TAY: thread about yambs...

[bluexsneakerhead]

the whole im not gonna initiate contact unless he does really be throwing shade at the relationship. dead that first off. i hate when yall do that. Also Females be glued to they phones, a lot of us aren't so another thing thats lames and you should stop if you do is waiting 15 minutes to text back when i already know your phone is in your damn hand.

i think you should let him know you want to hang out sometime, if he fumbles that away then just move on.

i don't want to be the only one initiating our conversations through text. i want that effort reciprocated too. but in person, everything between us is just natural.

actually, whenever he DOES text me/text me back, i immediately reply

whenever i'm free, i'd ask him if he's free to spend time with me... i'd tell him when i want him... i mean, a few weeks ago he bruised his left leg bone from playing basketball... so i understood that he wasn't into it. last week, i texted him "if you don't want to anymore, i understand..." and he replied, "it's not that, just i've been stressed about **** lately and not in the mood"... so maybe i really am just overthinking? :\

i read the thread about JOs and i got kinda worried... maybe i'm just a JO to him? our conversations have much more substance than THAT stuff, though..... in fact, one of my friends (she's a girl) told me that "he flirts with you in class. how do you not notice it? he always gives you this sly smile and perks up whenever you're there."

 

[timelessflight]

been talking to this girl 6 years older than me at work...it all started with her calling me "brother" months ago, but recently my feelings have changed and i know hers too

about 3 weeks ago she was real quiet and serious and asked me if i was hard headed when i wanted to be...who isnt? idk i said yeah i guess so, asked why was she bringing it up...she said she went to her cards read (she has depression problems and little problems) and they told her that this light skin guy is in her life, that he has good intentions for her and would take care of her and probably the best thing for her, she told me it was me that they were talking about she told me a lot of stuff that day some of it was sad...so some card reader told her i liked her, she tells a friend about it he tells her to mess with me she then says she doesnt know...that she would run all over me


sometimes i try to set up something for us to do, or she does the same like wanted to go the zoo, and invited me over twice, but then she'll back out when it comes time for it...what makes her back out?

Basically she's weird and you need to move on because you don't have time for silly ****.

 

[suberzat1]

Basically she's weird and you need to move on because you don't have time for silly ****.

im in the same situation with this chick thats i want to say 5 years older then me.....i just feel like she should be doing other things in life rather than the basic ****. Dont get me wrong director of nursing is pretty big. im just saying other things in her life should be taking more serious or changed. Plus she offing up the yambs but always changing her mind in the heat of the moment

 

[patentboy23]

too handsome? unapproachable females? Take the D and P off the pedestal. No one is unapproachable unless A) They got hardware on their finger B) They already got a guy/ girl hugged up/ kissing on em.

 

[youngdoc]

too handsome? unapproachable females? Take the D and P off the pedestal. No one is unapproachable unless A) They got hardware on their finger B) They already got a guy/ girl hugged up/ kissing on em.

Lack of self confidence is rampant among both sexes

 

[tdogg2k]

been talking to this girl 6 years older than me at work...it all started with her calling me "brother" months ago, but recently my feelings have changed and i know hers too

about 3 weeks ago she was real quiet and serious and asked me if i was hard headed when i wanted to be...who isnt? idk i said yeah i guess so, asked why was she bringing it up...she said she went to her cards read (she has depression problems and little problems) and they told her that this light skin guy is in her life, that he has good intentions for her and would take care of her and probably the best thing for her, she told me it was me that they were talking about she told me a lot of stuff that day some of it was sad...so some card reader told her i liked her, she tells a friend about it he tells her to mess with me she then says she doesnt know...that she would run all over me


sometimes i try to set up something for us to do, or she does the same like wanted to go the zoo, and invited me over twice, but then she'll back out when it comes time for it...what makes her back out?

older girls are ready for that commitment. . she may not feel u are and gets scared.
maybe just talk text her a bit more. reassuring that u were the man in the cards and u can't stop thinkong about her

 

[youngdoc]

I know this is childish but I couldn't help it.

Went to Vegas a few weeks ago and before I went chick I'm talking to (not my girl, not exclusive) says have fun and mentions she doesn't care what I do/post on social media as we're not together and she's not jealous type.


She's been been pissing me off recently So I post ac pic today with me and two chicks in Vegas and within 30 minutes she brings it up

 

[bostoiah]

I know this is childish but I couldn't help it.

Went to Vegas a few weeks ago and before I went chick I'm talking to (not my girl, not exclusive) says have fun and mentions she doesn't care what I do/post on social media as we're not together and she's not jealous type.


She's been been pissing me off recently So I post ac pic today with me and two chicks in Vegas and within 30 minutes she brings it up

Idk why girls say stuff like that but does the opposite. Kind of the same thing happened to me. I went out of state for to visit some family. Before I left, she tells me to not worry about calling her or texting her much cuz she wants me to have fun and spend time with friends/fam. Saying how she's the type of chick to give her man their space and what not. So I did what she asked, didn't text her as much nor called and kicked it with my boys. The 3rd day she texting me all this mess like "why haven't you been texting," yada yada ya and questions our relationship. 

 confusing as shhh

Still with her doe and the yambs are better than ever.

 

[bluexsneakerhead]

too handsome? unapproachable females? Take the D and P off the pedestal. No one is unapproachable unless A) They got hardware on their finger B) They already got a guy/ girl hugged up/ kissing on em.

i just think that it's kinda impossible for me to be the only girl he's involved with.... i mean, i don't think i'm that great and there are so much more prettier girls out there for a guy like him. :\ i don't know if i'm his only one. i won't be surprised if i'm not... but if i am... then damn, i'm one lucky girl.

 

[youngdoc]

too handsome? unapproachable females? Take the D and P off the pedestal. No one is unapproachable unless A) They got hardware on their finger B) They already got a guy/ girl hugged up/ kissing on em.

i just think that it's kinda impossible for me to be the only girl he's involved with.... i mean, i don't think i'm that great and there are so much more prettier girls out there for a guy like him. :\ i don't know if i'm his only one. i won't be surprised if i'm not... but if i am... then damn, i'm one lucky girl.

I don't want to be harsh but I hope you don't display this attitude to him. Biggest turn off. I've talked to chicks who were otherwise mad cool but displayed this thinking and immediately had to dead em.

 

[bluexsneakerhead]

I don't want to be harsh but I hope you don't display this attitude to him. Biggest turn off. I've talked to chicks who were otherwise mad cool but displayed this thinking and immediately had to dead em.

can you elaborate on that, please?

 

[young thundercat]

Meaning you sound so insecure it's a major turnoff.

 

[tdogg2k]

I know this is childish but I couldn't help it.

Went to Vegas a few weeks ago and before I went chick I'm talking to (not my girl, not exclusive) says have fun and mentions she doesn't care what I do/post on social media as we're not together and she's not jealous type.


She's been been pissing me off recently So I post ac pic today with me and two chicks in Vegas and within 30 minutes she brings it up

because women put men through constant test. girls have this mental double standard where they can do what they want but will blow up if u don't keep them constantly fed with attention. she wants more than jist talking to u obviously



bluexsneakerhead
girls can feel that insecurity but yes never display it.
maybe joke around to see if he comments. but yes don't ever say...idk why your with me. .....

 

[championboyz7]

Oh word , you're gonna be posting on instagram/twitter yet you can't text back?
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The nerves of some of these women.

 

[frostythepoptart]

Bluesneaker if you want em make a move it doesnt have to be big just start the talk.

You guys have th same mindset.

Legit if you ignored me while i was ignoring you im probably like oh she's not interated was just playing around etc. plus guys have to worry about the stigma of being thirsty or the overused 'creep' just for trying to talk to girls

 

[Mark Antony]

Oh word , you're gonna be posting on instagram/twitter yet you can't text back?
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The nerves of some of these women.

Son you know she's always in her phone too. Not sure why they believe all of a sudden we're gonna think they were just busy.

 

[bluexsneakerhead]

Bluesneaker if you want em make a move it doesnt have to be big just start the talk.

You guys have th same mindset.

Legit if you ignored me while i was ignoring you im probably like oh she's not interated was just playing around etc. plus guys have to worry about the stigma of being thirsty or the overused 'creep' just for trying to talk to girls

yup... that's how i'm thinking exactly

because women put men through constant test. girls have this mental double standard where they can do what they want but will blow up if u don't keep them constantly fed with attention. she wants more than jist talking to u obviously



bluexsneakerhead
girls can feel that insecurity but yes never display it.
maybe joke around to see if he comments. but yes don't ever say...idk why your with me. .....

oh best believe i won't display my insecurities to him. i try to be myself but i'm super cautious so i won't look bad to him

Meaning you sound so insecure it's a major turnoff.

alright. i see. it's just... sometimes when i see him, my ex boyfriend's voice seems to haunt me.. he always used to tell me "you always say something/do something stupid without thinking about the consequences! don't you know that for every action you do that i don't like, there's a consequence from me?! you're making yourself look stupid by always speaking your mind! put a filter on it, you idiot! especially with your crying! you never think of things that could potentially piss me off!" i know it's not healthy... but sometimes it's hard for me to shake it off. that's why i second-guess myself. but i like how i can be my complete self around him.. but i still think like 5 times before saying something to the dude...

 

[tdogg2k]

my chick stays on IG and facebook.
so I know if she don't answer the text with in like 30 mins. then she prolly is busy or sleep.
but I wait like an hour plus sometimes. cuz she know I don't be on my phone like that.

 

[lamekilla]

yup... that's how i'm thinking exactly
oh best believe i won't display my insecurities to him. i try to be myself but i'm super cautious so i won't look bad to him
alright. i see. it's just... sometimes when i see him, my ex boyfriend's voice seems to haunt me.. he always used to tell me "you always say something/do something stupid without thinking about the consequences! don't you know that for every action you do that i don't like, there's a consequence from me?! you're making yourself look stupid by always speaking your mind! put a filter on it, you idiot! especially with your crying! you never think of things that could potentially piss me off!" i know it's not healthy... but sometimes it's hard for me to shake it off. that's why i second-guess myself. but i like how i can be my complete self around him.. but i still think like 5 times before saying something to the dude...

That relationship sounded really unhealthy. To be honest just be yourself around him blue and don't be afraid to start the convo or show that you are interested. If and when he does come around keep it mutual don't show him you like him more than him and vice versa. That's when ish gets complicated

 

[Mark Antony]

Damn he did a number on you. Maybe you need some dolo time.

 

[ballinsam23]

I'll bet $500 million that he's thinking the exact same thing as you.

That is 100% fact.

doubt it. |I dude is too handsome. i'm too much of a plain-o jane & i'm sure there's other girls. i mean, if he really did like me, he'd initiate conversations through texting, right?

Stop. Its actually pretty funny because this dude sounds exactly like me. At times I'm either way too stressed, tired, lack self confidence, or just shy.

Girls say the same thing about me. That i'm too good looking (no humble brag) for them, that they're a "plain-o-jane", when in reality it's all BS. I rather have a 8 with a great personality and good company than a dime piece thats dumber than rocks. One time I was so busy and completely ignored all sinals from a girl and she thought I was gay because of that :x .

I really do think he just lacks self confidence or might just might be shy. IMO, the best thing for you to do is probably have a convo to him about this. That you're really feeling him and just express your feelings. Tell him to be honest in his response. Just dont do it through text.

If he's not feeling you as much, atleast you'll stop wasting your time on him.

I hate that "ignore game." He shows you less attention, so you'll show him less attention, and the cycle repeats. Absolutely hate it.
I'm way too honest of a person so i rather someone speak their mind than hide it, or ignore me (hoping to get attention in return), etc.

One thing is for sure though, if this keeps playing out longer, dont expect anything to happen.

 

[bluexsneakerhead]

That relationship sounded really unhealthy. To be honest just be yourself around him blue and don't be afraid to start the convo or show that you are interested. If and when he does come around keep it mutual don't show him you like him more than him and vice versa. That's when ish gets complicated

yup. emotional abuse is no joke. it totally messes with my head still.

Stop. Its actually pretty funny because this dude sounds exactly like me. At times I'm either way too stressed, tired, lack self confidence, or just shy.

Girls say the same thing about me. That i'm too good looking (no humble brag) for them, that they're a "plain-o-jane", when in reality it's all BS. I rather have a 8 with a great personality and good company than a dime piece thats dumber than rocks. One time I was so busy and completely ignored all sinals from a girl and she thought I was gay because of that :x .

I really do think he just lacks self confidence or might just might be shy. IMO, the best thing for you to do is probably have a convo to him about this. That you're really feeling him and just express your feelings. Tell him to be honest in his response. Just dont do it through text.

If he's not feeling you as much, atleast you'll stop wasting your time on him.

I hate that "ignore game." He shows you less attention, so you'll show him less attention, and the cycle repeats. Absolutely hate it.
I'm way too honest of a person so i rather someone speak their mind than hide it, or ignore me (hoping to get attention in return), etc.

One thing is for sure though, if this keeps playing out longer, dont expect anything to happen.

i guess he was just really tired of friday. well, today when he walked into the classroom, he said hi to me and we spoke for a bit. after class, he asked me how i was doing and mentioned that he saw my facebook posts (which were indirectly about him... i think he gets the picture now)...... i panicked a bit and said i was just a bit stressed and we had a lovely one-on-one conversation for like 5-10 minutes with so many lulz. i even mentioned that we go out for lunch after finals and he was down. i'm just really happy because he showed some concern for me. imma keep going for sure.

 

[currensy]

contemplating on going back to the store to try and get a girl #, i feel like a creep but iono them braces calling me 

 

[timelessflight]

contemplating on going back to the store to try and get a girl #, i feel like a creep but iono them braces calling me 

Grab something from the store and be like I forgot to get this item, then u can get the digits

 

[ctidda]

contemplating on going back to the store to try and get a girl #, i feel like a creep but iono them braces calling me 

Im in the same spot fam.. Its a nice lil red bone that works in the walmart in my area, I gotta add her to the team. Everytime I see her tho Im dirty and bummy looking from work, bout to step to her today before I hit the job tho..