TAY '16: The Saga Continues

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How old are you? And what do you plan on turning this relationship into? Reason I ask is cus in 3 years her daughter might try and push up on you, and then you gonna have to explain to her moms/your lady that her daughter is outta line

No relationship just company wise and whatever I can milk out of the deal between now and the end of October.

I'm 24 and her daughter is 14 (basically 15 because her bday coming up in a week or two. Freshman in HS. She a lil cute something something that's probably going to blossom into something bad when she gets older)

Just remember to strap up before you get dome :lol
 
I cringe atm the all the times I told a chick I loved her :x :x :x

And my simp *** at the time said that **** a lot

****, what is wrong with meeeeeeeeee :{
 
I cringe atm the all the times I told a chick I loved her :x :x :x

And my simp *** at the time said that **** a lot

****, what is wrong with meeeeeeeeee :{

Once you lose that v card your whole perspective gonna change. Just lose it to the old woman.
 
Its all me. Shes good and as i reflected she gave up a lot for me. Alot more than i gave up for her.

Its not just she hasnt done anything to warrant a break up. I just wasnt ready and for the foreseeable future im not going to be. I tried to will myself in to be because she is a good one.
Thats where that confliction has come in...stick with it because it might work even tho im not 100% in
Or not be selfish and let her live and do her wothout her waiting for me to decide on what i want.
I feel like if you really care about someone they should never go to bed not knowing if youre in or not.

Was in the same predicament. **** i'm still kinda in it. I do care for her, and there are moments I really miss her, but other times I really don't and just want my space. No matter how much I try it's never been smooth acceptance in my head, always questions. I can't still be doing that 5 yrs down the line, I gotta be sure. We hang out all the damn time, but i'll probably slow that up so she can ease out to something better, someone without doubts.
 
@mark. You said something similar to that in here about a month ago and that's what initially had me like. ...damn i feel like that too...
Made me feel like damn im just comfortable and not in love. And with me thinking about a huge move im just thinking is this what i want to do. With her?
 
Sometimes that comfortability is love tho. Considering there are no definites in love the answer plainly hidden infront of you (if you catch my drift). Nothing is gonna prepare you to make the "right" decision.

That's why there's so many broken hearts around here, not just from bad people hurtin' em but making these decisions and both making the right/wrong choice. You gon survive either way. When me and my ex broke up, I loved her so much man and it killed me to see how we were together, how she handled herself while we were together and how she reacted to the break up but I accepted that "whatever will be, will be" and if we got back together cool if not cool. Ish hurt for a while and ended up hurtin' some of the people I dated after her but eventually it all ended up worth it
 
Sometimes that comfortability is love tho. Considering there are no definites in love the answer plainly hidden infront of you (if you catch my drift). Nothing is gonna prepare you to make the "right" decision.
This im not so sure if I fully agree, I do partly.

because yes love can be comfortablilty as well, but Love is also a verb and it's active. Comfortability to me is standing still and liking things as is. There has to be more, forever progressing.
if neither of you are in a place financially you want to be (atleast as a single person) or if you're ok with not traveling being where you are. then that type of comfortability actually hinders you.

For me personally that's where I am. (her too). we are both not anywhere where we want to be, but we were willing to stay where we are in order to be together...and there is nothing wrong with that. but that comfortability would have had me stay in a position I dont want to be in for longer, (same for her). and I still dont think her and I together are not in a place relationship wise where we should accept that. maybe if I was already making 70-80k, had a place i was comfortable with in an an area i liked with the aminites of life that make me happy it would be different.
but im not, and she is not.
and she was going to leave everything she's wanted for me (and though that's a nice gesture) it's a selfish thing for me to do. (which is part of what I realized in my self reflection.) I didn't even consider I was doing that to her at first.
I realized i was the one completely leading this relationship. and that to me isn't a mutual relationship. And im still in that place where im selfish and want to do what i want to do. instead of kind of making her do that stuff.
so when I said i dont know if im ready or she's just not the one im ready for. that could be part of it too.
I'd rather have someone that likes doing what i do aside from having to drag someone who is not so in to it.
and vice versa for the things she wanted to do (we did some) but i didn't enjoy myself, just like she didn't enjoy her self with most of my plans.
we tolerated it, still had a smile or two. but it was nothing like we were both like. OMG THAT WAS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE.
The only thing we did together where we both came out like that was the trampoline park.

Yea I could regret ending this (potentially) but it's as you said on the last page, it may be one of those things where a month or so down the line I realize it and maybe we get back together.
Or could be one of those things where stuff just starts lining up perfectly and that was the one thing that was somewhat holding it all back.



And just to clarify (im not sure if I ever put this out there) but we've only been officially dating for 6 months. been hanging out for a little over a year, we started out as friends. meeting up for drinks, BSing about who we were dating, a little flirting here and there. but never anything serious until about 7 months ago.
So a lot of the reason why I would rather end it now than wait down the line, because
1. we will still have the opportunity to let this subside let it hurt for awhile and return back to being casual friends (no sex required). Meeting up, talking, still goign to events to enjoy, working out together once in awhile.

or
2. if we do end up both doing our thing and if it leads to coming back to each other it wasn't some huge blow up where our feeligns are so hurt that the possibility isn't even there.
 
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Once you lose that v card your whole perspective gonna change. Just lose it to the old woman.

:lol I might as well for the history books [emoji]128517[/emoji]. I don't care about keeping it anymore and it's not like my future wife going to be one either so.....time for me to get to work [emoji]128520[/emoji]
 
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I might as well for the history books [emoji]128517[/emoji]. I don't care about keeping it anymore and it's not like my future wife going to be one either so.....time for me to get to work [emoji]128520[/emoji]
Once you pop, you can't stop
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 So true 
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Flipping the mood of these past few posts.

Will be in daygo to visit my boy for the weekend. He just broke off a short engagement with his girl because she was heartless, long story short. 

I know some spots down there that will be fun and plenty of female folk to swoon.

Question:

Do you encourage your boy to go all out this weekend with the females after an emotional L like he had or just go with the flow and let him do his thing and be mopy?
 
This is the problem these days. I've heard so many people lately say "what's the point of being in a relationship if you're not working towards eventually marriage?" :x confused how you're suppose to know you want to marry someone if you aren't in a relationship and just seeing if it feels right over time.

People take things too serious and overthink way too much man, my NT bros y'all have to live your life no one is going to do it for you.
Don't know if I'm misreading this but I encourage getting in a relationship and finding out if she is the one. I never go into a dating situation with a "cap" in mind. I'm always thinking bigger picture and never been one just trying to get my **** wet or whatever.

You gotta put it all out there (in moderation) if you want a meaningful relationship. Yes that means sacrifice, compromise, dedication, and opening up. But by no means is a committed relationship a marriage. If you not feeling it and it doesn't work out, no big deal. Go your separate ways, reflect and on to the next. Hell, maybe you two aren't meant to be right now and it takes time apart or a couple dates here and there to realize she's right for you. Hopefully she takes you back after that realization though :lol
 
Realized i won't find future babe in my house, so I guess I have to go out tonight. Anyone on nt selling a cloth and chloroform?
 
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:lol I might as well for the history books [emoji]128517[/emoji]. I don't care about keeping it anymore and it's not like my future wife going to be one either so.....time for me to get to work [emoji]128520[/emoji]


So many dumb thots will actually think, or act like they thinj you are kodak black.

Stop playin yaself.
 
Flipping the mood of these past few posts.

Will be in daygo to visit my boy for the weekend. He just broke off a short engagement with his girl because she was heartless, long story short. 

I know some spots down there that will be fun and plenty of female folk to swoon.

Question:

Do you encourage your boy to go all out this weekend with the females after an emotional L like he had or just go with the flow and let him do his thing and be mopy?
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He can be in his feelings on his own time. Your job is to plant that seed in his head that there are other females out there and get him back in the game. He may not thank you right away but you'll hear it eventually.
 
Flipping the mood of these past few posts.

Will be in daygo to visit my boy for the weekend. He just broke off a short engagement with his girl because she was heartless, long story short. 

I know some spots down there that will be fun and plenty of female folk to swoon.

Question:

Do you encourage your boy to go all out this weekend with the females after an emotional L like he had or just go with the flow and let him do his thing and be mopy?

He can be in his feelings on his own time. Your job is to plant that seed in his head that there are other females out there and get him back in the game. He may not thank you right away but you'll hear it eventually.
 
Thots? The hell you talking about :lol. Man the lady I'm trying to sample is 38 [emoji]128517[/emoji]

Im just sayin man, stop feelin sorry for yourself amd shoot your shots. Cant come in these threads talmbout how you aint winnin, gotta gain some swlf confidence and be able to know when to say **** these broads and emotions.
 
You can provide the atmosphere and ****, doesn't he'll bite. Don't stop either though. My boy loves to remind me when I was in that zone, ignoring bad joints. I remember one bad Filipina joint basically rubbing in my face, I just couldn't see her through the hurt at that time.
 
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