Sometimes that comfortability is love tho. Considering there are no definites in love the answer plainly hidden infront of you (if you catch my drift). Nothing is gonna prepare you to make the "right" decision.
This im not so sure if I fully agree, I do partly.
because yes love can be comfortablilty as well, but Love is also a verb and it's active. Comfortability to me is standing still and liking things as is. There has to be more, forever progressing.
if neither of you are in a place financially you want to be (atleast as a single person) or if you're ok with not traveling being where you are. then that type of comfortability actually hinders you.
For me personally that's where I am. (her too). we are both not anywhere where we want to be, but we were willing to stay where we are in order to be together...and there is nothing wrong with that. but that comfortability would have had me stay in a position I dont want to be in for longer, (same for her). and I still dont think her and I together are not in a place relationship wise where we should accept that. maybe if I was already making 70-80k, had a place i was comfortable with in an an area i liked with the aminites of life that make me happy it would be different.
but im not, and she is not.
and she was going to leave everything she's wanted for me (and though that's a nice gesture) it's a selfish thing for me to do. (which is part of what I realized in my self reflection.) I didn't even consider I was doing that to her at first.
I realized i was the one completely leading this relationship. and that to me isn't a mutual relationship. And im still in that place where im selfish and want to do what i want to do. instead of kind of making her do that stuff.
so when I said i dont know if im ready or she's just not the one im ready for. that could be part of it too.
I'd rather have someone that likes doing what i do aside from having to drag someone who is not so in to it.
and vice versa for the things she wanted to do (we did some) but i didn't enjoy myself, just like she didn't enjoy her self with most of my plans.
we tolerated it, still had a smile or two. but it was nothing like we were both like. OMG THAT WAS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE.
The only thing we did together where we both came out like that was the trampoline park.
Yea I could regret ending this (potentially) but it's as you said on the last page, it may be one of those things where a month or so down the line I realize it and maybe we get back together.
Or could be one of those things where stuff just starts lining up perfectly and that was the one thing that was somewhat holding it all back.
And just to clarify (im not sure if I ever put this out there) but we've only been officially dating for 6 months. been hanging out for a little over a year, we started out as friends. meeting up for drinks, BSing about who we were dating, a little flirting here and there. but never anything serious until about 7 months ago.
So a lot of the reason why I would rather end it now than wait down the line, because
1. we will still have the opportunity to let this subside let it hurt for awhile and return back to being casual friends (no sex required). Meeting up, talking, still goign to events to enjoy, working out together once in awhile.
or
2. if we do end up both doing our thing and if it leads to coming back to each other it wasn't some huge blow up where our feeligns are so hurt that the possibility isn't even there.