Whats a good age to get married at?

[boris]

Even if she isnt that kind of woman going into the marriage I doubt more than .01% of women can resist the urge to divorce rape you.

My cousin is studying to be a lawyer, his roommate is a lawyer, and he has a friend that is _______ clerk (forgot what that blank word is). God some of the stories I hear :x

Clearly you are an expert with your anecdotal evidence.

 

[Sir San Diego]

I think the best age is once you have shaken all of the bs out of your system. If you still wanna be a player, or all in the clubs, or doing your own thing and selfish with your time, then don't do it. And if that never changes, oh well then.

Marriage is a lot of give and take. I sure as hell wasn't ready. I was out here smashing chicks like I was single and I'm not proud of that. I only got caught once because I confessed, but looking back, I was on some bs. I'd knock a dude's jaw off if he treated my daughters the way I treated their mother and that makes me a hypocrite. I've grown up though. I still get p thrown at me. I just duck it and dodge it now.

Crazy part is when you get close to 40 and these women are in their 30s, they have less damns and couldn't gaf if you're in a serious relationship. Hell, a lot of them don't care that they're in one. I think marriage is dying with generation Y. Too many options exist now and the casual attitude toward relationships won't help either.

That's life.

 

[sunshineblotters]

Clearly you are an expert with your anecdotal evidence.

Yet another cool story. Tell it again?

 

[wayniac211]

Real estate in this market? He must be an amazing father if his wife would fund that

That's why it doesn't bother her that he's unemployed. Being a good husband is more than just making money.

 

[equality]

Total self awareness and perspective are so important. Understanding your flaws and knowing how these flaws effect and influence others and being willing to admit these flaws exist while actively trying to improve are also important. Relationships are so often destroyed because both sides aren't willing to admit flaws/weaknesses, and even when they do they fall back into the same pattern after a while. 

Let's be honest though, how rare is it that 2 people with those qualities get together? Not being pessimistic, just being realistic. 

 

[chewie]

Total self awareness and perspective are so important. Understanding your flaws and knowing how these flaws effect and influence others and being willing to admit these flaws exist while actively trying to improve are also important. Relationships are so often destroyed because both sides aren't willing to admit flaws/weaknesses, and even when they do they fall back into the same pattern after a while. 

Let's be honest though, how rare is it that 2 people with those qualities get together? Not being pessimistic, just being realistic. 

Preach, brother. Well said

 

[equality]

Preach, brother. Well said

Thanks, I'm 24 so I have limited experience but I really do believe total awareness and perspective solves 90% of all problems. It's a shame how many people lack in these areas though (including myself)

 

[Good Ol J.R]

Preach, brother. Well said

Thanks, I'm 24 so I have limited experience but I really do believe total awareness and perspective solves 90% of all problems. It's a shame how many people lack in these areas though (including myself)

This is exactly why my last relationship ended. I expressed that I wanted to marry this woman but after this time apart, there's no way we could've lasted a year. It's not that we are not a match, we both have to learn things on our own.

That said, I think getting married at 28-31 isn't a bad move. Ideally 30+ as you've had time to grow individually. I'm turning 27 in a few weeks so learning more about myself within the coming years is very imperative.

 

[youngdoc]

Total self awareness and perspective are so important. Understanding your flaws and knowing how these flaws effect and influence others and being willing to admit these flaws exist while actively trying to improve are also important. Relationships are so often destroyed because both sides aren't willing to admit flaws/weaknesses, and even when they do they fall back into the same pattern after a while. 

Let's be honest though, how rare is it that 2 people with those qualities get together? Not being pessimistic, just being realistic. 

My girl being open with her flaws as well as showing improvement and effort has given me a lot of confidence. No one's perfect and the flaws aren't deal breakers.

It's relatively easy to fall in love but it takes effort to stay in love.

I'm of the crowd that believes marriage has a lot of positives but it's definitely not for everyone

 

[equality]

My girl being open with her flaws as well as showing improvement and effort has given me a lot of confidence. No one's perfect and the flaws aren't deal breakers.

It's relatively easy to fall in love but it takes effort to stay in love.

I'm of the crowd that believes marriage has a lot of positives but it's definitely not for everyone

These are so crucial. 

 

[boris]

 
Total self awareness and perspective are so important. Understanding your flaws and knowing how these flaws effect and influence others and being willing to admit these flaws exist while actively trying to improve are also important. Relationships are so often destroyed because both sides aren't willing to admit flaws/weaknesses, and even when they do they fall back into the same pattern after a while. 

Let's be honest though, how rare is it that 2 people with those qualities get together? Not being pessimistic, just being realistic. 

One of the biggest issues I've seen is when people are unwilling/incapable of self-reflecting and accepting constructive criticism. This goes for people in relationships and people having difficulty finding relationships. 

 

[Lovetohate3000]

:Lol can't een hate fam!
If you make enough money, a prenupt will be tossed straight in the garbage. All she has to do is pull that "I'm accustomed to a certain lifestyle" bs In some states they even have an expiration date (like Chris rock's).

And you can't split custody on your prenupt or you'll risk voiding it.

No way to stop marriage from being extremely one sided.

Only real benefit to marriage is that you don't have to testify against spouse in court. So you'd have to marry a drug Kingpin or yakuza boss for marriage to make sense.

The tax benefit is for a very small window of income considering you lose earned income credit. Hell there is even a tax penalty after a certain income.

better to be safe then sorry. like the way you think. marriage dont mean ish. a piece of paper. Marriage isnt a necessity . 

 

[zapatohead408]

Why is it automatically assumed that his opposition to marriage implies bad past experiences or bitterness? The examples and evidence can be found. Are there successful marriages? Of course. But the risks and aftermath of a failed marriage is not worth the risk. You can still have a happy and meaningful relationship with your partner without introducing legality and laws made by people who aren't involved in the relationship.

the fact that he took that you shouldn't get married or at least be 42 as an insult just goes to show how insecure he is about his. Taking my answer as a personal attack

I didn't think anything came off as bitter. Just the truth. You're lying if you honestly believe the law system isn't in favor of women.

 

[wayniac211]

Total self awareness and perspective are so important. Understanding your flaws and knowing how these flaws effect and influence others and being willing to admit these flaws exist while actively trying to improve are also important. Relationships are so often destroyed because both sides aren't willing to admit flaws/weaknesses, and even when they do they fall back into the same pattern after a while. 

Let's be honest though, how rare is it that 2 people with those qualities get together? Not being pessimistic, just being realistic. 

We as men focus on flaws to a point where we go crazy. Once I started worrying about myself and my flaws, things got more calm. Leading by example always worked. But then that "pattern" kicks in at times

 

[benny bugatti]

I'd say 30-35 is a good range.

But it depends on the person.

 

[omariwestafari]

idk why some ppl wait so long.

u gunna be an old *** man when ya kid graduating high shcool

 

[youngdoc]

idk why some ppl wait so long.

u gunna be an old *** man when ya kid graduating high shcool

Because it's not something you rush/do before you're ready.

And you really can't control when you'll meet the one

 

[zapatohead408]

You could also find the one, get married and travel the world before having kids.

One of my uncles was with his girlfriend for like 9 years I think before they got married. Throughout their relationship they traveled all over the world. I think they hit every continent. Then they got married and started their family in their mid 30's or so. Now they're all about that family life and kind of keep it low key doing family things.

 

[equality]

Do you guys still believe in the concept of "The One" ?

 

[Good Ol J.R]

Do you guys still believe in the concept of "The One" ?

To an extent, yes. At this moment I feel like my ex is the one but like someone said: it's all about meeting someone you can vibe with and put up with their flaws.

To that, I'll add that they have to have your back unconditionally.

 

[ogmcmxcii]

idk why some ppl wait so long.

u gunna be an ol man when ya kid graduating high shcool

I'm going to be an old rich man when my kid graduates lol

 

[sogood]

idk why some ppl wait so long.

u gunna be an old *** man when ya kid graduating high shcool

Take care of yourself and that won't be an issue.

 

[zapatohead408]

Do you guys still believe in the concept of "The One" ?

I do.

 

[guzzy]

Do you guys still believe in the concept of "The One" ?

I believe in "The Ones".


Multiple people that can be great partners.

 

[youngdoc]

Do you guys still believe in the concept of "The One" ?

I believe in "The Ones".


Multiple people that can be great partners.

This

I believe I could have been happy marrying at least one of my exes, maybe two, just the circumstances weren't right - specifically I was too young and not ready