I hear where you guys are coming from but y'all ain't hearing where I'M coming from...
I'm going to go ahead & assume you guys aren't fathers & even if you are, I'm willing to say with the utmost certainty your kids do not have autism.
I can't sit my son on my lap & tell him, "If _____ EVER does anything to you, you tell me." Why? Because he literally CAN NOT. So I feel the way I handled it was justified due to my situation. I told her gone head & do what you're going to do because it's your life but I feel I did the right thing by forewarning her about the incoming storm (she's hopelessly naive/loyal).
When it concerns your seed, sometimes logic & rational thinking go out the window, b.
She just picked him up right now & it was business as usual. Not one word was uttered between us. I'm proud of myself because the old me would of snapped during something like this... I'm one step closer to self-actualization