TAY: IT'S A MAN THING GINA

[tego calderon el abayarde]

If she BSin don't stress over it and move on to other yambs

 

[lamekilla]

About 10 pages back I mentioned a girl who invited me over and even though there was opportunity I didn't strike because 1. we have to work together in a student organization, 2. had to be sure it was appropriate.  Was waiting for invite #2.

Fast forward to today, invite #2 never came.  We were both in town over spring break and were talking but she was in "recluse mode." Kept snap chatting me pics of her watching tv all alone, would be flirty about it. No come over image/text. W.e.  A few days into break I decided to reach out and invite her to cook with me.  Said lets go shopping and cook something.

At fist i was like we both hungry, you should cook some black rice for me (she haitian).  
She was like nah im not gonna cook for you.  
I told her to put on her clothes and lets go get these groceries.  
She was like how you know I'm naked?
Me: Cuz you home alone..
blah blah blah
after a lil back and forth she conceded she dont know how to cook black rice.  But I'm still trying to be assertive word to Tariq, so give a final push: Let's learn and cook it together.
Still she doesn't bite and I hang up soon after.

That was our last major point of contact.  Come back after spring break, during one meeting me and a friend laughed after she said she cooked lobster.  Completely unrelated joke, but she seemed to be all in her feelings about it. And neither of us wanted to explain it.

She acting all cold towards me now and I'm not sure if it has to do with that one little joke.  She thought it was because she didnt want to cook for me and my friend and I were both like you're really reaching.  Dunno what to do now.

What should I do from here?

Dead her. She's stubborn and insecure. You legit tried to invite her to do something fun and spontaneous instead of the the usual "come chill" and she was acting funny. She knows you wanted to see her too and she was still acting funny. Who knows how to make lobster but not rice get her outta here

 

[tychalla]

Yeah there can be quality women at every age but when you are young, you change everyday. You don't have the coping skills to deal with real true relationships beyond yambs. Even though I have always been an old soul, the 18-25 year old me had no idea what the **** I wanted or who I was or how to keep a relationship longer then a year. It wasn't until I truly sat down at 26 were I got my focus and learn what I liked and didnt like.
Between those ages you are just "Playing" grown up..
People change everyday, **** happens and I know I am about to contradict myself a little bit but **** it. Have you ever just sat and wondered why all these dudes go insane after relationships or just FWB relationships, it's because they are either too young to handle the stress of rejection and they never learned how to deal with adversity or too old and never sat back in their younger days and reflected on their decisions or got wife up too young and that's all they know. So mentality is definately a factor in all of this.
But to speak with a forked tongue there truly isn't any difference between a young woman and a older woman, don't be blinded by these so called "independent" women. They will hurt and confuse you more then a youngin..
But 18-25 you might not have the same hobbies in common but your life experience is pretty much the same. In all honesty once you hit 30 you will see what I am talking about. The view of the world will definately be more clear, lol...
#oldheadswag...

I lurk mostly but mugen is like the wise uncle I never had. I was having a debate just the other day about young ppl (and even a lot of older ppl) having no idea what they want in a relationship.
I had a girl ask me what type of girl I liked. So I replied , "I'm 21, my type is female." She looked at me crazy and then I explained that I had no idea what I wanted in a woman. I just knew when I did and when I didn't like a girl. I also said that most young people, especially women, have no idea what they actually like in a person. She said it wasn't true. I told her she was delusional. She ain't like that lol.

 

[mugen81]

I can't reiterate this enough..
It's too many yambs in this world to be trippin over one. If this girl is not a serious girlfriend/fiancé/wife, then why the hell would you put up with the non sense. FDB and move on to the next. Take the L and learn from it. If a girl doesn't want to enjoy your company and what you have to offer her" Cancel that Batch" and proceed. She is a grown *** woman, let her be in her feelings and proceed to enjoy your life. Once she sees you have options and don't have time to deal with a "toddler" tantrum, she will be running back..

 

[Mark Antony]

Being pushy doesn't work. You made a nice offer and she refuted, oh well.

 

[アミーゴ]

Number one option tryin to be the only option. Uhh ohh. Calling me late last night and when I don't answer asking why and what Im doing...

 

[suberzat1]

Number one option tryin to be the only option. Uhh ohh. Calling me late last night and when I don't answer asking why and what Im doing...

But girl you not the only one that's trying to be the only one.-Drake

 

[BIG LEEMELONE]

I used to get gassed over stuff like that but it's just how females are wired

 

[dakingii]

I think me and my girl are officially over...

I saw this relationship as a learning experience more than anything. It really gave me insight on what type of females i like and what personality type and characteristics i prefer.

Time to get back on these streets

 

[Chopper]

Been heart broken for 3 months straight. This **** is whack. Broke three hearts really bad in my day (broke the one that broke mine the most severe a couple times actually), but never realized how bad it sucks until now. Time for the kid to get back on the scene 

 FDB!

 

[carltonjunior]

 
Your girl did say she would try to get her act right.  Give her that chance.  See what you can do to help the relationship prosper; these are rarely one sided issues.

If it falls through, give red a call.

Well. She hasn't been doing such a great job keeping her act together, we got into it over something really petty. I've lost almost all interest in this relationship at this point and I feel like I'm treading water. Decided to start textin the new chick, I'm not going to do anything drastic though yet.

I hope I'm making the right decision

 

[ricerocket1]

Well. She hasn't been doing such a great job keeping her act together, we got into it over something really petty. I've lost almost all interest in this relationship at this point and I feel like I'm treading water. Decided to start textin the new chick, I'm not going to do anything drastic though yet.

I hope I'm making the right decision

keep doing you bro.

 

[JL415]

Yambmergency ... So i remember a while back fontaine said something about not responding for a while after a girl sends you a pic. She sent me a pic bout half hour ago... Where do i go from here??

 

[yeezusdisciple]

Send her a pic of ur meat

 

[301216baller]

yall think I overreacted in this situation...im chillin with this chick..a dude hits her phone she sends the message in my face saying yea I haven't talked to you in a while wassup..then she looks at me and says yea I haven't talked to him in a minute...then she tries to kiss me right after..I didn't make a scene but I told her I felt that was kinda foul and left her spot

 

[yeezusdisciple]

Depends on what ur relationship with her is.
If shes a fwb then you overreacted

If u tryna cuff then i understand ur reaction

 

[301216baller]

naw she's just a fwb...I kinda see where I overreacted...oh well

 

[Coromanti]

 
naw she's just a fwb...I kinda see where I overreacted...oh well

I think someone has "feelings."

 

[301216baller]

 
I think someone has "feelings."

its pretty obvious lol...naw i think i did the right thing

 

[Mark Antony]

Man if you ain't gon make a honest woman outta her you got no rights to feelings. That said, respect me in my presence.

 

[301216baller]

Man if you ain't gon make a honest woman outta her you got no rights to feelings. That said, respect me in my presence.

so basically your agreeing with me lol

 

[htownshoefiend]

Man if you ain't gon make a honest woman outta her you got no rights to feelings. That said, respect me in my presence.

Can't turn a *** into a housewife tho

i'd dead her for anything serious

 

[BIG LEEMELONE]

Yea you kinda acted like a brat. I feel where you're coming from but you could've handled it better

 

[301216baller]

Yea you kinda acted like a brat. I feel where you're coming from but you could've handled it better

brat? lol what

 

[slicknick951]

Im sure he wanted to say female dog but profanity is blocked. We as males get mad when females dont know thier role in the relationship we gotta do our part also. Like mark said if you arent trying to get in a relationship with her than you have no say who she texts or when she texts them. If u felt some type of way you could have told her " hey next time wait till i leave to text him" but to storm out like a kid throwing a temper tantrum wasnt a good look.