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There was a thread about it about a year back. I'm kind of surprised to know that people struggle with it like that. I'm very good at it but when l posted tips, the op was like "nah that's too much". It's very similar to getting a date.I get that “Put yourself out there!” is supposed to help, but people looking for this answer have probably read that thousands of times now. And the fact that over 100k people liked that tweet shows how huge of a problem this is for young adults. Some of my coworkers have also expressed the sentiment that it’s extremely difficult to make friends as an adult. Not having the safety net of school to socialize is a big problem once people graduate.
Find someone that kinda matches your vibe, style of dress, the way you carry yourself etc. Find a way to break the ice that's not too weird. If it leads to a convo, great. If the person seems cool, give them your number. I'm kinda good at reading people and navigating those types of situations so l can understand how it doesn't come natural to people. It's a balance, don't want to talk too much or too little.