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Yeah it's bad, but I keep condoms around more so for the condom queens than anything. Sucks to get all hot and heavy then nothing, happened more times than i'd like.
[COLOR=#red]to be honest it didn't really suck for me. It was a great night and a great time for both of us. I mean it was literally her first time ever coming over my crib.
There's a concept I'll introduce to you guys called managed expectations...get to understand it ad master it and it will do wonders for you in the chick department and leave you less frustrated overall.
Basically managed expectations states that you keep even keeled expectations while still being in the position to take advantage of opportunities if they so arise.
Here's how I used tha concept...when she said she was coming through I told myself my expectation was that she came over and I make he feel comfortable since it was her first time coming through. Doing that would set up future visits in which we'd definitely eventually smash. Sometimes dudes are too frantic on the first visit and chicks can get turned off. At the same time I acknowledged that by the very nature of her coming through that there was a POSSIBILITY of something going down. This meant either way I'd be good because I set realistic expectations. This is why I wasn't frustrated or pressed when we didn't f***.
Well we feed up getting in the mix, but since I didn't have a condom we didn't have intercourse, yet I saw that as an opportunity to unselfishly please her. I basically set the tone for the next time she comes through in which I'll have condoms.
Understand this...if the chick is worthy (which she is) that if you make it more of a priority to make her feel good than making yourself feel good that it almost always creates a reciprocal effect as far as her making it about you feeling good and not herself. This is the ideal sexual experience...that's when you have two people giving it a supreme effort. It works especially well with chicks who are reserved...you are essentially creating your own personal freak.
Of course if it's just a jumpoff that you couldn't care less about then it's a little OD, but for a chick that is at least somewhat special these are golden concepts.[/COLOR]