She was an absolutely poor excuse for a wife/mom due to her being devoid of responsibilities with the home and her kids. What kind of a wife/mom goes out frequently when they don't have a job? The only legitimate reasons for a wife/mom to be outside of their home is if
they actually work to earn money or they have to go pick up stuff for the home and kids.
If a woman gets married, she's supposed to be totally responsible and mature as a wife, especially if there are kids involved. A married woman is supposed to leave any leisure lifestyle behind at that juncture.
I clearly didn't say a woman should only stay home and take care of the man and the kids in a relationship. She should work if she's mentally and physically capable to do so.
So if she isnt and stays home, then your first 2 bolded statements are what you believe right? You go on and on about the man going out and working and the woman taking care of the home and the kids and the house and then try to walk it back because "you dont understand the context". Jesus what a weak argument. Very Jordan Peterson like.
You even got called out on it when someone asked you if you think its ok for a woman to leave the house to go to the gym. Your first response is "No she didnt look good". So yes, you absolutely do have the mindset of a bygone era where its the womans job to stay home, cook, clean, take care of the kids, and look pretty. Your second bolded statement is even worse because you think just being married is reason enough that a woman shouldn't have any leisure. Oh but you tried to walk that back too.
You seem really hung up on being called an incel. Fact is you absolutely are an incel in your ideology and mindset towards women.Sure maybe you've gotten a girl. But your thinking is a literal clone of the incel ideology. Go ahead and read 4chan, any of that sigma male/manosphere/PUA nonsense, or Eliot Rodgers stuff.
Here's how it goes:
"I'm a man, I have money, I have nice clothes, I'm nice. I deserve a girl. They should be all over me. But no, they'd rather go sleep with the chads and bad boys. They're whores, sluts, skanks, etc."
Now here's you:
"The man goes out and works, provides for the family. The man deserves a housewife that will stay home, cook, clean, and take care of the kids. But no, this one wants to leave the house. She's lazy, irresponsible, unacceptable, a freeloader."
You have decided, as a man without any input from the woman, what your role is in the relationship and what her role is. When you satisfy your role, you expect the woman to satisfy her given role. And if she doesnt, then she is any number of insults or slurs. Again, this is all what you, completely on your own, have decided the dynamic is. This is word for word what the 4chan/incel community has been spewing for years. And you still fail to see how problematic that is.
But its like you said, I dont know you in real life and we won't agree and Im not going to talk about this anymore. But I'm saying this, and I do actually mean it, I legitimately hope you get help because you've been radicalized at some point along the way. To think that a woman is unacceptable or less than because she doesnt fulfill the role that YOU have decided she should fulfill is absolutely vile.