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I usually don't post personal things on here, but my girlfriend is breaking up with me because I'm not the affectionate type and she is the lovie dovie type. She is the best person I know, but I guess we weren't compatible in the ways more important to her. My best advice to people is to constantly communicate with your significant other and if you find things that you don't see as "fixable", than break it off for both of your sakes. This situation sucks.
How many times has she expressed to you that she needed more affection?
How did you verbally respond?
Did you change your behavior?
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Seriously, she wouldn't allow you to change your ways?
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I wouldn’t beat myself up over this.I usually don't post personal things on here, but my girlfriend is breaking up with me because I'm not the affectionate type and she is the lovie dovie type. She is the best person I know, but I guess we weren't compatible in the ways more important to her. My best advice to people is to constantly communicate with your significant other and if you find things that you don't see as "fixable", than break it off for both of your sakes. This situation sucks.
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She did off and on, I made up for in some ways. I tried to change but, I didn't want to compromise myself either. We were both short-changing ourselves for each other. My dad told me to always be independent and never rely on people so I guess I just took it took to the extreme while she loves being affectionate and likes the comfort of it. I guess we were just to different from each other. I respect the hell out of her so I could never disrespect her though, so I guess I do some self-reflecting before I jump on a new relationship. She deserves more of what she prefers though, I just hope that whoever replaces is a good man that'll shut her needs better.
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Yeah, I think she is more like you. I was wrong to not consider things from her angle and not identify anything that might be bothering her. Everyone has different needs so I definitely have to consider that before I jump in a new relationship. If we're too different, no point in wasting time to eventually break up down the line.
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Yeah, I think she is more like you. I was wrong to not consider things from her angle and not identify anything that might be bothering her. Everyone has different needs so I definitely have to consider that before I jump in a new relationship. If we're too different, no point in wasting time to eventually break up down the line. She's great in her own right so that's what makes it especially tough.
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Thanks man
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Yeah, she means alot to me, but I will definitely take some time to work on myself and enjoy the solo time.
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one of the things that has always cross my mind is that there is no turning back once it happens. if one is willing to lose something with no regrets then I guess it's fine. but the tough part is if you still have that connection with that person. it's easier if both of you have nothing left to cling on. I guess, Mormons have it easy since they can have multiple partners that support each other with their needs.
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That is the right attitude.
Also, you said ", I didn't want to compromise myself either."
I'm sure you know the danger in that attitude in this situation. She was just asking for more affection so I don't think giving that to her is compromising your individuality at all. If she needs that to feel loved, you just gotta do it.
I've been told that in the past and I made the same mistake and the woman ended up just being emotionally cold.
You gotta give them what they need man.
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It just never got natural to me and I had to remember to do those things. I guess from her point of view it seemed forced and inconsistent. No doubt that I'm definitely the anomaly in the situation. Maybe I just need someone that don't necessarily look for those things. It's weird being on this whole situation as an adult where you built your life together. It isn't a simple manner of just "deading" the other person and I'm too empathetic to do that anyways.
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Well she said it casually multiple times and I changed a bit each time. I'm just wondering if I was more affectionate when we got together or was she always expecting that aid become that way. Either way, it's water under the bridge, because whatever I'm presenting is not enough for her needs so I'd rather have someone that could really comfort her.Seriously, she wouldn't allow you to change your ways?
