke to each other every since the semester started. No point of being her friend. Once the next man comes in the picture I'm not tryna see that. Not about this get under someone to get over someone, grew out of that phase. Plus its hard when you see the person you still love everyday. Just needed to vent...

 

[Kaleo15]

Sometimes it's just not meant to be. Can't be upset at that! Just move on to the next one.

 

[spizike231]

She sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, famb.

Sounds like you gave her a happy relationship, and you just weren't enough. Same with the last dude.. when you said she ended it with last dude abruptly too that's a red flag to me. The only people that do that 2 times in a row are people who don't know what they want at this point in their life.. the quotes you posted from her only reinforce this idea. 3 years into this relationship with my girl and I can confirm that I'm not obsessed with her, but I love her and we make it work. If she wants puppy love forever then it sounds like she'll never be happy.

That sucks man, you were ready to put a ring on it and she suddenly wasn't feeling you anymore..

Maybe she'll come to her senses and realize that she needs to be happy cause good dudes don't come around often. You took her to meet your family and treated her well, that's not something all dudes do anymore.

 

[lamekilla]

ballinsam23 damn fam I'm sorry. Dealt with a similar situation before minus the ADHD but that's wild. Did you see any signs of you guys drifting apart before hand?

 

[ballinsam23]

Thats the hard part about all of this. I really dont think she knows what she wants. All of her close friends were saying "you cant go hurting people because you dont know what you want". Also, the signs of us drifting werent really there.

Just 3 weeks ago we were still holding hands, doing the whole public affection thing, sleeping together, etc. I'm not the type of guy that needs to text all day or needs constant affection, but we still talked every day. Like she clearly thought about this but just hid it well. She always overthinks everything anyway, but her decision was so impulsive and came out of left field.

I hope she comes to her senses, but I dont know if I can take her back. For a woman to just randomly do this is dangerous. Not tryna deal with something like that down the line, its hard as is right now.

 

[Mark Antony]

Tough, only thing you can do is respect her wishes and move on. Doing more to try and make her see will not work.

 

[awwsome]

Sometimes it's just not meant to be. Can't be upset at that! Just move on to the next one.

Real talk.

It hurts when you spent so much time/energy building the relationship only to have it seemingly end for nothing.


It's especially hurtful when you saw a long future with her and she checks all the boxes you look for in a life partner.


Bright side is, is that now you know what that kinda connection feels like and moving forward you'll be a better man because of it.


Y'all ain't even end on a bad note really so if it's meant to be at another time it will.


I don't recommend even trying to wait though, take your time before you dive into something new but also use this period as a time to add to your value as a man.

 

[ogmcmxcii]

Same sad symphony happened to me 3 times bro.

The "I don't know what I want" women go from guy to guy draining their happiness and peace of mind with their problems

You have every right to vent bro so release it

Like Orlando (from DOAMBW) said

"When you love someone, you just can't be friends"

But sometimes if you really care Let Them Go to figure themselves out.

But the older we get the less time you / we want to spend on negative energy and relationships that hold you back

Go for a run to clear your head & smoke some bud afterwards

 

[Mark Antony]

It's a catalyst for real growth. If you do it right, spend the time on yourself becoming the best you, your biggest stress will be how to get them all to not fall for you, so you have to give that speech when it doesn't feel right.

 

[awwsome]

Thats the hard part about all of this. I really dont think she knows what she wants. All of her close friends were saying "you cant go hurting people because you dont know what you want". Also, the signs of us drifting werent really there.

Just 3 weeks ago we were still holding hands, doing the whole public affection thing, sleeping together, etc. I'm not the type of guy that needs to text all day or needs constant affection, but we still talked every day. Like she clearly thought about this but just hid it well. She always overthinks everything anyway, but her decision was so impulsive and came out of left field.

I hope she comes to her senses, but I dont know if I can take her back. For a woman to just randomly do this is dangerous. Not tryna deal with something like that down the line, its hard as is right now.

Last paragraph, remember that.


Just judging off of what you said, she's going to come back around if not now, in the near future.


You gotta be strong my guy, that type of behavior isn't something you can take lightly at all.

You know her and her character better than we ever will but I think you better off just moving on completely.

 

[bowflex]

^ 100% agree.

 

[slighted]

Thats the hard part about all of this. I really dont think she knows what she wants. All of her close friends were saying "you cant go hurting people because you dont know what you want". Also, the signs of us drifting werent really there.

Just 3 weeks ago we were still holding hands, doing the whole public affection thing, sleeping together, etc. I'm not the type of guy that needs to text all day or needs constant affection, but we still talked every day. Like she clearly thought about this but just hid it well. She always overthinks everything anyway, but her decision was so impulsive and came out of left field.

I hope she comes to her senses, but I dont know if I can take her back. For a woman to just randomly do this is dangerous. Not tryna deal with something like that down the line, its hard as is right now.

Don't waver, fam. There is no more time/space to do the whole "I hope she comes back to me" nonsense.

You seem like a handsome, scrumptious, and intelligent dude. How your girl acts is how SHE acts (not you). You are not responsible for the decisions she makes. You are 2 grown, capable adults.

It's going to suck over the next few months, but here's the incredible part: you are now free to raise your self-equity/value. You can find another girl, you can crush it in your classes, you can hang with new people you meet at school, you can try new things you haven't before, etc.

Don't dwell on it. The best "revenge" is living well. Never forget that you are the prize.

 

[doxen5703]

^ I'm with everything he said. Word for word. Repped.

 

[ballinsam23]

Repped everywhere.

Bookmarked this page in case I gotta come back and read some of the responses again to keep me focused on the bigger picture. Thanks for all the advice and support fam

 

[hennessy]

Sarah continues to haunt me :x Just want to vent this funny story that shows girls are truly crazy sometimes.

About two weeks ago I got a long midnight text from my most recent ex (let's call her A). It was pretty comical. She called me a ****** up psycho who needed God, to go see a psychiatrist, go to church or something and basically just cursed me out and asked WTF was wrong with me, grow up, I hope your next relationship isn't as messed up as you were when you were with me, etc, etc, etc...

Mind you I hadn't seen or spoke to this girl since February....SINCE FEBRUARY! Guess what set this off? She was visiting some friends at the college we both went to and claims I was speaking to my other ex Sarah (who she doesn't even know; but her friends do) telling Sarah that I had a new gf during the time we were together. Now I wasn't speaking to Sarah so I don't know how she found out but she's been known to stalk my LinkedIn and ****. Well A tells me now it's weird for her to hang out with her friends who are mutual friends with Sarah and A because during the time I was seeing A, I was supposedly secretly talking to Sarah just bragging I was with a new girl? Claims I was purposely trying to upset Sarah and it worked and now a girl she doesn't even know hates her and doesn't want her friends to hang out with her. Like I'm not even that elaborate and what purpose would this plan serve me? LOL.

This doesn't even make any sense to me! Both these girls broke up with me months to years ago when I was begging for them back at that time. I haven't contacted either of them and they are beefing with eachother over me? This is just some dumb sororiety girl stuff. I didn't even respond to her text. Just laughed at them with my girl, who actually saw them first and confronted me about it.

 

[Kaleo15]

I can use a BJ from a slim chick with big boobs tonight... I had a dream a week ago and I been craving ever since...

I found the exact female from my dream on okcupid. She was a splitting image.... I'll post a pic. I was sucking milk out them jugs in the dream....

Found the same chick, we talked briefly, she was acting mightyer than thou so nothing came from it...

She deleted her profile already, it's strange and ironic the same female from my dreams just showed up outta nowhere.

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She looks like my homegirl. Yambs was A1 and she could do the splits on my ****.

She ***** with my girl now, so every now and then I get to hit.

 

[Mark Antony]

So wildest thing, i'm out last night to the gym and decided to cop some pho for post workout. I get to the spot, and there's what looks like a closed bakery next door, but there's a big dude outside looking like a bouncer. Weird, but pay it no mind. As i'm leaving I see some of the thickest spanish joints moving in and out and my interest is piqued. Turns out the bakery is a club at night. Coworker thinks these joints are pros, but my interest is piqued either way.

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[ogmcmxcii]

So wildest thing, i'm out last night to the gym and decided to cop some pho for post workout. I get to the spot, and there's what looks like a closed bakery next door, but there's a big dude outside looking like a bouncer. Weird, but pay it no mind. As i'm leaving I see some of the thickest spanish joints moving in and out and my interest is piqued. Turns out the bakery is a club at night. Coworker thinks these joints are pros, but my interest is piqued either way.

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Damn [emoji]128563[/emoji] Yooooo you should gooooo

 

[tdogg2k]

Sarah continues to haunt me :x Just want to vent this funny story that shows girls are truly crazy sometimes.t.

that is crazy random, did you tell your girl???

we talking about the one we talked about right??? why does she even care now. ?

 

[23kidd]

So wildest thing, i'm out last night to the gym and decided to cop some pho for post workout. I get to the spot, and there's what looks like a closed bakery next door, but there's a big dude outside looking like a bouncer. Weird, but pay it no mind. As i'm leaving I see some of the thickest spanish joints moving in and out and my interest is piqued. Turns out the bakery is a club at night. Coworker thinks these joints are pros, but my interest is piqued either way.

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bra..lets make that move.


im being dead *** srs too.PM me if you down...im in maryland.