Youth sports are cooked. You can't be honest with kids or parents anymore. With that being said cursing at a 5 year old is too much, once they get around 11 that's fair game.
For example, at the school I'm at we have a really solid freshmen class. They won the middle school championship last year and we just had a guard transfer in from Atlanta that can play too. 2 of our freshmen are good enough to practice with the varsity team, they still play JV but practice with varsity.
The issue is we have some freshmen/sophmores and their parents who are disgruntled because their kids got a chance to go a varsity practice or 2 and got demoted because they're not good enough. They can't defend and compete at a varsity level currently and that's not a knock they're just not ready. These parents instead of taking the honest criticism will say you're being abusive, threaten to transfer, and say you're treating their kid unfairly.
Even after you pull up game film of their kid getting beat off the dribble on the JV level, turning the ball over, missing box outs and talking assignments.
You can't tell kids they have to do better anymore. It's all "You're great just how you are" and it makes me sick.
I feel both ways. (nuance is a b,
) I agree with you that it sucks you can't tell people they gotta get better.
I've seen people in high level jobs freaking the f out because they get told they're doing something incorrectly and they just CANNOT handle being told they're wrong.
Like.... what?
In the era I'm from, it was rough. Not like "I'm from the hood I killed 3 people and eat knives for dinner", but like if you don't get the job you don't get it. If you mess something up, you say "my bad" and accept it. At the end of the movie there was a decent chance there was no happy ending. **** just sucked. The earth was blown up (first couple of OG planet of the apes). The main characters were gonna die and the rest of them had been wiped out (The Thing), and so on. Hell, we watched bugs bunny shoot a man to death for coughing during his piano playing
So this fragile generation that freaks TF out when they have to like, HAVE CONTACT WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, annoys me to no end
At the same time, all that rough stuff led us to where we are. Because while a bunch of us adapted and also (critically) got lucky enough to not get **** on so much we folded, a ton of other people got traumatized. And hurt. And wound up on the outside, without friends, without hope.
So a lot of us see that and don't want to revisit that era where most of our music was calling gay kids the F slur. Like even Chuck D in public enemy. Even Poor Righteous Teachers. KRS. Like artists that are 'uplifting' or at least respected.
And I'm sure we're all aware that childhood development is CRITICAL to how you function as an adult. You get scarred in childhood and you're often scarred for life. And it's beyond your control. It's just there.
So I get why parents want to coddle their kids. I wish I had an answer, because my default is still "Oh come TF on, you got scored on 4 times in a row. You went under the screen when I said to go over it. You warned about giving up a 3, then you didn't press up when you saw a guy on the line."
I'm not even a coach but I yell at the guys I play with all the time
And by the same token, take responsibility when you screw up yourself, like "My bad, I should have done A when I did B". I don't personally get where the problem is with operating like that, so I'd be right there in the same predicament you are.
we cussin @ 5 year olds? i get trying to instill resilience & toughness but that coach was wylin’ & seeing as that guy von seemed to be a real demon that coach might have had a problem if he was around
