Anyone here suffer from Depression?

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What up NT fam, I feel lost and thought maybe starting this thread would help me find some insight. The last few months have been some of the hardest of my life. I haven't felt this bad since my Dad passed away. I thought I had a handle on my depression but after certain events its come back with a vengeance. It's gotten to the point were I finally decided to seek help, I go to therapy and I'm also on meds...which I don't even believe in but at this point I'm desperate. I've thought about suicide at times....but the only thing holding me back are my mom and sister. Those are the last 2 people I want to hurt but I seem to hurt them anyway with my anger and outbursts. I'm afraid of where my life is headed
 
Replace the meds/therapy with jogging/running + working out.

Also, start eating better.
 
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the fact that even while considering suicide you were able to put other people first is a good sign. the meds could make you much worse, or they could help you. if you notice yourself getting worse while on them TELL YOUR DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY.

I got back on meds a few months ago but am right back off. I have started focusing more on my health, working out. been eating right. you just have to find things that help. depression never really goes away but there are plenty of ways to deal with it.
 
honestly a vacation/time off can do wonders for a persons mental issues.
getting away and being able to not have any worries or stress may help
 
What up NT fam, I feel lost and thought maybe starting this thread would help me find some insight. The last few months have been some of the hardest of my life. I haven't felt this bad since my Dad passed away. I thought I had a handle on my depression but after certain events its come back with a vengeance. It's gotten to the point were I finally decided to seek help, I go to therapy and I'm also on meds...which I don't even believe in but at this point I'm desperate. I've thought about suicide at times....but the only thing holding me back are my mom and sister. Those are the last 2 people I want to hurt but I seem to hurt them anyway with my anger and outbursts. I'm afraid of where my life is headed
I suffered from depression, and currently anxiety. I fought a long battle with rejection, and abandonment, it followed me into adulthood. My biggest regret was not seeking help earlier, but truth is I'm black and in the low income black community seeing a therapist is frowned upon.

I love her, she's changed my life and I take anti-anxiety meds now, I feel like Bradley Cooper in Limitless, that Black Keys song is always playing in my mind 20mins after I take the pills and I start seeing things more clearly. Basically concentration levels are through the roof because I sorted out my feelings and emotions between healthy and unhealthy. Serotonin is a very underrated substance that can really mess you up physically and mentally.

Seek help and don't be afraid to admit to others you believe you have a problem. Mass Hysteria is also a mental illness, so don't let other people's opinion of you deter you from seeking help or shame you into thinking you're broken.

The fact that you even inquired or sought out help because you believe you are broken actually puts you ahead of the pack and shows strong character.

PM if you need any help or have questions.
 
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Replace the meds/therapy with jogging/running + working out.

Also, start eating better.
I hate when people say this stupid stuff. THIS GUY IS SUICIDAL. In his case, exercise is not a good alternative to medication. I agree that antidepressants are over-prescribed, but in this case, he probably needs it. If they aren't helping, switch them up. OP, you should try to get some exercise and eat better, but medication is often times the difference in these situations.

Clinical depression is NOT the same as feeling sad.

OP, hit me up if you need to talk. I've been there and it's something that I struggle with. The feeling of hopelessness is horrible, and many times I've felt like I wanted to not wake up in the morning/ end it.

It gets better. Don't give up, man.
 
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I hate when people say this stupid stuff. THIS GUY IS SUICIDAL. In his case, exercise is not a good alternative to medication.
Exercising naturally releases some of the same chemical compounds that are in the medications prescribed to people with depression. Replacing meds all together might not be the best, but exercise is not a stupid suggestion at all, actually. Many people have had success coping through tough times of their lives with exercise.

To the OP, already some great suggestions in this thread. If I may add; don't be afraid to lean on your loved ones (mom + sis) for some emotional support. Letting them know whats going on might feel like an impossible task because it feels shameful and goes against our society's view of masculinity, but having a solid support network helps tremendously. You don't have to tell them everything, but telling them that you've been down & out recently and that you'd like to have a home cooked meal with them might do you wonders.
 
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Replace the meds/therapy with jogging/running + working out.


Also, start eating better.
Unless you're educated about the illness, there really isn't a need to give advice.

My Aunt is a therapist, my Father committed suicide.

I'm more educated than most people when it comes to the subject.

You guys keep looking to pills to fix your disorders, though.

Do some people need them? Sure.

Most people that are on them, shouldn't be.
 
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I hate when people say this stupid stuff. THIS GUY IS SUICIDAL. In his case, exercise is not a good alternative to medication.
Exercising naturally releases some of the same chemical compounds that are in the medications prescribed to people with depression. It's not a stupid suggestion at all, actually. Many people have had success coping through tough times of their lives with exercise.

To the OP, already some great suggestions in this thread. If I may add; don't be afraid to lean on your loved ones (mom + sis) for some emotional support. Letting them know whats going on might feel like an impossible task because it feels shameful and goes against our society's view of masculinity, but having a solid support network helps tremendously. You don't have to tell them everything, but telling them that you've been down & out recently and that you'd like to have a home cooked meal with them might do you wonders.
I know that exercise released endorphins and I acknowledged it. Hyper told OP to stop taking his meds and getting therapy. That is a stupid suggestion. A very stupid one. He should DEFINITELY not stop therapy, and he should probably not stop taking medication. Antidepressants save lives. OP said he is suicidal, and most of the time simple exercise will NOT be enough to help a suicidal individual.
 
Replace the meds/therapy with jogging/running + working out.


Also, start eating better.
Unless you're educated about the illness, there really isn't a need to give advice.
My Aunt is a therapist, my Father committed suicide.

I'm more educated than most people when it comes to the subject.

You guys keep looking for pills to fix your disorders, though.

Do some people need them? Sure.

Most people that are on them, shouldn't be, though.
I'm sorry for your loss. However...

Your aunt being a therapist has no bearing on this situation. None. And why would you tell him to stop doing therapy? How would your aunt feel about that?

Did you miss the part where he said he's thinking about KILLING HIMSELF?

If a suicidal person doesn't need pills, who does?
 
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I appreciate all the responses. Exercise and eating better did help me a lot. When my Dad was sick, and after his passing, I used to be able to distract myself by playing ball. My mind was at peace on the courts. I channeled whatever issues I had into losing weight, changing my lifestyle, and focusing on fitness....but this time it just feels so much harder. 
My Aunt is a therapist, my Father committed suicide.

I'm more educated than most people when it comes to the subject.

You guys keep looking to pills to fix your disorders, though.

Do some people need them? Sure.

Most people that are on them, shouldn't be.
I'm truly sorry for your loss
 
I speak w/ my Aunt frequently, it definitely has bearing on this situation.

All a therapist is, is somebody to lean on, somebody to uplift you and instill hope, tell you that there's a reason to live, etc...

You can get that from many different places, you don't need a person in a room telling you these things.

Most of these pills are useless, and do more harm than good.

OP could pop sugar pills and I'm sure he would feel somewhat better.

Some people need to take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that their path to being/feeling well begins with them, not some pill or a some therapy session.

Do some people need help? Yes.

Is OP one of these people? Who knows. Not you, not me.

I'm just here offering advice.
 
What up NT fam, I feel lost and thought maybe starting this thread would help me find some insight. The last few months have been some of the hardest of my life. I haven't felt this bad since my Dad passed away. I thought I had a handle on my depression but after certain events its come back with a vengeance. It's gotten to the point were I finally decided to seek help, I go to therapy and I'm also on meds...which I don't even believe in but at this point I'm desperate. I've thought about suicide at times....but the only thing holding me back are my mom and sister. Those are the last 2 people I want to hurt but I seem to hurt them anyway with my anger and outbursts. I'm afraid of where my life is headed

I suffered from depression, and currently anxiety. I fought a long battle with rejection, and abandonment, it followed me into adulthood. My biggest regret was not seeking help earlier, but truth is I'm black and in the low income black community seeing a therapist is frowned upon.

I love her, she's changed my life and I take anti-anxiety meds now, I feel like Bradley Cooper in Limitless, that Black Keys song is always playing in my mind 20mins after I take the pills and I start seeing things more clearly. Basically concentration levels are through the roof because I sorted out my feelings and emotions between healthy and unhealthy. Serotonin is a very underrated substance that can really mess you up physically and mentally.


Seek help and don't be afraid to admit to others you believe you have a problem. Mass Hysteria is also a mental illness, so don't let other people's opinion of you deter you from seeking help or shame you into thinking you're broken.

The fact that you even inquired or sought out help because you believe you are broken actually puts you ahead of the pack and shows strong character.

PM if you need any help or have questions.
it all makes since now...................................
 
I speak w/ my Aunt frequently, it definitely has bearing on this situation.

All a therapist is, is somebody to lean on, somebody to uplift you and instill hope, tell you that there's a reason to live, etc...

You can get that from many different places, you don't need a person in a room telling you these things.

Most of these pills are useless, and do more harm than good.

OP could pop sugar pills and I'm sure he would feel somewhat better.

Some people need to take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that their path to being/feeling well begins with them, not some pill or a some therapy session.

Do some people need help? Yes.

Is OP one of these people? Who knows. Not you, not me.

I'm just here offering advice.
No, a therapist is someone who is TRAINED SPECIFICALLY to give advice. Talking to a therapist about wanted to kill yourself is FAR different than talking to Sally down the block about that same situation. They go to school and grad school for a reason.

"Most of these pills are useless." False. I'm sorry, but that is just entirely false. I'm sorry for going hard on you, but you're just spreading lies. Antidepressants are not a magic bullet, but they can be EXTREMELY helpful for dealing with clinical depression IN CONJUNCTURE with therapy and living a healthy lifestyle.

For some reason you think that depression is the same as being very sad.

"Some people need to take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that their path to being/feeling well begins with them."

This sentence leads me to believe that you really don't know as much about depression as you think that you do. If you have depression you are UNABLE to do what you suggest. It's not as easy as "taking a look in the mirror." Depression is a DISORDER, it is not a state of mind.
 
Depression is a DISORDER, it is not a state of mind.

This.

Although I do agree with the fitness and nutrition combo as a natural means, if you're too depressed it's damn near impossible to motivate yourself to workout or eat (period).

You need to be somewhat stable to take that approach.
 
I speak w/ my Aunt frequently, it definitely has bearing on this situation.


All a therapist is, is somebody to lean on, somebody to uplift you and instill hope, tell you that there's a reason to live, etc...


You can get that from many different places, you don't need a person in a room telling you these things.


Most of these pills are useless, and do more harm than good.


OP could pop sugar pills and I'm sure he would feel somewhat better.


Some people need to take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that their path to being/feeling well begins with them, not some pill or a some therapy session.


Do some people need help? Yes.


Is OP one of these people? Who knows. Not you, not me.


I'm just here offering advice.


No, a therapist is someone who is TRAINED SPECIFICALLY to give advice. Talking to a therapist about wanted to kill yourself is FAR different than talking to Sally down the block about that same situation. They go to school and grad school for a reason.

"Most of these pills are useless." False. I'm sorry, but that is just entirely false. I'm sorry for going hard on you, but you're just spreading lies. Antidepressants are not a magic bullet, but they can be EXTREMELY helpful for dealing with clinical depression IN CONJUNCTURE with therapy and living a healthy lifestyle.


For some reason you think that depression is the same as being very sad.

"Some people need to take a good look in the mirror and tell themselves that their path to being/feeling well begins with them."
This sentence leads me to believe that you really don't know as much about depression as you think that you do. If you have depression you are UNABLE to do what you suggest. It's not as easy as "taking a look in the mirror." Depression is a DISORDER, it is not a state of mind.

Dude, I suffer from depression, I know what its like.

I'm a naturally depressive person, I guess I got that from my Father.

I was on pills, I did therapy.

I haven't beaten depression, I don't know if its even possible for me, but I've learned to live w/ it.

For every person these drugs help, there's probably 20 that they destroy.

Our minds are more powerful than you think.

It starts w/ you, not a pill, not a therapist.

You just have to be willing to fight it, that's all.
 
My Aunt is a therapist, my Father committed suicide.

I'm more educated than most people when it comes to the subject.

You guys keep looking to pills to fix your disorders, though.

Do some people need them? Sure.

Most people that are on them, shouldn't be.

This dude knows. I was in a serious funk for a long, long time. I still am in a way. I did however decide to change as much as I could about myself and get involved with more things so I didn't have as much time to think on my own. I started running a lot and I went back to school. Both things keep me from having too much alone time and it keeps my head straight and focused.

I'm not a pill person. I know far too many people that replaced pills for feelings. I went to shrinks in highschool when I was really acting up but I never liked them. Always felt they were judging rather than helping. I'm more of a "fix it myself" person.

Its good to feel even if its bad things. The trick is to keep yourself busy, for me at least, so the bad things don't overtake you.
 
I've been depressed since I was 5 Op, you'll live after a while you get used to it and won't even know it's there
 
Dude, I suffer from depression, I know what its like.

I'm a naturally depressive person, I guess I got that from my Father.

I was on pills, I did therapy.

I haven't beaten depression, I don't know if its even possible for me, but I've learned to live w/ it.

For every person these drugs help, there's probably 20 that they destroy.

Our minds are more powerful than you think.

It starts w/ you, not a pill, not a therapist.

You just have to be willing to fight it, that's all.
"For every person these drugs help, there's probably 20 that they destroy."

See, you're just making things up now because of your personal experience. What you just wrote is complete BS and I would like to see some research that even remotely backs up what you are saying.

"You just have to be willing to fight it."

Um, you think that people are just not willing to fight it? Like I said, depression IS A MENTAL ILLNESS. If it was as easy as you say, why aren't you cured? Why do you still battle with it? Maybe you were on the wrong pills. Maybe you didn't have the right therapist. Who knows. You keep saying that all you need to do is fight, but then you go on to say that you just have learned to live with it. It seems like you are the one who has given up...

Like I said before. I do think antidepressants are over-prescribed, but not in this situation. OP has thought about suicide. He already stated that he has tried to exercise and it did help, but this time he needs more than that. He even said so. I'm truly sorry that you sorry from depression. I do, too. But telling someone to stop taking meds and stop doing therapy is NOT correct, and I feel obligated to tell him.
 
I've been depressed since I was 5 Op, you'll live after a while you get used to it and won't even know it's there

word
i've been dealing/suffering with it most of my life as well
I thought I was crazy for accepting the idea
I took medz and seeked help as well and nothing worked
I do hope thing get better for you tho op
and I posted to tell you that you can hit me up even if you just need to vent a lil
 
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